Hi all
It will be Mum's birthday this Friday.
I am at a total loss at what to get her as a present. Any ideas for late stages of these diseases?
She will be in the hospice still but we are starting discussions Friday on what needs to be in place for her to be discharged. She has pulled through the latest Uti again.... They still need to sort out her jerks and spasms though. Another debate with professionals.....
Thanks.
Smelly flowers?
Flower scent is so uplifting.
Or those oil sticks which go into a holder with oil to scent the room?
Thanks for the suggestion. We have a room & linen spray which is floral that she loves.
For my father’s birthday in March, my mother told everyone not to get presents, but to make sure they sent cards, so he had lots of cards and messages to show how many people were thinking of him.
Good idea. Did he enjoy them?
I've just seen your post. Much love & strength to you x
Thank you. Yes, he was very touched, though he wasn’t really able to say anything.
If I had a friend with a puppy or kitten, I'd bring it to have a cuddle with her (IF she likes animals 
What about a lovely warm angora shawl to wear around her shoulders?
Hugs XX Anne G.
I will take our dog in, I haven't taken her every day but will on Friday.
Thanks for the suggestion.
Another star to your hospice for letting you take her in. As I typed this predictive text changed in to Gin.😉
A lovely bunch of flowers, it’s so hard when they are unwell knowing what to buy xxxxx
That was my thoughts or some clothes. Xx
Spiral I bought my husband a lovely basket of flowers for our last wedding Anniversary. He looked at me as though I were mad! 😁. So I patiently explained that there was no reason men couldn't have flowers too. At least you won't have that problem with your Mum!
They lasted for a long time because they were inserted into a sponge inside of the basket. I watered them when I went to visit.
Marie x
Lol that made me smile.
Flowers are so uplifting.
Xx
Spiral yes they are. Even more so when they last! It was our Golden Anniversary so I got beautiful flowers in that colour. I still have the basket but maybe time to get rid of it now.
I hope your Mum has a nice Birthday on Friday. Tell her we send our love to her?
Marie x x
Maybe fill the basket with flowers to lift your spirits ?
Yes I will pass on your love x
chocolate
A snuggle from your little dog and a hug from you will be her best present.
I can only think of things like nice smelling hand/foot cream, lip balm, body lotion. Bit of a pamper maybe?
Flowers are beautiful too and there are so many around at the moment.
Glad your mum has got over her UTI and is looking forward to going back home
Hope your Ok xx
Thanks for suggestions. A bit of pamper items is a good idea. X
A CD of loved ones singing her favorite songs?
Crikey I would shatter the windows . Tone deaf lol. Great idea though x
An audio book? There are some great ones out there. Hope she has a lovely day.
I think all of the suggestions are great especially the pamper one
Thinking of you and sending love Jo xxx
When my wife was in the hospice for assessment they gave her a comfort cushion which she cuddled all the time. She came home with it and still clings to it a year later. The idea of a shawl also sounds good. Ladies from one of our churches knit shawls and pray for the person they are knitting for. That stayed round her a very long time and gave her a much peace.
That sounds lovely.
She does have a small soft toy she holds, especially at night.
They have given her a small lavender bag which she is now holding during the day.
Sounds like your hospice is on the same wavelength as ours if so she is in very good hands. Love and prayers. Ken.
How about a memory box with little reminders of things she has done in her life or a collage of family photos in a nice big frame for the wall in her room so she can see the family every day. Wish her a very Happy Birthday XX
Ladyalone
Photo is a good one I've done the same on the wall at the foot of my wife's bed. Photos of her family. Christmas dinner which she prepared, 14 of us round the table. And a photo of us at our silver wedding anniversary both of us looking gorgeous. The carers said 'is that you Ken?' Unbelievably.
Hi Ken I'm with you, you can get lost in a world of memories in a photo. They always make you smile...
Ladyalone
The photo of our wedding anniversary always makes us smile. I had ordered a bunch of 25 roses which were to be delivered, we had an open house party and during the day she received loads of flowers but not mine. Towards the end of the day the doorbell rang and she said, "not more flowers". Of course it was my bunch of red roses.
The photo is of her holding the roses and still brings smiles to our faces especially as we are now well past our golden wedding. KOS
Keep on smiling. Ken.
Yes I have photos up. In bedroom & lounge.
I've left it too late really to make anything for Friday, I'm totally exhausted too.
Maybe take her favourite music in and play that or get a photo of you both blown up for your mum. X
Unfortunately don't have any photos of us together from when she was well. Neither of us like having photo taken . Got a few of us since she moved in with me.
I've left it all too late now!
Music is good though can have a knees up if she feels well enough. She is an Eastender so loves the cockney songs.
Hi Spiralsparkle, lots of ideas have been expressed. I thought a nice perfumed hand lotion or essential oil which you could massage into her hands as you reminisce of happy times together. Love to your mum, hope she has a lovely day. xx
Thank you.
Xxx
Our hospice does hand massage using essential oils I've had one myself, very soothing.
Yes they do here too, very relaxing. I haven't seen any therapist for a few days though.
Brilliant question to ask - some great responses - with my husbands birthday coming up I am now set!!!
Love Tippy
That's great.
I got some big helium balloons yesterday that I took into the hospice last night and they said would put out for her when she woke up this morning. I have a feeling she will end up with a room full of flowers so I haven't gone down the route.
Hope your hubby has a special day.
The balloons are a lovely idea.
Happy birthday to your mum I hope she has a lovely birthday.
xx
Do let us know how the birthday went today!
Anne G.
Have done a separate post x
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