More meet ups?

[Kevin_1]

I've been thinking - despite the fact that Liz always looks worried when she sees me do that. Her eyes seem to say, "oh, not again and please don't do that."

There seems to be an interest in meet ups. I'm thrilled with the one Amanda has organised.

We need to ensure that we are all safe and don't publicly share private information, addresses and contact information.

How about if folk interested in having a 'local' meet up . Post the name of a nearby city, or one they can get to easily... or a region?

That way folk can see if there is anyone else nearby?

So I would post 'Hertfordshire UK'

Those folk near enough could then negotiate a locale and organise a local meet up.

Any good?

Post away below with locations if you have a mind to.

Waiving

Kevin

[Satt2015]

Good plan Batman!! X

[Kevin_1 in reply to Satt2015]

Och! Away with you!

You started all of this.

xx

[Madealer]

North Yorkshire. UK

[Helen119]

Surrey uk

[honjen43]

Rarotonga anyone? Only 4 hours from me and we could have a great time! ?

Hugs

Jen xxx

[NannaB]

Hi Kevin, I know you are about 52 miles from me, according to the site info (find people near me) I’m in touch with several “locals” and we do meet up but I know what you mean about keeping safe. My sons were horrified when I first told them I was meeting someone I had met on the Internet.

West Kent U.K.

XxxX

[Richanne]

I'm up for more meetings. Leicestershire or Northants UK for me.

Rosemary

[Heady]

North Somerset/Bristol area for me.

Lots of love

Anne

[NanBabs]

Wiltshire/Berkshire/Oxfordshire borders for me !

xx

[Kevin_1 in reply to NanBabs]

I can manage Oxfordshire too.

Am I allowed to go to more than one?

xx

[NanBabs]

Without a doubt !!

xx

[Kevin_1 in reply to NanBabs]

Thanks

[bryval]

I could do 40/50 miles from Swindon.

Bryan

[Brenive]

Cardiff for me would be ideal,although I do know swindon area well , saturday would also be a an ideal day too...Brenda

[bryval in reply to Brenive]

Sounds like 4/5 of us could do Bristol area. If we meet up on the 6th maybe we could arrange something.

Bryan

[claredavieswales in reply to Brenive]

Cardiff would be ideal for me too. Bristol ok too.

[Nanny857]

Anyone in Northern Ireland?

[DeDeDickson]

How about Augusta GA USA??

[Marie_14]

Does anyone live near Chester?

Marie x

[johns65]

Anyone one from the great state of Minnesota in the United States???

[Pjgil]

We are in Bridgend just outside Cardiff so pretty much anywhere along the m4 corridor. Weekend is best for me due to work but if given enough notice will book the day off to bring along my beautiful golden oldies

Pj

[Yvonneandgeorge]

Hertfordshire, Bishops Stortford xxx

[Robmatlol]

Epsom surrey

[Robmatlol]

Brilliant idea Kevin. I heard that you’re not just a pretty face 😉

[Baileyboo]

Hi Kevin, I like the idea of us all staying safe. I live near Newcastle upon Tyne and would love to meet others who have walked the same route as Les and I did.

I will never stop missing him or remembering the evil, vile journey we had. It would be great to help somebody, just through conversation and explaining our journey. Of course there are some parts of the journey, in the beginning that we laughed at. That seems years ago but just talking has to be good.

Love and hugs

Pat

[Kevin_1 in reply to Baileyboo]

Hi Pat

Yes, PSP leaves deep marks on our inner world of heart and mind.

I hope you have made some steps toward healing and that Les is still close to you in your heart.

This is an old thread and your post will not be seen by very many here.

Have you considered starting a fresh thread?

I'm sure you have a lot to offer.... Maybe even start a local PSP support group? PSP Assoc. would help you with that.

Good to see you around.

Love an d Hugs

Kevin

xxx

[Baileyboo]

Kevin if I could help one person I will be happy. That doesn't sound right but you will know what I mean.

Les is never far from my thoughts and is only a whisper away. I will always carry him in my heart and love him so much.

I was shocked when my hairdresser said I should get out more and meet someone. I only lost Les 14 months ago. I have no intention of looking for anybody after spending 41.1/2 years married to my perfect man. I know I was very lucky . It wasn't all plain sailing as we were both stubborn but looking back I wouldn't change it for the world.

This coping game is no fun.

Love and hugs

Pat xx

[Kevin_1 in reply to Baileyboo]

Hi Pat

No fun at all!

I am so pleased that Les is still that close too you. Wonderful.

14 months is not so long... The books say expect two years, but we are all different. My last love took me ten years before I would even look at anyone.

I think you could help a lot of us folk here, but maybe this is not your thing.

PSP Assoc. is currently looking for volunteers.

I think you would have a lot to offer.

It is soo good to have loved so deeply... I think the extra pain from the loss is worth it.

Love and hugs

Kevin

xx

[Baileyboo in reply to Kevin_1]

Hi Kevin

If I could help just 1 person I would be incredibly happy. Not that I like the situation I am in. None of us do and that is why this forum is so important and vital to anyone needing support, guidance and love. Even a funny story occasionally.

I feel as tough, it is going to take me some time to be able to cope without Les. The hardest of all is the "what ifs". I suffer with this more than anything. I ask myself what if we had the diagnosis sooner. Then the reality kicks in. We are fighting a losing battle, one we can't control no matter what.

I don't know what is required of a volunteer or if I have the knowledge to be one.

Les is never far from my side even though I can't see him. Sometimes I hear footsteps in our bedroom when I am downstairs. I hope it is Les.

Love and hugs

Pat xx

[Kevin_1 in reply to Baileyboo]

Hi Baileyboo

Yes all of those 'what if' doubts and hearing our loved one on the stair is hard wired into us all.

I comes from the limbic system, a part of the brain we had before we developed our cortex, rational brain. The limbic system is not open to reason.

Before we had a reasoning cortex it would be the limbic system prompting to go and find the lost one. It does not differentiate between dead and missing and it whacks us with a lot of guilt to drive us to seek too.

All this fades in time, it is the grieving process.

Love will persist though.

I hope this is not too much information.

It will pass.

Warmly

Kevin

[Baileyboo in reply to Kevin_1]

Hi Kevin

The information is interesting but sadly I don't quite understand. It makes sense but goes over my head.

Love and hugs

Pat xx

[Kevin_1 in reply to Baileyboo]

Sorry Pat

TMI

My heart goes out to you.

Warmly

Kevin

xx