We held Dad’s Funeral this Tuesday 19th December 2017, he had died on the 4th and he was 84.
Dad had been suffering badly the last few weeks, speech almost nonexistent and hardly able to swallow food, drink or medicines or walk unaided.
He died peacefully after seeing all his close relatives in his last 24 hours.
We organised the funeral and the wake along non-religious lines as he had never expressed any religious beliefs to us beforehand.
We chose a beautiful wicker coffin covered in fresh orchids and exotic flowers. We took comfort in placing many photos of all his relatives inside together with a few small items which held significance to us.
His one surviving brother and his son helped my brother and husband and his two grandsons to carry the coffin into the packed Crematorium chapel where brass band music filled the air (dad loved brass bands and we had Dvorak’s new world symphony to walk in to.) A civil celebrant had composed an amazing eulogy after spending a few hours with the family, prompting us and then sitting back and listening as we chattered away about dad. We heard Elgar’s ‘Nimrod’ for the reflection music and Rodrigo’s Concierto de Aranjuez to exit the Chapel. The celebrant had made us laugh and cry in equal measure with his moving tribute to my dad recounting a lifetime of stories. We emerged from the chapel in the dark and afterward met with the extended family at a wake in memory of dad. Everyone had found the service cathartic after the trauma of PSP and it was unique, just like dad.
We all miss him terribly but wouldn’t have wanted him to suffer for a moment longer.
Dad is now finally at peace and so are we, we have all done our best and this marvellous unusual Funeral was our parting gift to him and his memory. Now as a family we will move onwards into the future with our children, grandchildren and dad’s greatgrandson. JR61 x