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Thank you to everyone for your kind messages over the past few months and especially the last couple of days. Dad died tonight at 10.30 p.m. He spent the day peacefully in bed in his nursing home where the staff have supported both him and us and a constant flow of family, who came to spend time with him during what came to be his final hours. My brother and sister-in-law and I were left alone with him and he very quietly and suddenly stopped breathing, as simple as that. He had seen his great grandson, two granddaughters, two grandsons, their partners, his niece, her husband and sister-in-law, son and his wife, me, his daughter and my husband. The home staff were so accommodating and accepting as our unplanned goodbye evolved with us all crammed into his bedroom sitting all around him even on the floor by his bed. Talking around him reminiscing, hoping he could hear us. Now we sit keeping a vigil for a much adored Dad, Grandad and Great Grandad who never hurt a fly and gave us warm memories of his sometimes eccentric ways. We all love you Dad and we are his greatest achievement, a happy family JR61 x

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Sorry to hear of your loss,but happy to hear your Dad had a peaceful passing.

Take care

Dee

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Thank you very much, I feel a strange contentment as I know I did my utmost for my dad and hope that everyone who is facing this inevitability finds peace x

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Thank you Jill, all the best JR61 x

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raincitygirl

So sorry that it came so soon JR. I hope your whole family will find peace. That's a lovely picture you posted.

Hugs to you all.

Anne

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JR61 in reply to raincitygirl

Thank you raincitygirl. Dad was loved by everyone in trouble, he helped friends, family and neighbours alike, his ability to fix stuff was legendary. ( as you can no doubt see from the photograph!) As his nephews said when something was broken, ‘take it to Uncle Brian, he can fix anything’. Please don’t be sad, I am contented to have fulfilled his wishes and that his suffering is at an end. He’s had a very fulfilled life and I believe he had a small but positive impact on the world both as a teacher and a man. I hope that everyone who is, unhappily, experiencing the same journey can come to feel acceptance and that a cure for this dreadful disease is found very soon JR61

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Zeberdee

A lovely photograph of your dad looking very happy and contented. My condolences to you and your family. Jxx

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JR61 in reply to Zeberdee

Many thanks Zeberdee. JR61 x

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doglington

Sorry for the loss of your dad but glad it was such a warming reinforcement of his value to his family. He looks lovely.

He had a good life and a peaceful end, thank goodness.

Love from Jean xx

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JR61 in reply to doglington

Many thanks Jean for your kind words JR61 x

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Satt2015

Bless your dear Dad, now free of Psp. My sincerest condolences to you and your family x

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Many thanks Satt2015 JR61 x

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Marie_14

What a lovely photograph of someone who was much loved by all. I am pleased your Dad had a peaceful death with family at hand. Nobody can ask for more. God bless him and may he rest in peace. He has certainly earned that.

Lots of hugs to you and your family.

Marie x

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JR61 in reply to Marie_14

Thank you Marie_14. In the end he had what he wanted, no medical interventions, he went as nature intended, surrounded by everyone he loved and who loved him in return. JR61 x

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catherine_h

What a lovely photo, relaxed and smiling as hopefully he now again. Sorry to hear of your dad's passing, you will no doubt have sad times but being able to take that you did all you could will no doubt give you strength and proud,as your dad would be. To be surrounded by some many loved ones at the end is the best sign of a life well lived xx

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JR61 in reply to catherine_h

Thank you so much for your kind words catherine_h. It was a very natural and what I would imagine comforting end, one moment being part of it all and the next simply not. No drama. It was dad to a T. JR61 x

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Yvonneandgeorge

So sorry for your loss, so lovely you could all be around him, may he rest in peace away from psp xxxxx

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JR61 in reply to Yvonneandgeorge

Thank you Yvonneandgeorge it was lovely in a way, totally unplanned, everyone just appeared it was very spontaneous, just people coming and going paying him a visit, just as they had always done, even laughter and jokes and the ‘do you remember’ type of chat. I do hope he heard us and was comforted by life continuing all around him. JR61 x

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AngelineAmy

Sorry for your loss.

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JR61 in reply to AngelineAmy

Thank you very much AngelineAmy. JR61 x

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catherine_h

Forgot to say how young he looked for his 80 years. It's sad to think what PSP does to our loved ones. Wishing you peace for the next while xx

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Heady

So sorry to see that your Dad has died. May he rest in peace, Finally free from this evil disease.

Lots of love

Anne

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JR61 in reply to Heady

Many thanks Anne JR61 x

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Ratcliffe

So sorry to hear your news JR61, but it sounds as though he managed to depart in a very dignified manner. No pain, lots of family, it is the best ending PSP offers, so he did well.

Take time to grieve and remember the memories, and we are all thinking of you right now on here.

Hugs,

Derek

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JR61 in reply to Ratcliffe

Thank you Derek, he was extremely fortunate at the very end and I was so glad for him, he had suffered enough JR61 x

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Spiralsparkle

Sorry that your Dad had to leave you but happy for his soul to be set free from his illness. It sounds such a peaceful passing and full of love.

Hugs

X

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Thank you Spiralsparkle JR61 x

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aliciamq

Peace be to your family🥀

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Many thanks aliciamq JR61x

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sarahb01

Blessings to you and your family during this heartbreaking time! Thankful your Father is free!!

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Thank you sarahb01 JR61 x

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Sarah1972

I'm so pleased that you were all there for your Dad he would be so proud of you all and couldn't have asked for a better goodbye. Well done to you and your family for making his last moments so positive and special. You have inspired me. Love to you all

Sarah xx

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JR61 in reply to Sarah1972

Thank you Sarah1972 although my dads illness way fairly short I have found help when I needed it on this site and I hope that by sharing our experiences it will help others JR61 x

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georgeg25

So sorry to hear your Dad has gone. He will live on in your heart. Sincere condolences. PSP sucks.

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JR61 in reply to georgeg25

Yes georgeg25, I agree totally (I have called it far worse!) many thanks for your condolences JR61 x

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honjen43

So sorry for your loss, JR61. May he rest in peace. He looks such a calm and relaxed man in your photo. Love the birthday cake shape and the legs sticking out!

May you have many memories of him when he was himself, without his illness.

Hugs

Jen xxx

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JR61 in reply to honjen43

Thanks Jen, yes he was always calm, no stress just knuckled down and fixed whatever had gone wrong, he was the 'go to man' as his nephews said and the cake was a cheeky reference to the many, many times he rescued all our washing machines and saved our sanity. It was a good day that, he laughed his head off when he saw it! Memories like that will help us through. Hugs to you too JR61 x

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sasmock

I'm so glad your dad had such a peaceful passing, surrounded by love. I've been looking out for your post, and I'm relieved for you, but I'm still crying buckets! I hope it's the same for my dad, and very soon x

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Thank you sasmock, I hope your dad does too. I was very wary of putting my first post up months ago but I was desperate for answers, then I soon realised that the comfort I got I could in turn perhaps help others in the same situation. So ask away and we will all do our best to support you. The best thing is being there because in the end that's all you can do with PSP. Dad had to go into a nursing home two months before he died and had already spent a month in hospital prior to that. He had said he would go for respite as long as he could come home. That wasn't viable in the end, so we went to him instead, all of us, all the time! Thinking of you and your dad and all our dads, mums and other loved ones JR61x

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9923593

Sorry to hear about the loss of ur father.

It was good to read that all the immediate family members were there with him duting his last moment.

He is free from all the evil and illness.God will take god care of him .

May his soul rest in peace.

Amen.

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JR61 in reply to 9923593

Thank you for your very kind words, it’s so comforting to know that he has touched more people than he will ever know JR61 x

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bgentges

Sorry for you loss, glad to hear it was a peaceful passing. Your father sounded like a wonderful man who was very much loved.

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JR61 in reply to bgentges

Thank very much indeed for your kind words JR61 x

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Katiebow

A very special time for all of you as you supported your dear Dad as he left this world. You will remember it with both sadness and fondness knowing that he died a very peaceful and dignified death, something we all wish for at the end of our life.

Sending much love to all of you

Kate xxx

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JR61 in reply to Katiebow

Thank you very much for your kind words Katiebow JR61 x

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daddyt

So very sorry for your loss x

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JR61 in reply to daddyt

Thank you daddyt take care of yourself JR61 x

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easterncedar

He looks a lovely man. I'm glad for you all that his ending was peaceful and so full of love. Well done. Ec

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JR61 in reply to easterncedar

Thank you EC We did our best for him JR61 x

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Duffers

A lovely photo. So sad for your loss.

Marie

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JR61 in reply to Duffers

Many thanks for your kind thoughts Marie. JR61x

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JB569

Sending love and prayers xxx

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JR61 in reply to JB569

Many thanks for your kind words JB569. JR61 x

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