So sad

My husbsnd of 52 years is struggling with this awful illness bis eyesight is very poor, his voice is fading his swallowing is poor and he has stopped eating. He is in a nursing home. I feel as though Im losing him bit by bit. The tears are never far away but trying to be strong for him, but its killing me. You feel so helpless.

[Patriciapmr]

My husband is also in a nursing home now, he's been there for 3 months. I understand what you are going through its heartbreaking to watch the deterioration and not being able to make things better. That along with the guilt that you can't help but feel is devastating and I also am always crying.

All I can do is send you a big hug and hope you can continue with the strength to help him through this....

Thinking of you....Pat xx

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Thanks Pat its good to know your not alone. Hugd back xx

[Heady]

Sending big hug and much love.

Lots of love

Heady

[abirke]

Madamx, it sounds like friends such as Patriciamr know your fears and guilt and hopelessness. Several here have gone through what you are going through. Please feel free to let off steam , ask questions, make observations give answers....This site is wonderful for all of that, I wnat for you to know that you are doing the best you can for him. If you did not care, you would not be on this site. So I just want to reassure you that your husband needs to be safe and comfortable. His present residence gives him just that; and if you will accept it, gives you the same thing as well.. Now you can get some rest, find a book to read your loved one, or as with my husband give him a cd machine where he can listen to books that would interest him. You know the things he likes; bring it into his new abode and see if things get a little more settled. Good luck and God bless you.

AVB

Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the Lord.......Psalm 31:24

I can do all things through Christ who strengtheneth me. Philippians 4:13

[DoreenC]

My mum is in nursing home too and it's breaking our hearts. Never dreamt our lovely mums life would end this way. Lots of love to you both xx

[Cuttercat]

My husband is still at home and I'm trying hard to keep him here. I'm so sad all the time and cry all the time. Please know we all understand and know your pain. Sending kind thoughts and prayers to you.

Cuttercat