Morning everyone. Sorry it's a bit early to be ranting but SO need to let off steam but also genuinely would appreciate your honest opinions. So last night my parents informed me they are going on a cruise to Antartica in 2016!! I was so taken aback they rendered me speechless.
Antartica, honestly?? When I asked how this had come about they mentioned a name of someone they know (who I have never heard of) who has asked them to join them as there is a group of 6 going. My sister has also never heard of this name.
I have spent all night tossing and turning between getting very angry with them versus thinking who am I to squash their dreams? Dad's decline in the last 12 months has been rapid, particularly cognitively. Incontinence has started , regular choking (I got showered with coffee sitting opposite Dad yesterday as he choked bless him), eyes closing (Botox treatment becoming less effective) and 2 falls to date. My parents absolutely refuse to even utter the letters PSP. They are in complete denial. I am in charge of their financial admin and arranging all health visits, my sister does the daily popping in to see them as I don't live local to them. Dad's fragility so upsets me and yet I know he 'd love Antartica. But how do you support your parents to live out their dreams when you can't even get them to talk about needing carers in the future? It took me 9 months of nagging to get my Dad to go to the neuro rehab clinic at their local hospital as both mum and dad didn't think it would help!! There will have been no talk of how Dad could handle it, what support they would need because they think they are fine as they are! And also I hate to think how much this will cost? So many questions in my head but I can't talk to the people I need to most - my parents. Any advice greatly welcomed . Love to you all Nicky x