Hi all, I don't know if anyone can help with this as each case is so different, and every family situation different as well. Dad (79)has PSP, diagnosed last summer. He is currently still very mobile (touch wood), but balance is an issue on transfers and steps. Word finding is becoming an obvious issue and he would need assistance with things like the tablets, organising himself etc. Mum (78) is his carer. Myself (only child) and my husband live an hour away but are currently looking at houses in the town Mum and Dad live in.
Another option we have is to extend onto my parents home (whilst also doing the adaptions that are needed for Dad in the future), and live with them. For this to be an option, we would need to create our own space so we are not living in each others pockets. We've explained to them that we would be doing this to help them, and if it is not something they want to let us know. They have said it is something they would like, I think Mum would like the company as well as the help, and I think she would like herself and Dad to have something new to look forward to amongst all the PSP "stuff". However, in order to achieve the remodel of the home, the architect has advised that they would probably have to move out of their home for 4-6 months.
Mum is now excited about the prospect of it but I'm fearful of what a temporary move to unfamiliar environment for those months might do for Dad? If it were this starting this week I feel it would be ok, but it might be another few months until we are at the moving out point, and we don't know how Dad will be by then. If something were to happen, would we/I feel guilty for making him move out? So hard to make a decision on an unknown. I can picture the end product helping them, but just not sure if it is worth all that has to change in the meantime?