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Hello. The issues listed in the title keep appearing in posts and I have been wanting to respond/comment for awhile. These are my experiences and I hope sharing them might raise some thought or in-site that would be helpful.

1 Top Man Sex. Over 30 years ago when I was diagnosed with HIV I was panicked about infecting others - determined NOT to do what had happened to me. So I got creative - as did a lot of other men. Of course the " go to " was condoms but there were also other " toys in the chest " especially dildos of various shapes and sizes - and my fingers and fists - and the bottom boys were lining up. Many years of very rewarding sex without doing penetration.

Also, as we learned more about how it was transmitted - cock sucking was once again " safer " especially with low viral loads. So for me - and others - demanding " suck my cock - boi or pig or bitch " was often the great prelude to them hopping in the sling. And after they got what they wanted or needed they were usually very willing to show their gratitude by finishing me off.

Because of the nature of what we were doing there was always the issue of " messiness " lube - cum - whatever. I have had a play room/area for many years but sometimes the activity needed to move to the bedroom so I put together a set of fuck sheets and before I put them on the bed I put on a plastic or vinyl mattress cover. The we could be as messy as we wanted with no disasters with ass juice - or lube - or cum or urine. which brings me to that subject.

Urine. As far as I know- urine is sterile. As far as I am concerned, it is hot fluid coming out of a man's cock. We worship cum - but have a horror of " PEE ". Really men - I don't get the revulsion. Spent years pissing on or in guys. There are lots of men out there who get it - and want it - or at least are not scared or repulsed but it. A buddy ( with pc ) told me about his climacturia and how embarrassed he was by it. He has been with his partner for 14 years - and they have been married for a while now. They are also " leather men " sometimes. I asked him if he had discussed this with his partner/husband - as in what does he think about the climacturia or if his partner had acted repulsed at the event. He told me that no they did not discuss it - nor did the partner react in a negative manner when it did happen. I do not get that there was not a discussion - I don't get the embarrassment.

I will add that I do not piss IN men since I am on Lupron because I understand that traces of the drug are in the urine - and unless you eed ADT to stay alive - no one needs that in their life.

Other Urine events: After I started on the Lupron ( ADT ) of course my hard-on and cum disappeared. However, I found 2 things happening.

1 A man with a hot talented mouth - could really do a job on my limp dick. When It is soft they can get a lot more deep in their throat. Orgasms ( dry ) were mind blowing. It is my theory that all the nerve ending are still there - just a lot closer together because of no erection.

2 The other thing I found is that after a period of stimulation - even with no orgasm - that if I take a healthy piss - it feels like I am having an orgasm as the liquid passes through - it's like cumming a lot - more than I ever had - even when I was young and could shoot it over my head.

so those are my experiences thoughts. Would be glad to hear any reactions/responses

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Vitruviusman profile image
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I'm glad you're having some type of sex. I had my operation in 2010 and I have not had sex since.everytime guys find out I have Ed they drop me like a hot potato , no matter how good I keep myself in shape at the gym. I've come to the conclusion that it's just never going to happen for me anymore quite sadly

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Guy_Johnson in reply toVitruviusman

Hi Vitruviusman, Pills do not work for my ED, at all. I recently decided to ask my urologist to write me a Trimix prescription. I was very happy to grasp my cock with a full erection.

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Vitruviusman in reply toGuy_Johnson

I am very glad of your positive experience. Are you single?

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Guy_Johnson in reply toVitruviusman

I am newly single.

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Vitruviusman in reply toGuy_Johnson

I had my surgery in 2010. I have not had sex or had been with a man since then. It's gone on 7 years since I had any kind of sex at all. I keep myself in good shape going to the gym three times a week. I'm 5 foot 8, 145 lbs, 30 inch waist, 41 in chest blue eyes Sandy hair, hiv-negative, nonsmoker. Still when guys learned that I have erectile dysfunction, they drop me like a hot potato.. I am single and lonely as the years fly by I wonder will it ever happen to me again. I'd like to get to know you you sound like a nice guy. Here is my email mineo.keith@gmail.com

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spencoid2 in reply toVitruviusman

If I weren't married, I'd be interested. I can't believe there isn't someone who would appreciate what you can offer. You might need to get more creative. My dick is not reliable and there is certainly no cum but we still manage to have fun with toys and especially my machine.

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Vitruviusman in reply tospencoid2

it seems most on here are in relationships and/or have found someone, having sex and a relationship. I am deeply saddened that I am not amongs them, no prospects, and no male intimacy/sex in over 7 years now.

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Handdrummer777 in reply toVitruviusman

In my humble opinion, if you went ahead and got an implant, that would give you a far better chance at finding a partner.

That's just the cold hard reality. The overwhelming majority of men fitted with an implant are very happy with it, and the effect on libido that it can have. Upward spiral!

Get the implant, or most likely this will be continue to be the unacceptable new normal.

Please get it. You will be grateful.

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pjd55d in reply toVitruviusman

You used an important word - INTIMACY

yes - the pulsing passion and orgasm are wonderful - but for me the most painful was the lack of intimacy. When I told my " relationship " - we really didn't have a title or a name but it was a 25 year relationship - he held me in his arms all night whispering " my sweet Babbo " ( Daddy in Italian ) and for many nights after and I thought - I can get through this - I am safe. The he went away - ghosted - what a shock. Yes I missed the sex but it was the intimacy which had manifested itself in so many ways - not just in bed or the playroom. I still don't believe it happened - 2 years ago. Broken heart which left damage

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How I survived: counseling , friendship, and a friend who has become my regular affection man - once or twice a week I get to hold or be held by that big furry man - no sex - but definitely love from him - so healing.

My compassion to you - I know what you are going through.

Suggestion - good Oncology counselor - some cancer centers offer it free to clients and maybe take a look at how your real needs may be different from what they used to be. This is a life changing illness in so many ways.

Hang in there - tell your friends what you are looking for - need - ya never know.

sending a cyber hug

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Vitruviusman in reply topjd55d

Thank you for your compassionate words

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spencoid2 in reply topjd55d

the big furry man sounds great. i have a big furry Poodle who is also a great cuddler. she seems to know when i really need it. they only girl i sleep with.

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pjd55d in reply tospencoid2

I told my big furry man about what I was writing and some of the comments here and that I was lucky - and he said " I'm lucky too " SOB made me cry

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spencoid2 in reply toVitruviusman

do you like married men? we are in CA we can help :)

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Vitruviusman in reply tospencoid2

I am always blessed to meet new and interesting men

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spencoid2 in reply toVitruviusman

where do you live?

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Vitruviusman in reply tospencoid2

Not far from Palm springs, AZ and CA border. Where do you live? Tell me about you

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pjd55d in reply toGuy_Johnson

DUDE !!!!

great name - especially on this topic

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Limpbiscuitpimp in reply topjd55d

Thanks. I'm glad I wasn't named Richard though.

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