I happened upon this site trying to find some resources for my husband. He is two years post robotic surgery, almost a year post-radiation, and about as long since his last lupron injection. This disease SUCKS! My husband is suffering terribly. His treatment has left him unable to get an erection. He went through every treatment available, and nothing worked. He has too much nerve damage. His last option is a penile implant, which he is pretty sure he wants to do.
He is in a deep depression, that I just can't seem to pull him out of. I love him with all my heart, and I couldn't care less about his ability to perform. I am post menapausal, and sex really isn't a thought that occupies my time all that much. However, I am quite aware, that it isn't about me....it's about him. He was diagnosed at a relatively young age....47. I am very satisfied with intimacy....the closeness and love....I have done all that I can to assure him and let him know that I love him....no matter what. He has a disease for crap sake. It isn't his fault. While sex is important to most men, it was something that was VERY important to him. I guess everyone has their level of sexuality, and his was very high. This has broken him. I don't know how to help him. I am trying to give him his space, but the void between us is getting large. He has shut me out. I so need a man's perspective on this. I am asking for some sound advice.