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GreatMindfulness

Individuality is a non-egotistic phenomenon; it is pure am-ness, there’s no “I” in it. Only the individual can rise to the peak of consciousness and awareness. The more you belong to the crowd, the more you adopt a personality that is dangerous to your spiritual growth. Society tries to make you a person, never an individual. A person is one who has a personality. A personality is a mask and society teaches you how to sit, how to stand, how to behave, how to act in certain situations. In every possible way, the society is preparing you so that you can fit into its mold. Personality is nothing but “I”; it is aggressive, violent, dominating, political. You are identified with it so much you think you are it but you are not it. Who you are, you are not aware.. Society has a pattern, a model on you. It contains all artificial things for you to make you to what is suitable to society. Every society creates its own kind of its personality because it has its own structure and you follow like it is your true nature. Empty yourself, empty all contents, all junk gathered all your life so you can be an individual because individuality is silent, loving, and compassionate. If you are emptying yourself you will become more and more blissful, you will make room available to your existence and it is joyful, blissful to celebrate your own core of being each moment. You will transform the smallest thing into celebration without analyzing it. Your existence is unique so do not destroy that gift from existence. Individuality gives you mastery; it makes you very liberated, grounded, rooted. It gives you substance that you are no longer living in dreams. It gives you solitude, clarity, transparency and vision. Your awareness will be heightened with the beauty of existence that you are more susceptible to all beauty around you, inside you.

Society always gives you an identity; it starts making you, manufacturing you to its own needs so it has all power to either create or destroy you. The whole purpose is how to make the individual exist for the society so you go on conforming yourselves for acceptance, validation and praises like an obedient child. All it’s vested interests are there: it’s culture, civilization, its way of living, its system of beliefs. And to make the individual function as a cog in the wheel that you are conditioned by education, scriptures, institutions the moment you are born. It kills the individuality, the freedom, the intelligence, and any possibility of revolt. Unlearning yourselves in order to return to the source, your own existence, your spiritual growth. The real danger from spiritual growth is from things which are dramatically opposite but look very alike. The real problem doesn’t arise from things which are apparently opposite, it arises with things which are not so apparently opposite, yet they are opposite. The real opposite of hate is not love, the real opposite of love is not hate; it is so apparent, who can be deceived by it? The real opposite of love is pseudo-love, love that pretends to be love, and it is not. The real opposite of compassion is not anger, it is the cultivated compassion, the kind of compassion that is not within you but it is only character, compassion that you have painted on your circumference. Always remember, the false is the enemy of the true. If your smile is true, your tear is true then they are your friends. They will help each other because they will both strengthen the truth of your being. If your tear is false, your smile is false then they will strengthen your falsity, your personality, your mask. You have to be watchful about that real opposite.

Society hates individuals. Society wants you to mix with the crowd, to fit with the crowd. Stop being yourself; just be a carbon copy of the ideal that the society has determined is how a person should be. It has not asked you how would you like to be; the ideals are determined by others. You simply are a victim. Every individual in this world is a victim of the crowd; therefore, an individual is bound to be a rebel. An individual is a nonconformist. He can only say yes to things which he feels are worth saying yes or no; it depends on his own feeling, his intuitive understanding, his own intelligence. He cannot be forced to yield. He can surrender out of love but he can’t be forced to surrender. He cannot be an obedient slave, not that he doesn’t know how to obey. When he feels for something, involved with something, he obeys totally in his inner light, in his deep inner consciousness. So drop all facets of those so-called personalities and do whichever appeals to your heart, your inner lights, your existence. Free yourselves, spread your wings and fly as high as you can reach your own freedom. ❤️

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This would result in no one living together and only the strongest individuals surviving. Give me civilisation any day thank you. I'm not sure how blissful you could be when you are cold and hungry and know you won't live that long. A lot of pseudo babble!

Very well written. Would be never thot of it like that. New perspective on.this.

Thank you 😊🙏 No oppression. No repression. Stand up for your own rights. Remember always be you and do whatsoever your heart desires. ❤️

Well if everyone did what their heart desires I doubt there would anyone to work in shops, care homes, bus drivers, cleaners, dustmen etc. Who would do those jobs?

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MadBunny in reply to hypercat54

And it would lead to a rise in crime too- help yourself to what you want, do what you want, follow your hearts desires.

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BazzakReading Rabbits in reply to MadBunny

Thank you 😊🙏 No oppression. No repression. Stand up for your own rights. Remember always be you and do whatsoever your heart desires.

That's why looting is so popular in America Maria 😁😘

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MadBunny in reply to Bazzak

😁😘

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BTCCET in reply to MadBunny

And pilking and baiting? 😂

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MadBunny in reply to BTCCET

No that's exclusive to us😊🐰

Yes it's great to be open to new perspectives isnt it? Youre free to think what you want❤. How are you my friend?

I'm doing ok. All the matters is I'm still moving around. Thank you for asking.

Meditation Gb2☝️🧘🏻‍♀️🕉🙏❤️

Good you are moving around👍. Feel better soon🙏

Thanks bro.

Extremely important post about why you should always be yourself and resist outside forces who try to shape you into being what they want you to be. ❤❤🙏 Thank you for posting!

Thank you 😊🙏 “Conscience is always created by others. It is a manipulation, it is a subtle slavery. Consciousness is created by YOU. It is your own effort to stand on your own two feet, to look at life and to gather enough courage to live according to your light.”-Osho❤️

We should never sacrifice our individuality for anything. It's what makes life worth living. It is our freedom❤

We are truth seekers. We are not conditioned by the whole beliefs system. Let’s not let society kill our individuality, our freedom, our intelligence. 🤗🙏❤️

Yes always a truth seeker🙏❤🤗

'Conscience is always created by others.' Rubbish.

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Imnotright in reply to Marnie22

In my life my conscience has been created by others. It like a chick that hasn't been born yet. The shell keeps you from expanding. Either somebody breaks the shell or you free yourself from it.

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Marnie22 in reply to Imnotright

A person's conscience comes from many things, but it can also come from within. I don't need someone influencing me to have a conscience. I can tell that certain things are not good without being taught it.

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Imnotright in reply to Marnie22

You must've not have been a bad person then. Think about the ones who are peer pressured into going things that aren't right. I have visited men that have been in prison. They didnt have any consciences when they were out about doing their thing until they were imprisoned. Some rehabilitated to the good because of someone else others did not.

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Marnie22 in reply to Imnotright

It's not about being a bad or good person. Perhaps a deeper knowledge of human psychology might be helpful if you want to understand more about this subject. It's very complex, but interesting stuff.

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BazzakReading Rabbits in reply to Marnie22

Exactly Marnie, so you don't need anyone to tell you how you feel because you know. Don't take comments on here to heart, you are a lovely caring lady and we all know that. 🤗😘

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Marnie22 in reply to Bazzak

Thank you. 😊🌸

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Imnotright in reply to Marnie22

Even scientist are still studying conscience. So it will probably be deeper than anyone will ever know. I'm not knocking you but we don't know how the others are dealing unless we walk in their shoes.

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Marnie22 in reply to Imnotright

I agree. So maybe we just give our views rather than assert that we know the absolute truth about stuff.

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Imnotright in reply to Marnie22

I believe there's an old saying " no two people are alike".

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MadBunny in reply to Bazzak

Bless you.I agree. I'm getting sick of all this now. Its all taking a rather unpleasant turn and is a massive departure from the original purpose of the forum.

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13ga in reply to Marnie22

ok - marnie - on this point i have to agree with you.

studies have shown that evolution has pre-programmed us at birth with some conscience.

this makes sense - because helping one another helps the community; and therefore there's an evolutionary advantage.

however - after emergence from the womb - the development and/or destruction of that conscience, is dependent on others.

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13ga in reply to Marnie22

marnie -

i'm curious....

you say rubbish...

can you explain? why do you think that statement is rubbish?

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MadBunny in reply to 13ga

She already has!!!! I wish people would leave Marnie alone.

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13ga in reply to MadBunny

hi MB;

there's over 200 replies here; and i'm working my way thru...

so i apologize if she answered that and i haven't seen it yet...

you say "you wish people would leave Marnie22 alone"....

that gives me the impression that you think i'm picking on marnie... which i'm not. she made a statement "that's rubbish"; but provided no support as to why she thought the statement was rubbish.

i didn't disagree with her - i only wished to know why she thought that.

in fact - in a reply i made to marnie after that one - i agreed with her!!

.

i get the feeling that you're upset with me for "jumping" on marnie - when so far... i'm completely impartial. i don't know enough about her statement to even form an opinion.

so at this juncture - i'm confused by your reply - because pending marnie's answer - i may yet be in support of her opinion.

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maybe you know something i have yet to read...

maybe i shouldn't post a single reply until i've read 200 others... but that's not practical... so i'm posting as i go... if there's an answer to my question - marnie need only ignore my reply or refer me to her answer.

what's not clear to me - is why it seems you've jumped in to defend her, when i've not attacked her... ???

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MadBunny in reply to 13ga

You seem to have misread what I was saying. I was not accusing you of picking on Marnie . Nor was I accusing you of attacking her. I was speaking generally. And I was simply stating that she had already answered your question.

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13ga in reply to MadBunny

ah; ok... apparently just a miscommunication...

i'm still parsing all the replies... i look forward to seeing marnie's answer!

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MadBunny in reply to 13ga

Easily done with written communication.

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This is very interesting GreatMindfulness as its thought provoking and detachment from our ego ands egocentric lifestyles.

One of my favourite buddhist sayings is "Happiness is unhappiness" meaning things that make us happy materialistically will eventually makes us unhappy...🙃

Thank you Jerry for your wisdom 😊🙏I love this story when people come to Buddha for advice. Woman: I want happiness.

Buddha: “First remove ‘I’- that’s ego. Then remove ‘want’- that’s the desire. See- now you are left only with ‘happiness”.

Have a beautiful rest of the day Jerry! 🤗🙏🌈

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Hidden in reply to GreatMindfulness

That’s so beautiful.

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GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

You’re a beautiful person.🤗 I’m glad you still stay in our community. Have a beautiful day!❤️❤️❤️☀️🌻🌹🌈xxx

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Big hug 🤗.

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GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Hugs galore 🤗🙏xxx

So using this model could you say that a narcissist isnt really indivdual becuase they are bassicaly just silly putty to what other people think of them (or whatever they think will make them liked/hated/popular)? In other words, the common conception of the indivdual as the loud iconoclast misses the point of how this caricature is a slave to what others demand that they be (like most social media celebrities).

As a side note, I don't think society actually loves or hates anything, I think it's just a performance of love or hate. I think it's more of a cynical usage of the idea of of a feeling rather than the feeling itself. Like any cynic society is very wishy washy and incconsistant about what it does or doesnt like, it like somethings when it's convenient and dislikes other things when it's not.

Anyway, loved your post! Lots of interesting stuff to unpack there.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom with me Reading_Rando 😊🙏 There’s always a fine line between love and hate. The awareness is we need to be watchful how that line can cross not according to our own existence. We are aware how our subconscious mind plays more than 90 percent in our daily life and it is conditioned by society, institutions since we are born. If we can use our intelligence instead of intellect, we are able to live according to our own lights and freedom. Have a wonderful day! 😁🙏☀️🌈

Why is using intellect a bad thing?

You see intelligence is of the soul. Intellectual is of the mind and the mind is a collection of all knowledge conditioned the day we are born. The mind with thoughts is the root of many problems. A no mind man is a happy man. 🙏

Are you saying intelligence is infinite and intellect is finite? If so I dont know how intellect isn't also infinite. There is an infinite amount of things to know and what we think is based on what we know, so there are potentially an infinite amount of things to shape our perception of the world.

Here’s the concept when it comes to intelligence vs. intellect. In Intelligence, Osho challenges the common conception that the best way to promote intelligence is to train the intellect. Intellect is very logical, however, intelligence is paradoxical. Intellect takes things apart to see how they work; intelligence puts things together to see the functioning of the whole. We use our intelligence to treat things as a whole, totality.

So it's bassicaly and argument against reductionism (the idea that you have break things down like a machine to understand them) and for wholism (the idea that you cant break things down into parts to understand them). Both ways of thinking have value but some are more useful in some contexts than others. I look at these two ways of thinking as being part of a dialectic where both need eachother to be complete not unlike Yin and Yang.

Intellectual knowledge is great also to apply to our practicality in our daily life. I made a post about how Eastern philosophy influences on Western psychology. When East looks at things it looks at the total, and when West looks at things it always looks at the part. The Western attitude is analytical so it analyzes. The Eastern attitude is synthetic so it synthesizes, it tries to find the one in the many. The Western attitude tries to find the many in the one. The Western attitude has become very efficient in analyzing, dissecting, taking things apart. Eastern philosophy is spirituality’s approach to changing man. Western psychology’s aim is to fortify the individual’s ego so that he may become less neurotic, slightly happier and ultimately function ‘better’ in society. In the East, the goal is instead to dissolve the ego rather than strengthen it. And the mind with racing thoughts is root of all the chaos. 🙏

Well what I proposed is a synthesis. What I'm sugesting is an agnostic neutrality to the ego rather than it's destruction or fortification. What I'm doing here is what is called Hegalian Dialectics where you take two seemingly opposing ideas and and ask what they would look like if you merged them together into a singluar whole.

Yes Osho does mention about Hegelian dialectics, it is a beautiful concept of dialectical movement which Hegel was standing on his legs. I do love what Hegel says, “The progress of an idea, the progress of consciousness, is dialectical. Consciousness progresses through dialectics.” Life force progresses through dialectics and meditation is the deepest phenomenon happening which is the explosion of life force.

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Hidden in reply to GreatMindfulness

I tend to follow my instincts and let my intuition be my guide 🤗🌝🌛💛

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GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Awe that is beautiful Sis ❤️ Yes follow your instinct, follow your guts, whatsoever rings a bell in your heart, do it. Spread love as you always do. 😁😘❤️🙏xox

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Thanks sis I try to spread love and peace wherever i go have a lovely day 🧡💛🧡rain rain go away my ceiling will be falling in 😂😂

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GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Thank you for your love and support Sis! 😁😘😘🌹 You are a great example of love and authenticity. ❤️ Oh my that is a project when it comes to roof leaking 😅. Take one step at a time and breath 🤣😂. Hope pixie is keeping mommy company joyfully. 😻😽

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Loopyloolool in reply to Hidden

Hi Mandy, just be very careful 👍😘

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BTCCET in reply to Loopyloolool

Absolutely!

Reading_Rando Probably because you can then think for yourself and not follow "the teachings of how to be an individual.' God forbid we think for ourselves.

Just speaking my individual thoughts. No offence intended.

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Isinatra in reply to happytulip

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13ga in reply to happytulip

HT - interesting reply.

i would posit, that Reading_Rando is only capable of thinking for himself - because he's educated himself on the teachings of others. he's taken the knowledge handed to him by society; as well as knowledge he's sought on his own - compared and contrasted them; formed and broken opinions at least a few times... and finally arrived today, as someone that's able to see the difference between truths and agendas.

but those truths, if he is anything like me - and i'm pretty sure he is - are temporary truths - because we both are willing to abandon them, if further knowledge drives us to a more accurate, and deeper understanding of a whole truth.

i suspect that if RR and I both - were to read the 'teachings of how to be an individual' - and we deemed those teachings as valid, and sensible; or even just useful - we would follow them until such time as they fail to meet our expectations.

is that not the very definition of "thinking for yourself" ??

i respect "your individual thoughts"; no offense taken! :-)

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Reading_Rando in reply to 13ga

You nailed it! Our understanding of the world and ourselves is always provisional. Subject to change as our knowledge and perspective grows.

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Hi like fashion everyone well not everyone goes with fashion on house decor at moment it's all grey they do there houses to suit fashion and spend fortune 6 months later it's old fashioned, I had a friend who was like that he said it takes some doing keeping up with the Jones s lol I like colours I like and my fireplace is wood had it 17 years some are even changing the pvc to dark grey all that landfill waiste money too, I remember when the fashion was to have dark roots half way down the head what a mess in my opinion well came in handy during lockdown for some 😂😂😂🤗

Your post seems to think that we are all incapable of thinking for ourselves while you spout your rhetoric. You say society hates individuals. Society/community is a very similar thing. PWB is a community and no one seems to hate individuals.

I find it amusing when I hear people trying to "trash" society, principles and a respectful way of life and encouraging non-conformity. When in fact it's just a bunch of people encouraging others to conform to non-conformity. Where is the sense in that? "Hey, we're all going to be different look at us." Well, in my opinion if you look beyond the superficial we are all very different anyway.

I am an individual already. I am able to think for myself and I don't need to be guided by some guru into greater enlightenment.

As you value freedom of speech I thought I would share my views with you and please, no need for an unpleasant PM.

But I will say this about the advice you give in your post.

If I fall into darkness I'll turn my torch on and if I need emptying I'll take a laxative.

Thank you.

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

Excellent comment.

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happytulip in reply to Marnie22

Thanks Marnie, I was "standing up for my own rights, and was remembering to always be me and do what my heart desires."

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

Ha ha ! Brilliant!

Well posted🙂

Thank you Veteran250 . I seem to be unable to reply properly to people at the moment Don. Good to hear from you.

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Scrumbler in reply to Veteran250

Don. A true gentleman. x

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Scrumbler in reply to happytulip

🤣🤣🤣

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Scrumbler in reply to happytulip

While you’re out getting your laxatives, can you get me a sick bucket and some new torch batteries 😂

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happytulip in reply to Scrumbler

I'll get the Duracell ones Scrumbler as they go on and on and on. A bit like these cult like posts that are dressed up as philosophy.

I'm sure PWB will soon stand for Pointless Waffle & B******t.

RIP Positive Wellbeing.

(Just being an individual)!

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Scrumbler in reply to happytulip

Glad you’re following all the well - themed advice. Not sure about the batteries. Perhaps we ought to use candles and save the world.

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Marnie22 in reply to Scrumbler

Wind-up torch! Very green!

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

You have given me such a good laugh, thank you!

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Marnie22 in reply to Scrumbler

Put me down for those too!

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Scrumbler in reply to Marnie22

Like button still not working properly. Can’t think why. 😟

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Marnie22 in reply to Scrumbler

It's paranormal.......X-Files theme plays......🎵🎶🎵

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Scrumbler in reply to Marnie22

I loved that theme music. Liked the series too. I love to see the product of vivid imaginations.

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Marnie22 in reply to Scrumbler

Don't get me started..... I am a massive X-Files fan, I even travelled to America three time to meet the actors & the creator. I have the theme music as my ring tone!

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Scrumbler in reply to Marnie22

Think I’ll get that. Keep the spooks away. Did you watch the series Fringe?

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Marnie22 in reply to Scrumbler

No. I haven't watched TV at all for a couple of years now because it worsens the sensory overload that I get from my brain injury. I have heard it was good though.

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Scrumbler in reply to Marnie22

Superb.

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BTCCET in reply to Marnie22

Hey Marnie! Doo, Doo, Doo, Doo, Doo, Doooo 😁😘

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Marnie22 in reply to BTCCET

Excellent!

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BTCCET in reply to Marnie22

Or it could be Hugh, Hugh, Hugh , Hugh, Hugh, Hugh 😂😂

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Isinatra in reply to Scrumbler

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Marshall64 in reply to Scrumbler

It is a flashlight. Torches are what villagers use to chase someone out. 😋😉

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Scrumbler in reply to Marshall64

Exactly. We are villagers. It takes a village …..

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happytulip in reply to Scrumbler

Replying to Scrumbler (I can't seem to reply to individuals at the moment).It does take a village. A community. A society. Individuals coming together to help, nurture, care and protect.

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

You said it.

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Marnie22 in reply to Scrumbler

You are on top form!

We call them torches in the UK , not flashlights👍

I know. Y'all talk funny...😋

You do lol 👍

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Alb2 in reply to happytulip

Very well said.

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13ga in reply to happytulip

HT;

i've already questioned your tone in a previous reply.

in this reply - i only question the 1st and almost last paragraph ...

you said the post "seems to think that we're incapable of thinking for ourselves - while you spout your rhetoric".

HT - i read the same post you did - at least - I THINK i did! i didn't see anything of what you described. i most certainly did not see anyone spouting their rhetoric. i saw someone passing along the thinking of a published author. you're certainly free to disagree with the author - but i don't think it's respectful to accuse the poster of spewing rhetoric - when she clearly indicated the sources of these thoughts, and possibly inserted her own opinion at worst.

by her posting - i see an invitation to debate her... question her about the subject matter... but to question her motives in the way you do - doesn't seem appropriate.

i get the impression from your reply - that freedom of speech requires that the speaker conforms to your idea of freedom of speech. i'm sure my impression is wrong - especially if you support freedom of speech...

i'm just sharing the impression your wording has left me with.

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BTCCET in reply to 13ga

13ga I think that what HT and many others are trying to get across is that this is a positive wellbeing forum and that this kind of "debate" contributes nothing to the wellbeing of others, it's preachy, pushy and quite frankly very boring 😊

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BazzakReading Rabbits in reply to BTCCET

Agree completely Marilyn, 😘xx

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MadBunny in reply to Bazzak

Me too 😘

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13ga in reply to BTCCET

BTC -

thank you for your reply, as well as your explanation of HT's intent.

i'm still left in a state of confusion, however.

1st - i can say, that personally, the philosophical debate that ensues from these types of posts - does contribute to my wellbeing. even if i don't agree with them. i simply love the idea of testing my convictions. if a post can convince me to change my mind about something - then i've grown - and i owe the poster a thank you. the expansion of my understanding of how others think - absolutely contributes to my wellbeing.

the assessment of 'preachy', 'pushy' - this is an individual interpretation. you say "poetaytoe" - i say "pahtahtoe". if an individual find it preachy or pushy... they can stop reading; and they can avoid future posts from that poster.

now - the juicy bit! "very boring". it's not even slightly boring to me! and i've noted numerous replies that clearly agree with me. that said - i can absolutely understand why many would think this boring. i completely validate that claim, and agree with you that some do in fact, find this boring. but my question is simply this....

if it's so boring... why are so many of the 'bored' posting so many replies ???? ;-) :-) 8-) 😊😊😊

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BTCCET in reply to 13ga

Don't know! It's a mystery isn't it? 😊

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13ga in reply to BTCCET

it certainly is!!! but i must [embarrassingly] admit...

i'm entertained .... and that entertainment - [also embarrassingly] also contributes to my wellbeing!! LOL 😊😊😊😊

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BTCCET in reply to 13ga

Ok, so enjoy😊I've got places to go, catch you later 👍

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MadBunny in reply to BTCCET

🤣

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happytulip in reply to BTCCET

Thank you BTCCET. That is exactly my view.

I think part of the problem with trying so hard to fit in is that we hide or lose our authenticity. But, one can go too far the other way too. I can be an individual by walking around with a tin foil hat on my head. But wearing a tin foil hat, while individualistic, is not authentic to me as a person. The true key, (I think— this just me thinking out loud), is to be as authentic as possible. Part of my authenticity is that I want to connect with others, and some of my innate individuality (not all! but some, like shouting in a library) may interfere with social connection. So I get to choose which of my values in a particular moment prevails. Is that in line with Osho’s teaching? I think it is, because he suggests being true to an inner light. If I replace “individuality” with “authenticity,” I get this!

Yes being authentic is key to being your true self. Let your inner light guide you. Being an individual is not about doing the opposite of everyone else or trying to stand out. It's about following your inner light in whatsoever you do. Well said opportunity 🙏❤

Thank you for sharing your wisdom Ava. 😊🙏. Be authentic to yourself is key. I can’t add more to what Zazenriver345 said. Living in your own light that is true to your heart desires. Have a beautiful day! 🤗🙏❤️

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13ga in reply to Opportunity

dang, opp!!!

well said!

It's pretty ironic that a post that claims to encourage us to be individuals is lecturing us on how to be, using plagiarised ideas from a 'guru' with a highly questionable background. It strongly implies that the person posting doesn't believe that we can work out our own ideas for ourselves.

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13ga in reply to Marnie22

marnie;

wow - where to start!

1) i dont see this post as lecturing us. it's offering ideas - we can accept, reject, or question and debate, and then accept or reject. we also have the option of skipping it, and going on to the next thread.

2) plagiarized ideas ????? seriously??? how can you call this plagiarism when the poster clearly stated the sources for the statements ??? unless you have a different definition of that word than me - i think your accusation is out of line.

3) 'guru with questionable background' - not even sure what to say about this. would you label buddha that? doesn't plato also qualify as the same? socrates? what about 'jesus' ??? i can argue that if anyone ever had a questionable background - it was that guy!!!! my point here - if you want to argue this point - it would greatly add to your ability to influence this free-thinker, if you explained why the 'guru' has a questionable background - and specifically how that background discredits the writings. you could claim he was a womanizer (i'm not saying he was - i have no idea) - that's a questionable background - but not one that discredits the writings.

in short - if you want to convince me this is a bunch of crap - i need you to discredit the statements - not the author, or the messenger.

thank you for sending a PM much appreciated your posts hurt people who have mental illness and PTSD I was saying the truth my own opinion you got upset about it but know what it’s ok but I don’t like that your hurting people you need to understand what others go through and be more empathetic

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Scrumbler in reply to Hb2003

Well done. 😊

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Hb2003 in reply to Scrumbler

Thank you 🙏 I can’t stay silent about this anymore

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Speak your truth Hiba. Be the "individual" xxx

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Marnie22 in reply to Hb2003

That's great, well done.

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Thank you ☺️

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Proud of you little one. 🌹

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❤️❤️ I am too

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Hb2003 Looooooove seeing that you're being your own individual and standing up for your own rights while defending the rights of others. Hiba's slogans are #NoBullying #NoAbusivePM

Using one's own intellect to decipher everything and standing up for justice is EGO FREE

#MyOpinion

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Hasn’t she done well? It was tough for her but she’s learned a great life skill.

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Scrumbler our Hiba has definitely grown up in leaps and bounds.

♥️

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Indeed she has. Adversity breeds strange bedfellows.

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Yup Hiba, we all know about coercive and unkind PMs. Sending love.

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Thank you 🙏

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After what I went through last week I know exactly what you mean, well done you Hiba 😘

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Thank you ❤️🙏

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Zara0123 in reply to Hb2003

And Hiba you've stop apologising. Good girl. Never apologise for what you believe especially when it's the right thing. Proud of you Hiba. We're all with you 😘😘😘

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Lots of hugs 🫂 ❤️❤️

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Well said Hiba 😘

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Yes-mature beyond her years😘

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Thank you 🙏

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I was so scared to write it but it had to be said because I have had enough of seeing innocent people getting hurt

I think about when history had people who had individuality who gave other people their personality. Like Jim Jones and his followers. There were a lot of powerful men who controlled others for their egos. Ego is an example of I.

Yes a true individual has no desire to join a cult👍🙏. Jim Jones was the leader of a notorious Christian cult. He used their faith against them. There is no faith here☝️❤

Egocentric society that embraces power to rule others when the fundamental thing is to rule our own self. They go on destroying freedom of others. This is the problem to many individuals when their sexuality is not embraced. The whole LGBT community speak up and exercise their human rights and live according to their lights peacefully. 😊🙏❤️

How great to include the LGBT community❤. A great example of if you dont fit in the mold of society you will be punished. The LGBT community have had to fight the society tooth and nail in order to be treated humanely and allowed to express their individuality.

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13ga in reply to ZazenRiver345

zaz - only a small possible issue with how you said that...

"express their individuality" - could be interpreted as them having the luxury of choice - which they do not.

they simply are what they are -- and because society (or large portion of it) is afraid of what they don't understand - the LGBT+ community was formed to provide cover and protection, and their own sense of community - where society has failed.

Please don’t talk about LGBTQIA+ people as though they can all be spoken about as doing /saying/being part of one entity. It's not good to generalise about any group of people. It's a form of stereotyping. You can't say, 'The whole LGBT community,' as if you have a knowledge of each individual person in that community.

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happytulip in reply to Marnie22

Very well said Marnie22 . I have one family member and friends in this community and they detest it when people speak of them as a stereotype or when they get generalised. They point out that they might be part of that community but they are also all INDIVIDUALS which is what this initial post is all about.

(Sorry, I can't seem to reply to people at the moment so I am having to add your name so you know it's you that I am addressing).

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

Thank you.

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13ga in reply to happytulip

HT - after reading your reply to Marnie22 -

you have me wondering if i just did what you're describing.

if i've stereotyped anyone in that group - i'd like to correct my behavior / attitude.

could you please explain to me, how would be the better way for me to have said what i said? how should i have made my point in a way that no one would construe as stereotyping?

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happytulip in reply to 13ga

I can't speak for my transgender family member or my friends in the LGBTQI+ community, that would be wrong of me to do so. It's their experience that counts, not mine.

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13ga in reply to Marnie22

marnie - you raise a great point.

the LGBTQIA+ community started out as LGBT, and evolved to LGBTQ, and then.... and so on...

it did this - because society on the whole failed to include all the different sub-groups of individuals with some commonality. and so all the disparate sub-groups banded together to provide their own community. BUT - they're not really sub-groups, as they ALL have something in common - and that something has to do with sexual/gender/preference differences from what 'society' has decreed the norm.

the fact that these people exist - shows that society has no idea what 'normal' really is.

so while i agree with you - that no individual should be lumped into some group... the group in question here - can be discussed as a group, without insulting the individual members - as long as that discussion applies to the things common to all members.

i think GreatMindfulness was doing just that. the sexuality of every member of that group - has not been embraced by society on the whole. this statement applies to every individual of that group. and i don't think that discussing that truth demeans anyone individually, nor as a group.

I think the whole LGBT community enjoyed that reply👍❤🙏

I can tell you they didn't 'all' like anything. They are not even 'all' aware of it. You can't lump all those people together and claim to know something about them 'all.' That's not logical.

ZazenRiver345 and Imnotright , and GMF...

together all raise a very important point... jim jones was a cult leader - and a cult leader requires followers to be empowered; in order to feed their ego.

what's interesting to me... i think INR was close, but not quite on the mark. i don't think cult followers - or 'followers' in general - i don't think they 'give' their personality to the leader.... i think they have no personality at all. and to fill the void where their personality should be - they substitute that of their leader!!!

this would explain why when a president exudes hate - that hate is adopted blindly by the followers - because they are so desparate to fill that void - so desperate to feel belonging to any "community", that they will engage in any activity that might shine their leaders' light upon them!!!!!!! just like a little child pleading for attention from their parent!!!! and isn't that what a cult relationship really is??? a cult-leader-PARENT, who loves and nurtures and provides a 'teddy bear' and 'blankie' to the follower-children! and the children, like namesake - do not; can not; or will not think or do for themselves - so they can fulfill the child role, and absorb that which they think fills them. but they are far to childish to know, it will never fill them - and they will go to farther and farther lengths to find the fulfillment!!!! including 'drinking the kool-aid with poison' or becoming a violent mob trying to overthrow what they perceive as oppressors - or any 'threat' to their parent-leader!!!

...

this idea can be applied universally...

if i get upset with INR due to a post, i'm not really upset with INR - i'm upset because INR hit me in my 'empty' spot, and reminded me that i'm not getting enough love or attention. and then i act out - either to shine some light of attention on me - or - because i'm angry at INR for revealing my weakness and pain - or BOTH!!!!

...

i think Opportunity 's reply about authenticity - fits directly, and dovetails with this idea perfectly!!!

the children have no authenticity - and seek to obtain it from a leader they follow - and they beat down anyone that sheds a light on that ugly truth, to feel better about themselves and to deter anyone else from joining the "truth seekers" that are the sworn enemy of all 'followers' !!!!

...

how can we, the truth seekers, use this to our advantage?

if we can see the children as they are - childish, selfish, "id"-controlled (or inner-child-controlled)... then maybe, just maybe - we can shed the anger response in ourselves!!! would you get mad at a puppy for pooping in the house? no... but that's a really bad example - because a puppy can be taught by putting their nose in their poop. the "children" are not capable of learning - and especially not by rubbing their nose in their own crap!!! doing so - only proves to them, that they're right!! they are permanently childish. we can not force them to grow up.

they cannot be anything but what they are. WE are the only ones capable of change!!!! we can find acceptance that these are 'permanent children'... and if we can see them for what they truly are - then we don't need to get angry at them. and - we will understand they are not worth our time to even engage with!! we might as well yell at the sky to change from blue to green !!

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Opportunity in reply to 13ga

My biggest, most thought-provoking question is.....

INR=Imnotright. Right? 😂

I agree with the sentiment: we can’t change other people, unfortunately. I mean, we can hurt them or spend a lot of energy trying, but in most cases, we can’t really change what is in their hearts. We can only change ourselves.

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13ga in reply to Opportunity

heheh yea... INR = imnotright

i once asked INR, if that meant they were 'left' .... ;-)

Hi Rob, for the most part I agree with you. 👍Here’s what i think: we have to divide into two categories:

1. it’s not they do not have personalities, they have plenty of ego and a cult leader is the one will embrace and lead them to achieve all those desires.

2. They don’t know themselves so they need directions and be part of something.

Parenting POV you brought up, this is what I think: from your very childhood, you have been taught not to be responsible. You have been taught to depend. You have been taught to be responsible for your father, your mother, your family, your motherland, to all kind of nonsense; but you haven’t been told to be responsible for yourself. There is nobody is going to take your responsibility, on the contrary your parents will take your responsibility. Your family takes on your responsibility. The community takes on your responsibility for your spiritual growth. You were just to follow all people and do what they say. When you are grown up and no more a child, a great crisis rises because you have to take responsibility when you have never taught taking responsibility for yourself. You start feeling chaotic with guilt and shame and sin. Whatever you have done because you want to do it, that’s why you do it. Who is there to decide what is mistake and what not? Will you call your family, your community to decide for you? There’s no criterion anywhere, no scales to measure how much sin you have committed? One yard, two yard, three yard? One kilo, two kilos, three kilos? And what is mistake? what is sin?who can judge that but yourself?

The solution is do not be responsible for the father, the mother, the family, the country, the party lines, to anyone, just be responsible to yourself and there’s no chaos 🤷‍♀️😁👍🙏

Koko;

i absolutely love your take on this!

i think there's huge argument to support this perspective!!!

TYVM for sharing!!! 💜💜💜

With respect, you talk about people being individual and themselves..... but you are quoting that which other people have quoted in the past.... or am I looking at this wrongly?

Live in the society but dont be a product of the society🙏☝️❤

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That is very well written KoKo. We shouldn't be who society want us to be but we should be ourselves.

Alicia 🙏🤗😘😊xxxx

Thank you Alicia for your love and support 🤗🙏❤️ Being ourselves is the most beautiful thing. When we are happy from within, we can share our joy to others. I hope you’ve had a great day so far and got your walk in nature as the weather and your body allowed. Have a wonderful rest of the day! 😁😘❤️❤️❤️☀️🌹🌸🌻🙏🌈xxxx

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crazyfitnessAmbassador in reply to GreatMindfulness

You are welcome KoKo. I aim to be me, some people in the past have tried to make me a different person but I am an individual and am me.

If we are happy we share that with others as well as give our love and support. I see it important to help, love and support others.

I didn't get out to as forecast wasn't good and my IBS wouldn't let me but that will improve and I'll be back out there again.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Alicia xxxx 💜💜💞💞💜💗💗💗🤗🤗

Yes we move forward without letting the past as our barriers. I see it as a stepping stone for us to find ourselves and live true to our own lights. You are such a great inspiration for us to look up to. I hope your body will recover in no time so you can get out there and enjoy life. Yes I’m relaxing with Sonya and wonderful participation from truth seekers on this post. Have a relaxing evening also with your yummy and healthy treats! 🤗❤️❤️❤️☀️🌻🌹🌈xxxx

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crazyfitnessAmbassador in reply to GreatMindfulness

Most definitely, my past is history, I have some amazing memories of my past, particularly my parents but the future is for me to be me and to enjoy helping others where I can ie. charities.

Thank you for saying that about me, much appreciated.

I'm glad your relaxing with Sonya, I've had my yummy treats, now drinking water.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Alicia xxxx💗💗💜💜💞💞🤗🤗🤗

Thank you for sharing your true feelings with me always. ❤️🙏 Past is past as we shift our focus where we want, we plant the seed. I let the past die and took my responsibility upon myself to make a life according to Koko without repression and oppression. And now here I am in this beautiful planet and embrace all life to give with freedom😌 Water is life and yummy treats are candies of God 😋🙏❤️❤️❤️☀️🌹🌻🌈xxxx

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crazyfitnessAmbassador in reply to GreatMindfulness

You are welcome. I thank my wonderful parents for giving me the childhood I had, they were amazing. They've both gone now and I gave beautiful memories.

Yes my life is my responsibility, only I can change things.

Am amazing planet, nature surrounds us in all it's glory.

💞💞💜💗💜💞 xxxx

Anyone googled Osho? Not my sort of guru. I like people who practice what they preach....

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Isinatra in reply to waitingame7

Yes and I’m not the only one.❤️🏄‍♀️

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Marnie22 in reply to waitingame7

Yes, I have. Comes across as repulsive, exploitative and manipulative. Plus not original at all.

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happytulip in reply to Marnie22

Marnie22 your description of Osho has many similarities with a certain postee, in my individual opinion.

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

🤣 You are giving me uplifting and spiritual thoughts.....🤣

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Imaaan in reply to waitingame7

waitingame7 Let me triple like this

Great participation on this post🙏❤🙂

In my personal opinion Osho was a manipulative, narcissistic individual who duped vulnerable individuals out of their wealth and mental health by talking in ever decreasing circles .... he was successful enough at this to be able to relocate from India to America with with money to spare to see to his failing health needs (and have a fleet of Rolls Royce cars to boot) .... I don’t know much but I do know that the exchange rate from the Indian rupee to the US dollar was never in anyone’s favour so that’s one heck of a lot of dosh he’s gathered to meet his needs not the community’s .... now that’s true individualistic mentality for you! (don’t get me started on the child abuse and other issues that surrounds this person’s ‘practices/teachings’)

All the best

Ali

P.S. other opinions are available! 🙃

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waitingame7 in reply to Ali_H

Thank you, yes I have come across these gurus before. I like Krishnamurti - he didn't want disciples - so there are are few consistently decent ones around And of course our great JC although I'm not a Christian I value what a good man he was.

Look at how they lived their lives and not just what they said - that's my 'philosophy'.

Just my opinion of course!

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Marnie22 in reply to waitingame7

Yep.

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Alb2 in reply to Ali_H

Ah yes, Rajneesh the self styled guru. He did very well out of his followers. Then changed his name to Osho. I would recommend reading My Life In Orange which shows what life was really like for children growing up in the ashrams. They weren’t afforded the opportunity to be their authentic selves.

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Imaaan in reply to Alb2

Alb2 I'd say that's hypocrisy at the highest level. Thnxs for bringing that to light.

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waitingame7 in reply to Imaaan

Can't agree with you more

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Marnie22 in reply to Imaaan

TRUE.

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waitingame7 in reply to Alb2

In the 70s there were a lot of cults flogging there wares around and I fancied a weekend away, was young and naive, didn't appreciate how these cults operate but it was an eye opener and has informed my opinions ever since.

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Alb2 in reply to waitingame7

They operate by preying on vulnerable people. Take away their ability to think for themselves but worse, tell them they must be deficit in some way if they don’t subscribe to the doctrines.

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waitingame7 in reply to Alb2

Yes I agree, saw it for myself.

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Marnie22 in reply to Alb2

Definitely. There were people preying on lonely first year students when I went to university. I despise that behaviour. I was in my mid twenties when I went, so had a little bit more life experience, but it's easy for the young and vulnerable to get caught.

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Marnie22 in reply to Alb2

Yes, it's available to anyone who wants to know what kind of person they are following.

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Marnie22 in reply to Ali_H

You are right.

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happytulip in reply to Ali_H

Well said Ali_H. These teachings have a very narcissistic element to them. It's all about "Me" not "We". I don't like it at all.

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

I think there is a big element of compensating for a lack of something in trying to influence others.

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That many church leaders. It’s all a business. But in everything that has bad there is good. One can learn from the bad to not make those mistakes. And it’s all about personal choice. No one needs to join a cult. Lol none needs to follow anyone. It sounds by this post. It’s saying the opposite. Stop following the programming of others.

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13ga in reply to Ali_H

ali -

i just wanted to say i appreciate your reply!!

while i don't think i know enough about osho to speak intelligently on the subject - i especially appreciate that you've specifically laid out your objections.

it's those specific objections that cause me to question more about how osho lived, and maybe even motivate me to do my own research.

whether i can make the time to do this - doesn't matter. you've provided actionable and verifiable claims - that can be discussed intelligently.

and i, for one, would like to thank you for that!

It's amazing how someone can do a quick google search and be ready to condemn someone. Such great Ethos you must have👌👍

🕉☮️🧘🏻‍♀️🙏😁❤️☀️🌹🌈

I think it's more than a google search

ZazenRiver345 Just being individuals and making decisions for ourselves. Are we not allowed to form our own opinions of Osho or do we have to agree with you?

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

I mean this in support of you happytulip. Anyone can form your their own opinions, of course. Shoving them down others throats is what quite a few of us object to. Why not just say, 'I think this person makes a lot of sense to me. Why not read their stuff for yourself?' Rather than spouting endless reams of second hand ideas as though they are the gospel truth.

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👍👍👍

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happytulip in reply to Marnie22

Marnie22 was that reply meant for me? I can't seem to reply to people at the moment but I'm definitely not shoving things down people's throats.I think something has gone amiss my lovely x

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

I got confused, blame tiredness and my brain injury! I was meaning to support you, and not meaning you were shoving anything anywhere!

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happytulip in reply to Marnie22

Marnie22 no worries. Although I feel like shoving something somewhere!

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These posts are for critical thinking. Like an exercise for the mind. Not to follow a cult.

It’s like reading an article. And reflecting. Reflecting on ones own life and path. And finding connections to ones way of being and/or living.

If one can see , one way is not working maybe it’s because the person would benefit from the changing their belief system. For instance, a person hates the way they look at themselves. So they constantly change everything they see. Why not accept themselves. Change the way they see themselves. Like start by what do you like? Or lol don’t look in the mirror.

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Marnie22 in reply to Hidden

I Iike critical thinking. What I don't like is when posts are are put up that contain statements that can affect people with mental illnesses really badly. Posts that do not take into account that there are vulnerable people on here. I also don't think it is acceptable that if a person posts a response challenging the 'philosophical statements,' that they should be subjected to bullying, aggressive and intimidating comments.

This community is to help, support and uplift people, not to tell them that they need to follow a certain 'path or they are not being authentic.

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Never saw that. Many people say things like god this or that. It don’t mean a person needs to believe in a god. It’s just to think about life differently than in sorrow. People are on here because they feel and think and need support. Some people will give tough love, some feel empathy, and some sympathy. Everyone heals differently. Everyone needs different perspectives.

Yes it is not good for bullies. I have reviewed all the platforms. I have not seen any yet. Thankfully.

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MadBunny in reply to Hidden

But it's not a forum for critical thinking!!!!! Can somebody please tell me when it became that ? I haven't seen any official change of title or focus.

It's amazing how can follow someone's 'philosophy' when there is documented evidence of them having a very unsavoury, manipulative and negative influence on people. It's not just a quick Google search, there are serious accounts by journalists and also books. This 'philosopher' was very controversial at the time he was active and there are plenty of reliable resources to tell you why. Have a read.

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waitingame7 in reply to Marnie22

This is a puzzle to me as well Marnie - knowing what we all know about Osho, how can anyone ally themselves with his 'teachings''? I think it's different if you are blissfully ignorant and then find out.

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Alb2 in reply to ZazenRiver345

Please do not assume that I get my information from google as I was aware of Rajneesh in the 1970s when, as young girl, the Orange People as they were then known, were actively trying to recruit young girls for their ashram and I saw first hand that their wonderful, persuasive preaching did not quite equate to authenticity. With respect, I’m not even sure why you should feel uncomfortable that people question some of what is being said here? We each have a truth and whilst it may not be yours, it should not concern you😌

Theres no doctrines here👍

Everything is allowed here🙂. Speak your minds🙏

My mind is saying what’s for lunch? 😁 Any suggestion? I’m thinking grilled salmon and agurula salad 🥗 😋😋😋

That sounds deeee licious😋

👍I’ll be one with the kitchen! Life is good 😌

ZazenRiver345 "Everything is allowed here" Wow, you really do think you have taken over this forum with your preachings. Thank you for giving me permission to speak.

I've spoken my mind on this subject before and as a result I was insulted and dismissed for not agreeing with certain views.

I also detest the manipulation and coercion of vulnerable members in private messages.

People who preach that they are a peace loving and respectful group do not send nasty messages to belittle and hurt.

I could say much more but I want to focus on the positivity, care, love and support that this group gives. Not some teachings of a highly controversial cult leader. It's also insulting when it appears that you and your gang assume that people on this forum are incapable of being an individual and making their own decisions. It seems that you feel the need to pop in and guide/lead them into a better life.

Maybe they have managed so far?

I can't speak for everyone, only me. But I see no kindness, no compassion and no empathy in these posts.

It's all about ME not WE and that isn't what this forum is about.

Just my individual opinion.

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MadBunny in reply to happytulip

Can't like posts again so just want to say I like it😁

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Marnie22 in reply to happytulip

You are definitely speaking for me and thank you for doing so. Some of the behaviour on here needs calling out.

Not everything. We should be keeping in mind that there are vulnerable people on here, people with PTSD and other mental health conditions and also learning disabilities. We need to consider this when we post.

Within the rules of course. Thank you🙏

Unfortunately that isn't always happening with certain posts.

Nobody is forced to read these posts👍❤

Correct 👍😁 Philosophy is not a way of life but a practice to exercise your critical thinking! Use your own intelligence to form your own perspectives however you choose. Spread your wings and fly as high as you can reach your own freedom! Happy reading truth seekers 😋❤️🙏

why can't i like this 12 x !??!?! ;-) 8-)

That is a ridiculous thing to say. When someone begins to read a post, they won't know if it will affect them badly until it has done so. Are we all supposed to have someone pre-read each post for us? Far better that we post with an awareness that vulnerable people will read what we write.

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MadBunny in reply to Marnie22

Absolutely true

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BTCCET in reply to ZazenRiver345

But this forum is for reading for the purpose of wellbeing? Wat do you and your group contribute to the wellbeing of others exactly?

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Interesting post. I’ve spent so many years trying to fit in. I changed my style and still I never fit in. It made me feel so bad. But this passage you wrote makes me think maybe it’s ok not to be like people that want others to be the same. Hmm.

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GreatMindfulness in reply to Hidden

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. 😊🙏 I’m glad you will ponder on my post and decide whatever is going to make your heart sing. Whatever makes you happy that stays true to your authenticity. Have a wonderful rest of the day! 🤗🙏❤️☮️🕊

With respect, every one is entitled to their thoughts and opinions, and the HU Community refrains from discussing religion and politics in its community’s because we all have our own religious beliefs or not...., I am not a religious person, but hey, that’s me!

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BTCCET in reply to Veteran250

Well said Don, I'm finding these post very upsetting, as a person with a lot on my mind at this present time xx

Yes everyone is entitled for their own opinions as this post is rolling with different perspectives. I followed HU guidelines with my post. Let the truth seekers see for themselves and live true to their authenticity. Regarding to your comment on you are not a religious person, if I’m not mistaken someone got offended with your joke post about someone farted in church and you came out said you were a Christian! Thing changed I supposed. 😁🙏

Your rudeness and disregard for others feelings know absolutely no boundaries do they?

You don't necessarily become a religious person because your parents had you christened when you were a baby you know!

F**ts in a lift are the worst. Tight space. Nowhere to run, everyone looking around to see who did it. Very uncomfortable.

Oh goshhhh it is true. It’s terrible to even think about it 😅 Is that why their AC is always so strong? I always got so cold in church once upon a time 🥶🤣😂

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13ga in reply to ZazenRiver345

zaz - i completely disagree with you!!!!!! and i can prove without any doubt that you're just plain wrong!!!

if god didn't approve of farts in church - then we wouldn't have been made to fart!!!! OR - we'd be able to control when we fart - and then we could prevent ourselves from doing so in church.

since none of that is true - your statement is obviously false. farts in church are NOT the worst - and god wants us to fart freely!!!

the only thing that's 'very uncomfortable' - is when you try to hold in a fart!!!

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i'm sorry if my pointing out your wrongness hurts your feelings - that was not my intend... i just wanna get the truth about farting out there!!!

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13ga in reply to Hidden

hidden - you took the words straight from my mouth! well said.

It's ironic that some want us to conform to what they think this forum should be. We have a right to express ourselves within the rules👍🙏❤

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BTCCET in reply to ZazenRiver345

What exactly is it that you're expressing that contributes to the wellbeing of others? 🤔🙄

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Opportunity in reply to BTCCET

I think the post was saying that it’s ok to be true to your beliefs. So, for example, if you believe in kindness, it’s ok to be kind. If you believe in love, it’s ok to be loving. It’s ok to love yourself. The worst thing we can do is hate ourselves so much that we wear a mask and hide who we really are.

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BTCCET in reply to Opportunity

We're all wearing masks here at the moment 😂

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Opportunity in reply to BTCCET

Haha!!! So true! Mine is a cat mask! 😀🤣

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BTCCET in reply to Opportunity

Mine is a child size mask because the adult ones cover my eyes😂

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Veteran250 in reply to BTCCET

PM’d you BTCCET

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Opportunity in reply to BTCCET

As long as you can see (and breathe), that’s the important thing! Bringing back Halloween 🎃 nightmares for me...🤣

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13ga in reply to BTCCET

(cover your eyes)

all things considered - that might not be a bad thing! some things you don't wanna see!!!

Lovely! Mine is a multi coloured sparking diamante. I had seen someone wearing one in a shop and loved it. Some time later went into my fave clothes shop and there it was. 😁😁

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13ga in reply to BTCCET

btc - you stole my thunder!! LOL

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13ga in reply to Opportunity

from my brain thru your lips!!!!

Unfortunately some posts are not, 'Within the rules.'

Are you ok? This is a lot.

I’m enjoying my day. 😁 How are you? What’s good for snacks? 😋

Well, seeing as there’s a good ole fashioned witch burning 🔥 🧙🏻‍♀️ 🧹, might I suggest some s’mores? Quick! Get the marshmallows! 😂 😭🤣🤣

Love your imagination you might consider maybe freelance fiction writer 😎. Love those emojis 😁 hmmm some rocky road ice cream perhaps 😋😋😋

Enjoying causing upset, distress and discord more like. You clearly get off on it. You must be so bored in your life to enjoy stirring up so much trouble.

No remorse or compassion for the hurt you cause.

We can be a part of society be part of the group and still exist as individuals. It has rules in place for a reason. You wouldn't want your freedoms to be taken away; that would be counterproductive and non sensical. Don't be different just for the sake of being different. Just be who you are authentically 👌

Well said Kainan 😊 Exactly we can be part of anywhere on this planet as long we do things out of our consciousness. Be who you are and listen to whatsoever your heart desires. Have a wonderful rest of the day.🙏

i think you said that backward...

there is an 'I' in individuality....

if you blend in with the crowd - you become a 'we, us, or them'.

'I' can only exist as an individual... that individual can choose to blend into a crowd - and obscure, or give away their 'I-ness'.

Rob, that’s one way to look at it.🤣😂 But we are on the same page here. ‘I’ represents the ego. As being an Individual, you loose the ego from your so-called personality creates not true to your nature.😊🙏

i never had a doubt we were on the same page!! ;-)

i agree with your statement about hate.

love and hate - are not opposites. they are the same!

you cannot hate - if you don't love something else!! these 2 things cannot exist without the other!!!

does that mean, one that loves must hate? NO! but it means that anyone who loves - has the potential to hate, and vice versa.

but - having said that - i challenge anyone that loves anything - to truthfully tell me that they hate nothing.

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so what is the opposite of love/hate - i would argue an alternative. i think apathy is the opposite of love/hate.

love/hate is all about high passion. and the opposite of passion - is apathy!!

apathy neither loves nor hates. love/hate can motivate. apathy DE-motivates! love/hate can cause change. apathy encourages as-is!

living a life - requires love/hate. an apathetic life - is a living death.

trust me on this - i've researched both sides!!! :-(

I take your challenge Rob☝️😁. It depends on how you define hate. Hatred means a desire for the destruction of others. So I can tell you that i have no desire/ego to destroy anyone then I simply do not hate at all 🤷‍♀️🤣😂🙏

ah, Koko... interesting .... we clearly have a different definition of 'hate'.

so maybe we are once again on the same page...

i define hate as having a passionate dislike.

sec...

in fact... i just looked up hate in the dictionary and got:

"to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest"

based on this definition - destruction is not a component of hate - destruction is the result of an action inspired by hate.

💜💜💜👍

Hmmm why go around when you know the result? 🤷‍♀️😂 I’m more action oriented thinker in this case 🤔🙏❤️❤️❤️

Your definition of hatred is incorrect. I refer you to any good dictionary.

It doesn't bother me - but isn't this the sort of guru philosophy that some members do not like?

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ZazenRiver345 in reply to S11m

Sounds like a personal issue for them... I hope they can find peace🙏.

It's not a personal issue when people post things that can harm vulnerable members - it's a safeguarding issue. Perhaps you could research that topic.

Have a good day Marnie22, peace be with u 😌.

So you're not interested in safeguarding issues? That's a shame.

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BTCCET in reply to ZazenRiver345

And also with you 🙏

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BTCCET in reply to Marnie22

Please don't upset yourself anymore over this Marnie everythings been said, the more attention we give them the more they'll crave it 😘

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Marnie22 in reply to BTCCET

Thanks, but I am not upset.

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BTCCET in reply to Marnie22

Ok 😘

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Marnie22 in reply to BTCCET

😊🌸

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MadBunny in reply to BTCCET

Absolutely. Its about time this was all put to bed now ,metaphorically speaking 🤗

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