I’m having a hard time trying to be positive with all that’s going on here in the USA. So much negativity, violence and disaster I just want to curl up in a ball or run away to the wilderness. I’ve worked hard all my life and was hoping for a little peace in my mature years. I don’t hate anyone and just want everyone to get along. It’s bad enough to live with the constant threat of covid without all this other stuff burying us. Just had to blow off some steam hope everyone doesn’t mind.
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Hello Spinner1916,
So sorry to hear you are feeling down. As you say with all that is going on in our world, it can be hard sometimes to remain positive. Mankind can be so destructive at times.
I live in the UK and we are also having to deal with local out breaks of this horrible covid virus. I feel it will be with us for quite some time yet, and will become part of our every day lives at least until the scientists' can find a vaccine or other form of treatments to help lessen its impact upon us.
Just wanted to say you are not alone in how you are feeling at the present time, and its perfectly ok to blow off steam. In fact I think it can make you feel so much better by having a good old vent.!!!
I too have been feeling a bit down just lately, but the kind support of the wonderful people in this community can really help lift your spirits.
The hands of friendship can stretch all the way across the Atlantic 👍
I am sending you a big virtual hug 🙌xx
Take care of yourself and keep safe and well,
Shirley
Thank you Shirley. It was so kind of you to reply and I can feel your hug over here. Without everyone in this group I don’t know what I’d do. It’s just been a hard couple of days and I let it get to me more than usual.
Hi Spinner. I can imagine how you're feeling as there is a lot an anger there at the moment. Do you live near any of it? If so, I would think it's quite scary especially if you have to go out at all. To be honest, there is so much unrest in several countries of the world at the moment, it's like the world is going mad - even the weather's not happy. I can't say try and forget it as I woud feel the same as you, the only thing we can do is hope that there is a good improvement soon. Take care and try to keep your chin up. All the best. xx
Thank you for your kind words springcross. This group holds me together a lot of the time. There has been a lot of violence in the city but not too much locally thank heavens. It just gets discouraging and it’s gray and rainy today too. I keep praying for calmer heads to prevail. Gosh it’s a downpour again. Just started!
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Things always seem worse dont they just because of the fact it's raining!
I think you are right Jerry. I need to cut out the media again. It’s just too negative. I’m still working at 70 and I need it right now. It takes me out of it for at least a while and gives me something else to concentrate on. My job is outside and I Don’t work in close proximity to others so that’s good. It isn’t helping that it’s my day off and it’s raining cats and dogs tho🤨🤨
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That's it if the news upsets you then switch it off and walk away and do something nice for yourself.
They are really negative aren't they as its always doom and gloom even when times are good.
Hi Laurie,
We all need to let off steam now and again and things can get us down suddenly. Sometimes everything just seems to pile in on top of us, and I have to say the world is a pretty mixed up place at the moment in so many ways.
Some problems are just beyond anything we can help deal with and after venting, I think the best thing to do is just to acknowledge that 'it's beyond your control'.
Concentrate for a while on your own corner, not the whole room or house. Take care of your own needs and try not to worry too much about the implications of all the domestic and world events which are so troubling to you.
Sending a virtual hug and hoping you'll soon bounce back! 🌈👍😊
bobbybobbAmbassador
I am so sorry you feel this way and you have every right to feel this way. You are not alone. This morning my 80 year old mum, went out with her friend yesterday and they both came home fed up. My mum said to me this morning, the world has change so much the past few months beyond recognition. I think, we haven't been able to catch up with it all yet. It all takes time to try and get your head around everything. Try not listen to the news as much and try and avoid negative conversations about world events with your friends, just politely, step back from any conversation. The one good thing is that we do know things change all the time and events generally settle down again when issues are resolved or things just move forward. 🌸😊💚
Hi Denise thanks for your reply. I have determined not to watch the news again for a while again. It just makes everything worse and it’s so biased in many instances. I do have a sister who can be pretty negative a lot of the time so I try to limit my conversation with her without hurting her feelings right now. One thing or the other has to start improving sometime! I’ll just hang on to that!
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One thing I have found is that the passing of time helps sort out most problems.
Some of my friends had gone to their local recently as well and like your mum and her friend had returned home fed up and hadn't enjoyed themselves as there was no atmosphere there and they said it was like having dinner in an operating theatre rather than a pub like it used to be.
That's it you feel how you feel and I have had times where I have cried as well over this and so have my friends and I always feel better after a good cry.
How's bobby and Pip getting on? Baby is fine and as fit as a fiddle!
They are fine catgirl and I'm very glad Baby is as fit as a fiddle, that's good to hear. The one thing that is good is that the pet's don't seem to notice the change much, just as long as we are still about to spoil them, they are alright. 😊🌸
No problem at all as we all get times when we feel upset.
I haven't watched the news in decades. Once you've reset a few values the papers really are hilarious
I use published papers that van be easily found on Google scholar for less tainted information. It makes the tabloids look like they're trying to write a 'carrying on' film based on a recipe for stewed apple.
People will never all get along. And nor should they. Confrontation, anger, and even duplicitous self preservation aren't sins. They're all part of feeling alive. What we're missing is a bit of respect for our differences and forgiveness for the moments we would rather not to have remembered.
If the world seems full of narcissist and psychopaths then you've got nothing to worry about. They're so busy with themselves that they won't even notice you watching from afar and chuckling at their self induced maelstrom.
I’ve never heard of google scholar. I’ll have to check it out. I agree that we’ve lost respect for each other as human beings. When someone publicy forgives someone we often can’t understand why they would do it. Not surprising given society today.
I agree and I’m going back to that and reading again. Thank you for your response. I’ve received lots of encouraging comments from the group.
Hi Spinner
It's hard with so much negativity. You are more than welcome to say how you feel on here, we're all here for each other.
Take care🙏
Gillyflower18• in reply to
Thank you so much!
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Thinking of you and we're all here xx
Hi. I can only sympathise with your situation. Things are terrible in US and you must be very sad to see your country with all these problems. Watching the news day in, day out is very depressing as the majority of stories that make the news are not happy ones. I would suggest not watching the news or reading the papers. That will make you feel very down. Read a happy book or watch a happy film instead. Laughter is the best tonic. I know you can't bury your head in the sand and these things are still going on even if you don't read the papers or watch the news but a break from it now and again will be beneficial. Try it. All the best.
Yes you are right it is sad and frustrating! I am cutting back on the media as you suggest because it only makes things worse.
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If something happens that's really important it will come and find you!
I feel much the same way, Spinner1916! It’s overwhelming at times, for me. Our nation seems to be falling apart at the seams. Between the COVID-19, being uncontrollable, partially because of inept leadership, and organization, and the loss of jobs, because of it, along with divisiveness prevalent in Government, and the population in general, coupled with rioting, as a result of racism, and police shooting to kill, and cruelly treating minorities etc., it has been really tough for many Americans! There is little evidence of people, working together for the common good, and showing respect toward others. Many of us elderly, retired citizens, on fixed incomes, are bombarded with rising health care costs, and there is no guarantee, that Social Security income, will be there for us, much longer, especially with many in the government feeling that it is a tax, that Congress has the authority to defund, or stop the program at will, disregarding seniors needs, and robbing the social security “taxes”, enriching their own pockets and/or projects! Prescription costs have risen dramatically in the last 5 years. My wife’s insulin, for example, with Insurance, and Medicare, is $500.00 for each prescription refill! I could go on and on! Sorry for the ranting, but I just want you to know, that many of us elderly citizens are going through this, too, and feel a lot like, the way you do. Feelings are neither right or wrong, so it’s ok to share your concerns, in this forum, where we can all be supportive of each other. For me, personally, this last year, has been particularly difficult, because a few months before the pandemic, my 94 year old Mom, was murdered, by a robber! That was a total nightmare! My wife and I both have progressive, incurable diseases, which doesn’t help matters. We don’t feel safe, and we feel very vulnerable! I am so thankful for the friends I have, in this forum! I hope you feel better soon!
Thanks for your reply, makes me feel very fortunate to live in a country where medical care is paid for out of general taxation, I hope you have access to a garden where the ebb and flow of the seasons can keep you busy. The last storm has just blown my runner beans down, so I am off down the garden to try and reassemble them again.
Sending you love. We certainly are very lucky in the UK to get free healthcare. Xx
You are so right about this forum! The support here is wonderful! I’m so sorry for the tragedy you endured with your mother. Your strength shines through your kind reply.
So sorry you are going through so much. I lost my son and husband within nine months of one another. Now CLL and Covid. I too am weary of the hate and violence. We will get through it all but the daily struggle is very hard.
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It's always the way how these horrible things always happen at the same time!
I love the US and lived there for a time. You certainly have many challenges at the moment. Sending love an hope that things improve quickly. Stay safe. X
I hear you! I am from Los Angeles and seeing everything that is happening just makes me want press the fast forward button on 2020. Like that Adam Sandler movie “click”
Hi I too have had to avoid too much bad news. I feel very sad for what is going on at this moment. I’m sending lots of hugs. Take care.
Hi, Spinner, I think most of us are feeling some moments of discouragement due to the uncertain times we are experiencing now. Having one of those the other day, it occurred to me that while a day can sometimes feel very long indeed, the past few months of self-quarantine have really passed far more quickly than I would have anticipated. Holding onto this thought has helped me realize that we can keep going forward day by day despite the dip in spirits which occur occasionally. Not trying to be a Pollyannya by any means but this thought did encourage me a bit.
Also having this cyber community in which to share has helped me through those uninspired days as well.
I know what you mean. As I’m naturally an introverted sort being by myself a lot is not so different when I’m not working. It has passed fairly normally for me. It’s just all the other stuff that’s got me down. It is discouraging to see how little respect people have for others and differing points of view. You are not a Pollyanna you are a realist and it was good to remind that things will go on and to keep moving forward the best I can👍👍👍
MidoriVisually impaired
I understand. I too hate all the Demonstrations and Marches, looting, etc. I wonder sometimes where the world is heading. I'm in the UK, but with demonstrations we take our cues from the USA.
Sometimes I despair.
Cheers, Midori
I know Mindori. Read through all the lwonderful replies I’ve gotten from the group. They have helped me a lot. Just knowing others feel the same way helps!
Hi
Thats what we re all hear for -. sorry youre feeling down . Positivity is the buzz word I think . Theres a lot of negativity here in the UK too Our PM (Boris Johnson) keeps changing the rules about what we can & cant do because of ignorant youngsters who wont obey the rules & have caused a new spike of this horrible virus
We keep hearing on the TV Trump is trying to get a new term in office (hes not so popular over here either lol)-My American friend who is from Kentucky hates him
We reall friends here - so let off as much steam as you need -we all do it .Were a " family" here on this site
Hello Spinner1916
I understand entirely, I never in wildest dreams thought the US would descend into such negativity and violence. Blessings.
I know I agree! Thanks for understanding!
I know what you mean. It makes you despair at times when you see how humans behave towards each other. Maybe have a break from the media as bad news sells and it can seem overwhelming. That’s what I did. I don’t think it’s good for you to be swamped and overloaded with depressing things you can do nothing about as there is nowhere for that negative energy to go. Just my thoughts. X
• in reply toAgoodenough
That's how I feel that it's pointless to go upsetting myself over things I can't do anything about.
When the news upsets me I switch off and walk away!
Agoodenough• in reply to
Good plan x
Good afternoon Spinner1916,
We all know how depressing the whole world is right now, I really struggle to watch the news.
Although I am a news junky normally and like to know what is happening everywhere.
This is providing challenging right now but we have to try to be positive for our futures....
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If anything important does happen then it will come to find you!
I remember when this first kicked off back in March and I had heard stories about how the exams were getting cancelled and schools were shutting due to the pandemic.
I wasn't ignorant of the virus as I had been hearing stories about it but never did I think anything like that would happen and at the time I had thought it was a wind up as it sounded like something off a horror movie and too bad to be true but oh yes it was!
I had to stop watching tv 3 years ago. I have so much more peace now. I pray for our country but I won't let the negative corvumstances upset me. I still will vote though.
Peace,💗
Tara I think you’re right about this. We all need peace!
I see why your down! I live in Central Florida and we have high numbers of Covid. I also try helping watch my 4 grandchildren 3 of them in elementary school but are being home schooled. Of course everything being done online for school with either adding new things or changing schedules. In the mean time my daughter was promoted in her job and my son started a new job. Parents decided that maybe they should be in school as the whole week their were huge melt downs with the kids. I really felt bad for the kids!! My daughter was really upset as the school told them they had till the end of the week to decide if they wanted back in school but when she called the school on Friday she was told she had to wait for a vacancy. I told her not to get so upset as something might be going on. I kid you not with an hour of that conversation there was a call from the school saying there was some people at the school who tested positive for Covid. It's only the first week back to school! My daughter was saying maybe God was looking out for them...you think. It was a rough week but realizing how lucky we truly are even in all the melt downs with school. I truly love my Grand kids and I thought could you imagine if any one of these little people got sick from Covid. Life is really trying and when add a pandemic along with all the other stuff going on here it just beyond crazy! This last week I have found myself just having to take a second to breath. It's funny but the first thing I thought of is how politicians have pushed schools to open as it's hard on the kids. Well I have seen first hand how my grand kids have been affected. I truly pray for the safety of our Country in every way!! Sorry for rambling.
Don’t apologize! I’m feeling overwhelmed and I don’t even have kids. There’s just so much going on it makes your head hurt! If we could just clear up one of the messes it would help!
Thanks for your kind response. Last week was a bit of a rough week with everything going on but it is getting easier!
I can relate to that!
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