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Ability to cope in times of anxiety underlined by fear

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I would like to say that I am appreciative of those to listen to me.

I have found the whole week to be stressful given the choice ultimately I reached.

I have learnt that fear causes anxiety which is made worse if it triggers past painful circumstances

From this we learn how best to cope and make the best of our resources given our ability to do so

I realise only we can make the changes we want to see for our own betterment only if we actively put the effort in

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Hi Roukaya and good morning,

You must be very pleased that your stressful week has come to an end, and also that you have been able to come to a compromise with your prospective tenant which has led to your being able to rent the apartment.

Life is all about learning and none of us get things right first time on a whole lot of occasions. I think that learning to face fear and accept the anxiety that goes with that is a really rich lesson, because it enables us to get through far more trials and tribulations than just running away because we are afraid and then having to come back and face that trial anyway.

You sound really positive this morning, so I hope you go on to have a lovely positive day, and that you'll enjoy the upcoming weekend. Take care! 🙏

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Hi Roukaya.

Forget the anxiety and fear, and think positive(if you can) your week of dealing with a possible tenant is over, relax and enjoy your weekend.

Take care and stay safe.

😀👍🌈🌹😘

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Roukaya in reply to Veteran250

Good morning

I hope you are well

I am sure you are saddened with the demise of Dame Vera Lynn who made the war efforts sustainable

An Icon in her own way whose legacy lives on forever

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Roukaya in reply to

Good morning

I hope you are well

Thank you for your reply

I found your post yesterday very helpful and encouraging

I have found the week very stressful and has caused sleepless nights

But interesting that you say some people run away from their anxieties

I suppose I have always tackled problems as soon as I can before they become worse

I hope you have a peaceful and restful day

I just wish I could go on holiday like Turkey and experience the beauty and beautiful sea

Visiting Turkey and tasting the food and meeting with the Turkish people is an incredible experience

But we should still be very careful with the virus

Even though we are coming from Lock Down the virus is still ever present

Thank you for your kind understanding

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Morning Roukaya, I think you are right when you say, when we actively put effort in, we do see some results. This is very true and it must have been an incredibly stressful week for you but you have worked very hard and persistently at making the decisions you needed to make this week. You should be very proud of yourself and now the weekend is upon us, it's time for you to relax and have some enjoyment and time for yourself. I hope you treat yourself to something really nice over the weekend because you deserve it. 😊🌸🌼

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Roukaya in reply to bobbybobb

Good Afternoon

I hope you are well

I have been quite tired with the tenant

She has moved in she has asked for a Professional Clean

Again the agent tried to do their best but the contract does allow a Professional Clean

I know within the next few days the tenant will be settling in

I pay the flat to be managed by the Agent and I have asked them to manage the tenants expectations

Thank you for your understanding

How is your painting progressing

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Troilus

Give yourself a pat on the back and move on to the next challenge. You had a tricky situation to sort out, but you did it. Onwards and upwards!

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Roukaya in reply to Troilus

Good Afternoon

I hope you are well

The tenant has moved in now it is the teething problems as she has asked for a Professional Clean

Again as this is in the Tenancy Agreement I have no choice but to accept

How are you ?

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Troilus in reply to Roukaya

I’m very well Roukaya. Thank you for asking. Just doing a bit of gardening. Shame about your tenant wanting a professional clean, but if it is in the tenancy agreement, so be it.

Have you anything planned for today?

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Roukaya in reply to Troilus

Good Afternoon

I am ok

I am sure your gardening gives you a great respite

I am hoping to go to town for a while

I have learnt that in business , sometimes you have to be tough

Just not me

Life is tough

This is why I sold my Fathers property portfolio and this is why tenants and their issues brings everything back to me

I wonder in the next few days how she will settle in

I pay a management fee but it is better they deal with the stresses of property management

I hope you keep safe and well

You wrote: "fear causes anxiety which is made worse if it triggers past painful circumstances"

How true.

Some parents are unaware how their behaviour can ruin their children's lives.

BTW, your estate agent is out of order !!! You are their client who is generating an income for them. If they don't shape up, just take your business elsewhere. You don't need to put up with their bad attitude. File a complaint to the CEO first of course.

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Roukaya in reply to

Good Afternoon

I hope you are well

Given the current economic climate I decided to accept the tenant

She has moved in and she has already asked for. Professional clean as per Tenancy Agreement

The next few days will be her settling in period

I think I should have explained that I managed my Fathers property Property Portfolio had a few bad experiences which some of his tenants

This is why this one brought it all back

How are you

How are you managing in Lockdown

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Regardless, you could still let the head of the estate agent know your dissatisfaction (with their attitude). They are working for you, not the other way around. You don't need to put up with it. Given the current economic climate, the more reason why they should not treat their customers with disrespect.

Professional cleaning sounds good. Hope it all works out.

re Lockdown: Not happy with it that it has ruined so many lives for nothing. It should never have happened. Patients who feel vulnerable should just do self-shielding, wear masks, apply common sense instead.

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Thank you for your reply

How are you

How did you spend your day

The Corona virus has caused so much anxiety and worry

So many lives have been impacted

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Roukaya

Good Afternoon

I hope you are well

The tenant has moved in and has asked for a Professional clean as per the Tenancy Agreement

I expect as she is paying rent she is well within her rights to ask for this

How are you ?

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