I am currently observing Ramadhan in isolation it is day three but it seems to be ok.
The time in isolation gives me too much time to think of past career choices which did not work out.
I am trying to start again at a late stage in life but realising to put the past behind me in order to try again
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Very kind words
Much appreciated
I expect the past can only teach us valuable lessons for the next chapter
Thank you
Are you sure they were mistakes. Normally there is a lesson to be learned from things that were challenging in the past that bring us to where we are today?
Hello Agoodenough,
That is a very pertinent observation, perspective and question. I agree with you.
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I am beginning to think they were not mistakes, infact just a way for me to return back to Derby to look after my Father until he died
The jobs which rejected me were simply never meant for me
it is for me to persevere and find a new road ahead
One door closes - and another opens.
Hello Roukaya,
It appears you’re in a time of deep reflection... we’re all in this together having to isolate to stay safe. Plus it is your holiest time of the year which for any faith, is a deep time of reflection.
I could make out a long laundry list of things I’ve done in the past for which I regret. I have a choice: To let my shortcomings of the past make me feel shame in my present -or- to feel gratitude from my past’s learning experiences so that I do not bring the negatives ones into my present.
I hope you can give yourself some credit that you’ve learned from your past and that you can find some semblance of peace in your present.
And may you and those special to you have a pleasant and prosperous Ramadhan.
All my best,
MZ
Thank you for your reply
I think I have a tendency to look at situations which could have led to a career opening for me at the time
But had that door opened the personal welfare of my late Father would have been seriously neglected and he would have lost all that he had spent a life time working for
In our religion we are taught that everything happens by the will of Allah in the sense it was never meant to be
Thank you for your explanation
I hope so
Be kind to yourself. You have done the best you could with the information you had at the time. I like to draw and am quite good at it, though not "artist grade". When I go to classes and hear people beat themselves up because they think they're no good, I tell them, you're in the class to learn. If you already knew everything you wouldn't be here, or you would be the teacher. I think life is like that. We all look back and think "If only...." But we did what we thought was right at the time. We did what we were ready to do at the time.
Now we are all in a different space. Everyone on the planet is living a life different than we expected just a couple of months ago, and for none of us in this generation will things ever be the same. Every single one of us is to one degree or another looking back and thinking, did I do right? And if we take time now to reflect on what we can change about ourselves so that we emerge from The Great Pause more in tune with our people, with our environment, then we'll have learned a great lesson.
The past exists only in our memory. The future is yet to be. All we have is the present moment, and the gift of life on an incredibly beautiful planet.
Stay safe.
How right you are
It really is the Great Pause
I think my Father now gone told me in a dream on the day of my Birthday
Appreciate your Freedom
He often visits me at important dates
I am sure he knew the Great Pause was on it’s way
I had very little understanding of its meaning at the time and I had visited quite a few countries last year in order to celebrate my fiftieth birthday
In retrospect I was glad I was able to
Thank you
I will continue to try and hopefully I can succeed where I have failed before
This will be a time of great reflection and deep thought for you. Guided by your faith which will give you strength. I was thinking today that I hadn't seen you post for a couple of days but now the reason is clear. It does not matter at what time in life you start again because it will always be a new beginning. Imagine what that means for a moment. A new beginning, an opportunity to walk a different path. A time to embrace new areas of your life and make changes. A time to learn from the past and grow from those experiences and turn them into positive aspects so you have clarity to recognize areas that have let you down in the past. A new beginning is achievable for everyone, that's the greatness of it. Have a wonder evening. xx
I find your words to be incredibly uplifting.
Ramadhan is a time for renewal and purification. The fasting is meant for us to identity with the suffering of others
I should not look back in regret at the past because it contains the seeds to move forward.
All is not lost
I cared for a very ill and vulnerable adult who would have lost all of his life savings and his business had I not intervened to stabilise and sell the business
He was being taken advantage of by a younger woman who set out to defraud him of everything
I made sure he receive the correct care and was him in until he passed on
If I had succeeded in the career I had set out my Father would have lost everything
I think with the hindsight of personal experience I can try to commit towards a new path with greater self belief and conviction knowing that I have succeeded in the past and I can again only if I try with hard work and determination
Thank you for remembering me
I hope you keep well
How wonderful that you were able to take care of your Father, in my opinion that is more valuable than any job or career. He must have felt so comforted being nursed by his daughter rather than by strangers. This is not meant to dismiss the love and dedication shown by those in the caring profession. Their work is invaluable especially now. I believe everything happens for a reason and anything meant for you will not pass you by. We just have to wait for the right time.
We also believe in the same principle
We will only have what is decreed for us by the almighty
I hope you are well keeping safe
Many lessons I have learnt through the human failings of my Father
He was once quite a wealthy person and wasted so much of his wealth on a younger woman
As a result of this I have learnt to give and donate in terms of feeding the hungry which is again a principle of our religion again
I can only give what I can afford to give but more than ever I can identify with those who face a loss of livelihood
I shall quote you what Muhammad Ali said
He dedicated his life post boxing 🥊 to bringing about peace and by giving immensely to charity
He said if I give to charity I want to know there is a heaven and if I give I will see
Heaven
A true hero to me in terms of his sincere and genuine faith
I thank you for your kind reply
Keep Safe and well
I'm good thank you. Helping those less fortunate is a wonderful act of love and kindness and I'm hoping that when coronavirus is behind us the world will be a more compassionate place. I hadn't heard that quote so thank you for sharing. I hope you have some of your favourite food to enjoy this evening. Take care.
Thank you again
Muhammad Ali one of my great all time hero’s
He died in the month of Ramadan
We believe as he died in the sacred month his ascent to heaven was guaranteed
In life we all need hero’s but in our own way we can be our own hero too
I wish you a good evening
It's never too late Roukaya! Tell yourself that every morning! Yes, it takes courage but if you can find it, you can still succeed. We all waste time in our lives and regret some of the decisions we make, but one of the finest things ever said to me is that there is 'no such thing as the wrong decision'. There are only decisions, and when one doesn't work out as we hoped we must simply just make another, and another, until we are back on track. Don't let isolation make you overthink things. Try a simple mindfulness technique to help bring your mind back to the present moment. You can't change what's happened in the past but you can influence what happens in your future by thinking positively about it.
So helpful, thank you!
You are very welcome Begonia50 and glad to have helped.
I hope you are well
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement
I think Ramadan teaches us to have great patience and courage when coping with life’s challenges
We struggle again part of our religion to appreciate the value of what we have
I hope you have a safe and peaceful day
Hi Roukaya,
Yes Ramadan must be a source of great patience and courage and it must surely be more of a challenge this year with life so changed from usual. I think periods of testing in any faith only serve to make us all stronger. And I hope you are feeling strong today as you start a new week. Take care and Ramadan blessings!🙏
Very kind words
Thanks to your kind suggestion which you shared with another member I ordered ten face masks with surgery
Very efficient and reliable
I received the ten marks this morning
Thank you
Hi
I do hot you are enjoying Ramadan. You did exactly the right thing in looking after your Father instead of going after your career. Your Dad will have been thrilled that you were looking after him in his time of need. It's never too late to start a new job if that's what you want. Be proud of what you have achieved. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx 😘♥️🌻
I think everything in life teaches us a great lesson
Nothing is ever permanent and essentially life does change and we have apply to the qualities of resilience and courage to create a new chapter
Many times I should learn not to regret the past but to try to look ahead with the experience and knowledge I have acquired in the past
Thank you for your kind understanding
I hope you remain safe and well
I don’t think you realise just how strong you are Roukaya, you have faced many challenges and survived , every challenge is leading you towards the life you are meant to have. Accept the past and let it go. Smile even when you don’t feel like smiling and feel the love and strength that we are all sending you. ❤️
I hope you keep well
I am predisposed towards depression and anxiety and this is why I have a tendency to look at the past
In our religion especially we are told everything happens by the will of Allah
Everything that happens is decreed
Again I will continue to try and persevere knowing that the right door in the end will open
I think you brighten everybody’s day with your digital paintings
I hope you remain safe and well
Use the past as lessons, don't regret the learning, but make up your mind to not repeat the same mistake.
the past is gone, the future is to come, and the present, is a gift.
Cheers, Midori
I hope you are well
Thank you for reply
I seem to be getting tired with the fasting
Keep Safe and Well
Keep going Roukaya it’s never too late x
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