Dear community members
Every now and then something turns up in the forum space that upsets a few people. In the PMRGCAuk team we want everyone to feel welcome, supported and comfortable. However, we can't be responsible for everybody's feelings all the time. And it doesn't take much for one post to stimulate a whole raft of contradictory or argumentative replies and comments, plus counter-posts, reports of abuse, people saying they are going to leave the forum, and heaven-knows-what.
All of this has to be moderated by somebody, and every now and again (not that often actually) some action has to be taken. More often than not the action is a discreet and hopefully sensitive private message to the poster of the original item. You don't get to see that. If you find that something disappears, please trust that this decision is taken rarely, and with the utmost seriousness, for example, in the latest case, to draw a line under a conversation that was becoming primarily negative.
So here and now I am pleading with you all to trust in the volunteers who are working behind the scenes to make this community work.
Please think twice before you post anything critical of another member. However veiled you might think your criticism is, it's going to be pretty obvious. Trust that we are dealing with it.
Remember how big this community is. We get at least 200 new members every month. What first impressions are we giving if posts are completely off-message? Or we seem to be having little spats among ourselves?
Other than what's in the guidelines (see below), there isn't anything specifically excluded from posting. If you feel offended by something you see in the forum, please take a step back and ask yourself whether you can just ignore it. We are not responsible for your feelings, and neither is the person who posted. If you can't ignore it, for whatever reason, please report it, with your reason, before posting a comment that might just escalate a disagreement. Remember that anybody can get PMR and GCA - including people with different views from you! If you can't say something positive, sometimes it's better not to hit the keyboard.
We have republished the set of community guidelines and this time have pinned them to the right hand side of the screen where everyone can easily access them. Please have a look at them - they are based on a model set produced by HU that you can easily access by scrolling to the bottom of the website.
Thanks, and have a nice day!