Trying intervourse again

[M3t4l]

Hello

Just wondered if anyone has had successful ( for me this would simply mean not painful/nothing to do with enjoyment or not but not painful) intercourse either anally or vaginally when this is against your physios advice?

Take 100mg amitriptyline daily but still in pain, pelvic floor muscle still tight but sometimes i can release somewhat.

physio for 3 years not got anywhere despite practising 5/7 days of the week.

My dads just died and its kind of made me want to go stuff it im going to gently carefully try it. (partner of 7 yrs)

done mindfulness for pelvic pain course

really struggle to focus when doing physio- think i have adhd as does my pelvic pain psychologist but getting diagnoses is a nightmare - might try again next year

have mild asthma

relatively physically fit but sugar intake can sometimes be high.

29yo

dont relax or feel good with my physiotherapist she stresses me out for some reason but we only have one at my local hospital so

previously tried dialtors and got up to the second smallest but then advised to stop as was in intense pain stopping sleep etc.

thanks,

[HashtagNell]

Nothing to stop you giving it a try. It's your body and you're in charge. Use plenty of lubricating jelly, relax with a glass of wine or similar and be loving with your partner. If penetration doesn't feel comfortable when you try it, go for a little manual stimulation. There is plenty of time. A step at a time, work out what works for you both.

[pelvicpain123]

Hi. Firstly, I am sorry to hear about your Dad. That must be so hard 😥.

I have been seeing a physiotherapist for nearly a year and to be honest the progress is slow as I am very anxious and refuse to try dilators again.

Suggestions:

*can you speak to your Doctor to ask if you could have a stronger dose of amitriptyline OR a pain killer to work alongside the amitriptyline?

*I suffer from terrible pain on arousal. My physiotherapist has suggested that I massage my intimate area and use lidocaine before building up to inserting anything. She has also suggested that I get my partner involved in massage too. The lidocaine didn’t work for me as I suffered irritation, but it might be worth a try. If you are comfortable and relaxed after the massage, then you could insert a finger.

*invest in a good lubricant

*could you see a physiotherapist privately?

Thinking of you. This is not easy to deal with but it will get better x

[M3t4l in reply to pelvicpain123]

Thank you i'll ask about some of these and look into options for lidocaine what type of massage are we talking about? Probably unlikely to be able to afford a physio privately but i'll have another google and see/

[pelvicpain123 in reply to M3t4l]

Just massaging/rubbing your intimate area without trying for this to lead to arousal. This is so that I am used to being touched and that it doenst make me have a panic attack.