Support: Anxiety about having a baby

[Resqc]

Hello everyone,

I've been suffering from chronic pain for about fifteen years now (half of my life) and it's really taken its toll. My wife is currently pregnant and I fluctuate between knowing I'm going to love this little bundle of joy as much as I can to feeling drained and terrified about failing as a parent in so many ways.

I hate to sound selfish thinking about not being able to go to physical therapists or pain doctors because I'll be taking care of him, but I guess it's just a difficult situation.

[Madlegs1]

I'm assuming you are about to become a Dad.

That is a wonderful thing to happen in your life.

No matter how much pain you are suffering, this little squidgy bundle of magic will lessen any pain you can imagine.

You will be able to hold it, cuddle it, goo goo at it, and be hopelessly lost.

Do whatever you are able, to support the mother and make life as easy as possible for all of you.

Enjoy.

Oh! And stop worriting.🤪

[Resqc in reply to Madlegs1]

Thank you very much for your message. You are a very kind and sweet soul. I really, really, really appreciate it 😊

[Bananas5]

I presume frm what you say you will be a stay ay home Dad while your wife works? I hope you have thought this throug very carefully

You are unlikely to ;ook after a baby as other would but that fie. With any disability you adapt what needs doing to how you can do it.

Babies don't need to be played with all the time and either as they grow. Play music, cuddles if you can, but no games as others do

abies are a lot tougher tan we reaslise abd with a full tum, clean nappt will be happy but don'y leave it alone while you rest.

I'.m sure you can take baby with ypu but allow yourself extra to,e so you aren't tppt ired

x

[cyberbarn]

Single parent here. Of course you will still be able to go to physical therapists and pain doctors. You will take the baby with you and people will gush over it. They will hold it while you do your exercises.

You don't stay home when you have a baby, you are constantly out and about and the baby goes with you. It will be fantastically fun and you may even find that the distractions of a baby lessens your pain. When you get home, the baby will sleep and so will you. Always rest when the baby rests.

you will be fine, instinct will set in, you will make new friends with others that have had a baby, and a whole new world will open up for you.

[Batty1]

Relax enjoy the ride and be the best dad ever … your fine!

[ashy67]

pain is shit--in pain 6 yrs no help