I was wondering if I could get peoples advice. I’ve been with my partner for 8 years and he’s had his chronic pain for 7 years. He used to be able to sleep in the same bed as me (but wake me up in the night if his pain was bad)
But now he can’t even sleep in the same bed as me, as his pain has got worse over the years he’s ended up not being able to sleep in the same house as me, never mind the same bed!
He now goes to his parents most nights to sleep, as they have a stair lift and it’s easier for him to get up the stairs than it is at home (we live in a small 2 bed terrace house, where the stairs are steep and thin so are unable to have a stair lift installed)
I try my best to understand as much as I can, but I just can’t help but feel alone & unwanted because I go to bed alone, and wake up alone. This is putting a strain on our relationship because I’ve looked for the attention that I should get from my partner elsewhere (which isn’t good I know!)
I just feel like we’re stuck in a rut - I bought a fold up bed to put in our living room so that my partner could stay at home on a night, but sadly his pain gets worse throughout the night and he ends up going to his parents like he would normally.
He’s said he doesn’t want to sleep through the day to catch up on sleep bruise he wants to spend time with me (and with past issues he’s worried things would repeat themselves - which neither of us want)
I just want to try and be understanding with it all, and not cause any more problems for us (but with the loneliness and sleeping arrangements I just feel like we’re in a downward spiral.
How can I sort things?