I have posted many times to this forum and found it really helpful so I'm hoping you guys can help me again. I am the wife of someone who has had an uphill struggle foe the last 8 years. My husband always suffered with back issues and in 2008 he had a discectomy L5/S1 and he was told after the op he would take 6 weeks to recover and he would be up and about - wrong! He has gone though countless spinal injections, has been on morphine and had a visit to St Thomas' to see if a spinal cord stimulator would work (which is didn't). He has been left with nerve pain in his leg. All of this has taken a toll on his wellbeing and on us as a family - we have two daughters who just want their daddy back! He has since been up to St Thomas' to see if he could go on the Pain Management Programme and has been told that he needs to see a Psychologist in our local area before they can take him on. It has taken over 4 months to see this Psychologist and in between all of this he feels very depressed has told me a few times he would rather die than be here. He has episodes of anger. I try to support him as much as I can but it is emotionally challenging for me as well. He is no longer on morphine as I believe it does nothing for nerve pain but he does take amitriptyline and gabapentin. He feels he is useless, can't get a job to support the family, is negative about so many things. I have said he should try relaxation - I just wish he could go on the Pain Programme as I feel this would really change his outset on life. I just don't know what to do!