I WANT TO SAY SORRY' but is it enough ?

Pain makes you grumpy , irritable and angry, and so to all those people I've been less than kind to, I'm so sorry.

[Hidden]

Hello

Just like you I really laid into someone today, sad to say the able bodied cannot see the pain that we all suffer

Please do not worry, PAIN IS A BITCH

BOB

[Calceolaria]

Of course sorry is enough? What else is there? Additionally, I'd like to say thank you because of all your helpful advice, some of which has been of great benefit.

That first question nark shouldn't be there but on this site, my cursor won't make those kind of returns!

[Heorte]

Do you mean here , family and friends or both?

Here you can shout as much as you need because everyone understands. At home you just have to remember to take one day a week to apologise and try to do something special for those who love you - sit and listen to them - don't talk or excuse yourself, just listen!

But here, we don't judge, we listen.

[Boozybird]

Pain makes us both more tolerant and less tolerant. It's bloody hard to juggle and others, with some sensitivity can help us out sometimes.... You ARE allowed to express the darkness and reasonably expect others to 'get it'!

[Hidden]

Saying sorry acknowledges the fact that YOU have been a real pain yourself.

Much better than ignoring your behaviour and expecting others not to be hurt or upset.

I find that if I can acknowledge my crankiness to others it makes me more aware, and helps me rein myself in a bit if that makes any sense if it doesn't put it down to my meds .lol Fiona

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[johnsmith]

Pain can make you "grumpy , irritable and angry". However one can always do something about that. The techniques of Mindfulness and meditation taught by Buddhist monks can alter how we approach pain. It does take time to learn.

Yoga, T'ai Chi and Alexander Technique can change the way we use the muscles of the body. It is very difficult to be angry when you are relaxing muscles and moving muscles in a smooth manner.

Irritation can be helped by changing sleep patterns. Grumpy I don't know it is not part of my experience.

Hope this helps

[katwilson04]

I tend to agree with you! I forever feel like I'm apologising for being grumpy with people, but I also know that I am being grumpy, who wouldn't when you have the most horrendous pain constantly! Don't feel like you have to apologise, at the end of the day, your closest loved ones should understand a little of what you go through, and be on your side, and not take things to heart. It's not an easy subject though!!

[Hidden]

If I said sorry to everybody that I've upset I would be doing it well into my 80's

[katwilson04 in reply to Hidden]

Wouldn't we all!! Just understand your not alone, we all have our bad days and we all have people to be grumpy with, it's part of this new way of life we have been dealt!

[Hidden]

Hi! There! You know what? Saying sorry, and you really mean it, is just beautiful to hear, especically, when someone is on the receiving end of someone's bad mood (whatever their reason). Reading your post started the Door's song - Break on through to the other side - going off in my head - Good for you! Sounds like you are coming full circle! Awareness is soooo healing to all concerned. Try to forgive yourself please, for whatever you feel bad about, hurt feelings take a while to mend - just like physical injuries. Time of reflection on our behaviour when we are in serious pain, is a blessing in disguise!! Alexander McDonald thank you for sharing your new found awareness xoxo