Hello! I have done one month in bed - gone from hospital zero walking ability to meditating my way back to walking stiffly - cannot work and

I am scared of falling again and ending up back at sqare one - help!! - anyone with proven mental techniques to push past the fear?

[welshnut]

I do not know any medical ways of pushing past fear however I do know that taking things slowly and safely building your confidence step by step is the best path forward. Ask for help from physios and Occupational therapists and just take your time.

Good luck

nutty

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I can sympathise, I had to learn to walk again after I spent 4 months in hospital as a 9 year old... easier to just "do" things at that age of course, but I don't remember it being easy even then - I certainly can't offer any miracle technique to help, I personally don't think such a thing AS a mental technique exists, some things you just have to do - start slow and steady, start just by standing only with lots of support around, and people to help too.

The only other alternative seems to be letting the situation beat you, and you can't do that, it's not fair to yourself!

Good luck, fear itself is often worse than the reality!

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Hello BOB here

Sadly part of the conditions that we suffer can cause a form of reclusive problem, I am a sufferer also, although since I have moved away from a town I now feel better than I did before.

All I can suggest is that you ask the GP to refer you to a CPN or Occupational Therapist to try and sort this problem out.

It is difficult and personally I feel that this in my view is more of a problem when we live in a city or town where the population has no care or understanding of our problems or condition and in my case harassment was very severe in my case. I suppose we all cannot live in a Hamlet or Village so that we can protect ourselves from hurt and victimization

All I can really suggest you try and introduce going out in small bits, go to your front door and stand outside for a time with the door open, then after a time close it while outside, then go onto the street next to house and just go on like this to get confidence back, there is no easy way, even now I can still have problems and it is so easy to ask your partner to go outside on their own to visit shops etc. I have a Collie that I think the world of and I still have problems.walking Him

So little little and be kind to your self every time you make progress

All the best

Bob

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What great progress you have made. Slow and steady is the only way.

There is an excellent on line self help positive thinking blog called positive provacations. When you sign up for the news letter you get weekly info. Sometimes its just reading about other peoples experiences, sometines it gives you little tasks to do.

The lady who writes it also gives free councelling by

email if you find a need to talk through some aspects.

The website is PositiveProvacations.com

If this one doesn't suit you, there are many others out there searching self help or positive thinking will bring you many more.

I use hiking sticks on my wobbly days, sometimes one sometimes both. I dress in walking gear and no one bats an eyelid as to why I'm using the walking poles. It's amazing how much more confident I feel about walking and nowhere is off limits now, hills, cross country etc. If I'm in the city, people just assume I'm training for a longwalk. I like using them because you hold them at shoulder height, your arms get a work out too.

There are plenty walking groups you can join. They are gentle as the slowest person sets the pace and distance. It may be that you would feel more confident about walking with other people there. The leaders are trained in first aid and will spring into action if you do fall. Its also a good way to meet different people to maybe your usual friends, and some who find walking a challenge too.

What ever you decide to do, take it slowly and look at the overall progress rather than the day to day.

[patriciaol]

Well done to get this far.I agree hiking sticks can help. i also find prayer can give me confidence. ok many don't believe but yoy never know!!

[peacesupporter]

Hello, see if you can get hold of Vidyamala Burch's new book - Mindfulness for health or her previous book- Living well with pain and illness. Both contain excellent information on coping with pain and suffering, using mindfulness. Website is breathworks.org.

[peacesupporter]

Hello, see if you can get hold of Vidyamala Burch's new book - Mindfulness for health or her previous book- Living well with pain and illness. Both contain excellent information on coping with pain and suffering, using mindfulness. Website is breathworks.org.

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Thankyou all you beautiful people! Knowing someone cares truly does help♡I can't personally reply to each -but - Thankyou - very commonsense and practical thoughts and guess what the alternative....well you are right not doing that! Front door here I come.well maybe tommorrow! Can't wait to get my hands on those books - hope you guys dont mind if I visualise you as my support group, I live in a little "country at the beach" village in oz -so not much chance of hitting a capital city soon...Thankyou for caring...Joolzzz.

[johnsmith]

There is nothing wrong with fear. It is a valuable emotion that warns you about things that need to be taken account of.

Oz has Buddhist Monestries and a well flourishing Buddhist Community who can teach you about Meditation and Mindfulness.

Auatralia is the country where the Alexander Technique was born and there must be plenty of Alexander Teachers there who are well versed in dealing with the issues of fear and the ability to walk. They are worth looking up.

Hope this helps

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Thank -you! I got stuck into researching the Alexander technique - well one thing led to another... Sorry took this long to acknowledge you - seriously. The "buddhist" way of thinking/living does belong to a better way of life -way back...can't remember why I walked away...thanks for the "refocus"...