How do others cope? I went out for a birthday lunch with my 'best' friend in march. Had wine. Moaned and cried about my pain, life, worries. All my deepest feelings laid bare...I know good birthday! I'm not usually one to moan and I've guarded my feelings about pain over the years and said very little. So, when I don't hear from her until Friday I'm a bit confused. She texts and asks me how I am. I text back that I'm sad and miserable. She texts back with surprise (!) and asks me what's wrong. Is it just me or does anyone else think REALLY!! Is that the sum total of 35 years of friendship. I've got a suitcase of stories like that. What has happened to human kindness and caring! Gah!