Need advice please

[Jacquiemoo]

I have posted on here on my situation. Diagnosed with stage 3c fallopian tube cancer. Went into remission and now it came back with enlarged lymph nodes that are netastatic. I'm on carboplatin and dexol now, 2nd treatment coming up next week. My question is has your husband or partner treat you differently? Mine is being overly, almost too much trying to make me happy. I'm not being sad, I accept where I'm at. He gets mad and actually yells that I don't care that he's trying to help me. Now he isn't even talking to me as I know he's mad that I told him he has to calm down and I will let him know when I need help. Anyone else going through something like this? I'm really stressed out and afraid to even talk to him right now..thank you for your response..

[Lyndy]

That’s difficult to navigate Jacquiemoo. Mine’s also a bit like that but then when I was having a panic attack and asked him to talk to me he started talking about the football (he knows nothing about football).

Your man sounds frightened- perhaps he needs someone who isn’t you to talk about how he’s feeling?

This journey takes so much out of our close relationships, I have realised I needed help… perhaps everyone involved need support of one kind or another.

Hope you find a way forward that works for you both xx

[Jacquiemoo in reply to Lyndy]

Thank you, you are right I know he's freaked out literally but he shouldn't be so mean and trying to make it my fault and he has talked to people about it. So happy you have a good one there. We just have to be strong and glad we can support one another here. Thank you

[Sunsetime]

hi Jacquiemoo , I think I can relate. My husband is very supportive and in times when he might be feeling powerless in relation to my cancer he becomes very protective and wants to do everything for me and in turn I feel even less in control and get frustrated. It’s tough for everyone in the family . Hope you can find the right time and words to talk with your partner to move forward. Take care Xx

[delia2]

Hi. My husband has been different each line of chemo. Initially he was like your husband , doing too much for me but being stoic about his feelings. After that chemo ended we had to see a therapist to get him to let me be normal. First recurrence he was angry and upset. This time he’s taking it more in stride. He understands that I want to live as normally as I can. It’s hard to communicate about it but it’s probably good he’s talking to others about it. He needs support too. A support group or counseling could really help.

[Jacquiemoo in reply to delia2]

I thank you, I realize it now, looking into The Gilda Club for support for both of us..

[candyapplegrey]

I understand you ladies might be frustrated but it seems like a nice problem to have. I'm lucky that I have my sister and we go through angry and upset a lot together but some people have no one or someone they cannot tell because that person would fall to pieces. xx