Hello all! I've been recommended this forum through a friend who works in oncology. I'm looking for ways to support my mum who has stage 4 ovarian cancer.
In November last year mum was diagnosed with possible stage 3, suspected ovarian endometrium origin. Following 4 rounds of taxol and carboplatin she was operated on in January 2020. During the laparotomy the surgeon was unable to remove any of the mass because it had spread to part of her bowel and also blood vessels to her liver. Following this op she was home for a fortnight after she came out of hospital, then back in for pancreatitis (triggered by gallstones, gone unchecked following her cancer diagnosis). Sadly mum had several other hospital admissions towards the start of this year, which prevented further chemo. Then the world was struck down with the blasted coronavirus so treatment inevitably paused.
For the first 6 weeks of the lockdown mum was on letrazole tabs, she was bright and coping well but then their effectiveness ceased. She had another CT scan and the cancer had progressed, started back on chemo in June (caelyx and carboplatin) which reassured her to a degree but her post chemo symptoms are different to what she knew before. She often feels ill supported by her chemo team, even before the pandemic - she's never had a good relationship with her consultant, who is quite difficult. She used to speak to the registrar and got along with her better, but they've been moved along to a different team since the virus. Now when she has pre chemo phone consultations it's with various oncology medical professionals, as I'm sure staff are stretched in the NHS currently, so she's lacking any kind of consistency. She's doing her best to take all of this in her stride but I know she's suffering. I'm doing what I can to help but I think she would really benefit from talking to some ladies going through something similar. I forgot to mention her best friend has moved to the other side of the world temporarily which really hasn't helped!! I encourage her to talk to me as much as she feels she can, which I think she appreciates but I think her connecting with people (with shared experiences) would be good for her. My mum is 61, she's just had her third round of Caelyx and we are now waiting for more information about another scan.
Sorry this is probably very long and rambling, just trying to give as much info as possible. Mum has joined an online tai chi class which she's enjoying, I feel like maybe if there are online zoom groups she might benefit from this? I've shown her Ovacome, she's in the process of setting herself up on here too. I've also found a link to the Friday q&a sessions but anything else would be really appreciated.
Thanks so much for reading x