Hi there, I realise this might be a delicate topic but I'm wondering if anyone has any advice or tips for me!
I've been in the surgical menopause since August 2010 after having a BSO at age 33...unfortunately I can't have HRT as my tumours were oestrogen-receptive and I'm finding some aspects of the menopause really difficult to deal with. At the moment I'm really struggling with the fact that my sex life and that whole side of my being and my relationship has been completely derailed by the effects of the surgical menopause. It seems that whatever I and my partner try, sex is painful, and that makes me want to avoid it, and then I feel guilty about my partner (who is eternally patient and kind) and sad that I'm no longer the person I was. On my darkest days I feel like telling my partner he could look for someone else and I would understand, since my body doesn't respond the way it used to, no matter how much I wish it does. It makes me so sad.
I'm wondering if anyone else has experience of overcoming difficulties with sex after surgery or menopause, and if so what your advice would be?