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Still a virgin at 49

I am 49 underwent hysterectomy 2 years ago. I met a man of my life and for the first time I experienced intimacy but my biggest problem is it's very painful when he tried to penetrate. Said he felt there's a hard walI barring. Tried water based gel and my doctor prescribed tibolone and taking it for 2 months but still painful. No penitration happen until now. Doctor again prescribed vagifem 3 times a week. Is it safe to take tibolone and vagifem. Please help...thank you

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I can't answer your specific question, but I know when I had radiotherapy 10 years ago for cervical cancer it basically shrunk/tightened the vagina and I suffered from dryness and had blood having intercourse. I was prescribed an estrogen pill (on a long stick that you insert). However with current diagnosis I don't think estrogen is a good idea. My oncologist told me that regular sex would help. I was single at the time, I did ask if she could put that on a prescription for me!   So maybe just keep at it, maybe Epsom salts bath and sexy massage from you man to help relax all your muscles first. Cannabis also works as a muscle relaxant.


Something I picked up from this website was to use a small amount of coconut oil, about the size of a tiny finger nail.  It has been working for me for several months.  Good luck.


I would go to a gynecologist to ask what could the problem be. It might be due to a mistake in the operation. Have your vagina checked.


"A hard wall baring entry" sounds very similar to pelvic floor dysfunction.

(Muscles don't just weaken. Sometimes they get to strong and lock.)

A few women I know with endometriosis have trouble with it, and have a lot of luck with pelvic physical therapy.


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