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Hi never really spoken out on anything like this before but I just want some advice , I have suffered with depression and anxiety for many years and on medication for it . I have been struggling the last few months not wanting to do a lot , forcing my self to do things . I have used people to make my self feel better and then feel guilty and i keep going round in circles I have become selfish and want every thing to be about me and it’s not like me . I have been drinking a lot more than I normally do I consciously think people are judging me I’ve lost my way . I’ve done cognitive behaviour therapy before but that soon becomes a distant memory after a few weeks of doing the course . I’ve tried 1 to 1 councillors and not really done anything for me . Anyone in a similar situation or can recommend anything X

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I think a factor could the alcohol. Remember that alcohol is a depressant, and if you drink at all it is likely to undo all the good the medication does for you. The small print that goes with the medication usually reminds you not to drink at all.

I'm not trying to be moral here. But it is possible to have fun with family or friends without drinking. I do!

It can be difficult to get out of the mire of depression, but allow the meds to work without the alcohol, and you should feel at least a little better. Depression responds to CBT, which can be difficult when you don't feel like doing much, but is still worth the effort.

I often suggest people get a self-help book. Overcoming Depression by Paul Gilbert and Mind over Mood by Dennis Greenberger and Christine A Padesky are both very good. It does require a little effort on your part, but as you feel a little better you will be more inclined to put in the work.

I've been in a similar place to you. Don't force it, and don't feel you have to put a face on and make out you're feeling great. But a little effort here and there can go a long way.

Try not to beat yourself up with guilt. At the moment your self esteem is likely to be low. But as you said, it's not like you. It's possible to rediscover the real you.

Yes, I agree with Sallyskins about the use of alcohol. I have had to give up alcohol because of how it affected my moods and emotions, and even my sense of physical well-being. Sobriety really can be a game-changer, especially with depression and anxiety. When I was drinking I used to feel very self-centred, too. Now, I really try to focus on the needs of others and on being a good friend. Sobriety works for me.

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