Hi. This is my first time here..I really need someone’s sincere and helpful advice about a situation I have dealt with regarding Sexual Oriented OCD (SO-OCD) I deal with and how that has been a predominant conflict that has effected my current relationship.
Here is my question: if I suffer from unwanted and sexual intrusive thoughts of any kind which tends triggered me with anxiety and guilt..I go through these exhaustive conversations as I try to explain these issues to my girlfriend. We undergo major conflict which has led to two reasons: first, because I have a challenging time explaining how to be clear about my thoughts (i.e. intrusive thoughts..yes.. in addition to experiencing thought-action fusion components as well which basically means having these thoughts might actually feel the same as carrying out the action of those thoughts ) and second, my girlfriend places a heavy emphasis on requiring she feels I am “loyal” by NOT cheating and if I am pure to her in every facet of our relationship (i.e. both in thought and action)..
Furthermore, how do I explain to her dealing with SO-OCD is NOT my intention nor ever will be to cheat on her; leaving her feeling suspicious about me and insecure, so that I can relay clear advice to her in such a way that will lead to healthier communication between us and clarity so that she understands better about what I mean?
Thank you very much in advance for your help!