OCD and Anxiety advice for my 17yr old daughter

Hi i am after some advice if anyone can advise please. My 17yr old has been sufferring with what i thought was a bit of depression and stress, she has been pulling out her eyelashes and hair and got reafered to cbt therapy. My daughter left the councilling and informed them she was feeling alot better, but informed me last night that this wasnt the case! My daughter thinks that she is mental and needs help, i asked her the reason why and she informed me that she thinks she has ocd and anxiety problems, due to doing the list below.

Feeling worries all the time

worried about not turning off her hair straightners and going back 4 times to check that they are turned off.

if shes ill she worries she may pass it on to someone and kill someone.

pulling and tugging her hair and not realising she is doing it

not being bothered about how she looks but then worrys when she is out and about of what people think of her.

tapping her hand so many times

when eating food she goes round the plate in order and doesnt eat it as a meal.

Thinking negative thoughts all the time.

I have made her a doctors appointment for today hopefully, i just want to try and understand and be there for her to help her get through it. I just want my girl back :-( Thanks for listening i appreciate any feedback

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  • Hello, 

    I have been in your position. My daughter was 18 when she had her first big OCD spike.  Our family had been through a few traumatic events and my daughter was diagnosed with depression and anxiety then one weekend, she was just not right. I kept asking if she was okay and she'd say "yes" but I knew she wasn't. On the Monday I got everyone else off to school then went to my daughters bedroom, sat on the bed and she just looked at me and cried. She then gave me, what would've been her suicide letter. I read it and then I cried!  

    In the letter she told me she'd been having thoughts that she might harm her siblings and that she must be a terrible person for thinking such things and that she felt she had to kill herself to protect them from her but now she felt even worse because she couldn't even bring herself do that! 

    And I'm SO glad she didn't. 

    OCD, is EVIL. it takes your worst fear and uses it against you. It also doesn't usually affect the arrogant, couldn't care less person, it's usually the sensitive, nice people who feel guilty if they upset someone. 

    The hair pulling I'm also familiar with as my middle of my 3 daughters pulls hair. It's called Trichotillomania officially.

    OCD and other conditions are often found together and one of the common co-morbid conditions is Tourettes.  Trichotillomania comes under the tourettes umbrella. 

    There's different medications that can help with Tourettes that not used in OCD/anxiety and they, plus some therapy that is specific may help.

    Also, just knowing that you are not alone, you're not the only person who feels like this can help and that goes for Mum too!  It's hard to see your child (no matter how old they are) going through such torture. 


  • When his patients find themselves involuntarily thinking undesirable thoughts, Dr. Schwartz encourages them to recognize this as merely a symptom of their OCD. He instructs them to think, “It’s not me, it’s my OCD.” It is not their true, inner person who is thinking such thoughts. The involuntary thoughts are merely a symptom of a portion of their brain that is malfunctioning.

    Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior, Jeffrey M. Schwartz, MD, observes “No one ever does anything morally objectionable because of OCD.”

    Dr Schwartz explains that there is actually an area of the brain that shows hyperactivity in those who suffer from OCD. It is called the orbitofrontal cortex, and it is located on the underside of the front of the brain. It is believed that one of the functions of the orbitofrontal cortex is to help us assess the risks, punishments and rewards that will result from our behaviors. PET scans reveal that there is excess activity in this region of the brain in those who are going through an OCD episode. Does this mean that the orbitofrontal cortex is damaged in OCD sufferers? Perhaps not. If the orbitofrontal cortex is constantly at work evaluating the consequences that could result from undesired thoughts during an OCD episode, then this hyperactivity of the orbital cortex may possibly be a result, and not the cause of OCD. 


  • You may find some helpful information on this site about Trichitillomania howtostoptrichotillomania.com/ All the best.

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