What do you do..I'm retired
Well had the final meeting at work this morning and am "dismissed due to ill heath" so ...retired....today. Always thought i would go out after waiting and telling everyone for a few months and everyone would have a do and it would be exciting but no such luck. Just a formal statement and bit of "niceness" and off you go thanks for the last 35 years of unpaid overtime, working on days off, 24 hour on call etc etc!!!
ye i know that sounds bitter, but i'm annoyed at RA, at being sick, at not running around like i used to, and what am I gonna do. I've had all the well, you can garden and bake and stuff, but i'd rather be in ITU saving lives and feeling valuable.
And i used to feel good when people would say what to do you and was always proud to say Theatre sister, Intensive care sister, health visitor, its gonna be so strange. Wish i had planned to do something today as i just feel as though i've been kicked in the gut.
I do know that its for all the right reasons but gonna miss it, and even though everyone tells me its horrid in the nhs at the moment I think its just the shock of going every day until last year and then BAM!!
Oh well thanks for letting me moan on. If anyone has any jokes to cheer me up , put them up pleeze!
Allanah,i got made redundant 21/2yrs ago and it felt like a hammer blow. What to do now that is the question. It hurts doesn't it finding out that as hard as you work,due to your health you no longer of any use.. Like you i hate ra as it has taken a lot away from me. My hubby is 12yrs older than me and i always expected to look after him not the other way round. If you want a laugh look at some of the replies i made to LL blog that she has just posted. I try to be upbeat but at the moment i'm struggling with that. Give yourself some time to get over the shock of having to retire and if there are a few tears let them shed and after you have got over the shock sit yourself down and do a list of things that you would like to do when you actually did retire. Then whittle them down to things that can be done with ra in situ and then work round the list like that.
love sylvi. xx
Thanks Sylvie, always helps when someone else has been through it. U do feel as though its only you. Axx
Yes you do allanah,I hardly see any of my work friends now. I am in a lucky position of having a good hubby. I wouldn't have managed without him. I think if i was on my own i would have started drinking again and then it would have finished me off. So i appreciate that man more than he ever knows.
We will all have to set up a to do list and see how it compares to each other.
you are entitled to moan so moan on LOL.
So sorry you have been made to finish work!!
i can totally agree with you, this happened to me last year, i knew i couldnt carry on doing my job but i always thought i would leave it when I wanted to, and not when i was told too, i felt abit lost and lonely at 1st, I was totally angry with RA not so much for me having the disease but the fact that it took my job away from me.
Yes i too moaned about my work place at times but i do so miss it, not just the job but my friends that i had worked with for many years,
i still see my work colleagues as we meet up for lunches or evening pub meals but over time i am starting to feel abit left out.
it is so hard when people ask me "do you work" when i reply "no i dont anymore" it makes me feel so lazy and really worthless, i always thought when i retired i would cherish having a bus pass ha ha ha but i didnt even get onne of them Lol.
Maybe we should all bombard the local train stations and all meet up and become the ladies who do lunch with RA.
Dont let it get you down, 1 good point is that you can look forward to summer and enjoy the sun instead of going to work and being too tired of an evening.
take care x
Scouser,you can get a disabled bus pass, i know thats true as i have one. So go to your council and get one. They don't cost anything and they take your photo there and then.
on my way!!! Axx
Yes you totally get it! I know they will ask me for so long but then there's not a lot in common. I'm finding that with "friends" too, a lot of the acquaintances are drifting, cos i don't have much to talk about and not the party animal i was at one stage.
And yep would love to get the train and meet up!! Axx
I too am now retired, although I chose to do so as I hit the magical age of 60!
I could have gone on but to be honest I missed work and colleagues like mad for the first year,even thinking maybe I would go back to work again but I'm glad I didn't. It's so much easier not having to explain about how you're feeling and with my job as a castle tour guide and room steward it was getting very difficult managing spiral staircases as you can imagine!!
Now it's been a year and a bit and to be honest I'm loving my retirement. My daughter is expecting a baby in December so I'll have two grandchildren then to babysit and visit with, so look to the future and you might see some light at the end of the tunnel.
thanks, yes I have three kids so maybe grandkids looming, hope they trust me now as I'm unfit though
This is a big shock to the system isn't it? It happened to me and it took me a while to come to terms with feelings of being unwanted, useless, etc. I went through the classic bereavement list. Anger, depression, denial, sadness, ...
I think you could use your NHS skills on yourself! Be the patient, if you see what I mean.You have actually had a bit of a trauma (seriously) so you need to plan to spend the first few weeks being very kind and patient with yourself. Have a 3 month Sabbatical! Spoil yourself somehow.
One of the things I did was to join a couple of classes doing Yoga and Tai Chi (to get out of the house.) I met some really nice people and occupied myself in slowly getting fitter. (I am much healthier now than I was while working.)
Another thing I did was I went to talk to the Disability Advisor at the job centre to tell them what had happened and what should I do next. They told me to claim Incapacity benefit (now ESA) so my National Insurance would be paid and my pension would not be affected.
Maybe there are lots of things you couldn't find time for when working. Like Sylvi says, make a list! By the way, there is nothing like being able to lie in in the mornings when you feel bad. Or putting your feet up in the afternoon to read a good book. Just because you can.
Good luck with this new chapter in your life.