Is it just me

[Nurseratchette]

So last week left work early as couldn’t focus due to pain. Had a chat with my manager yesterday and realised that everyone wants to know why in pain. I then realised I feel the need to give a reason ie oh it’s the weather or I’m tired ect. So this time I didn’t I just said there is no reason for my pain other than having RD and for me it’s about managing varies levels of pain daily. Amazingly it went quiet . I’m no longer going to make excuses for why I feel like I do because why should I.

[janny55]

Exactly why should we, although I don’t wish RA on anybody I would like them to live in my body for a day to realise what it’s like, most people and I don’t really blame them but they just think it’s an illness that will clear up soon like a very bad cold, then you get the others that say, oh yes I have a bit of arthritis in my fingers that flares up now and again🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ NO it doesn’t it’s with you all the time 🤷‍♀️ not only living with the pain,it’s things like I was so happy I got some washing on the line at 9.30, pre RA I would be up before 6.00 washing out, dog walked, dinner prepared al that before I went off to work, it’s not only the physical pain it’s the mental pain as well🤷‍♀️ sorry for going on and on 🙄😁🤗x

[Gnarli in reply to janny55]

You go girl! As a rant, it was very brief and I'm sure most here will be empathising like mad. Hugs

J

[janny55 in reply to Gnarli]

Lol Gnarli oh do you think I could of gone on a lot more 🤣🤣xx

[Gnarli in reply to janny55]

Well I could have but I'm pretending to be ladylike at present.

[janny55 in reply to Gnarli]

Ha ha ha ha ha I know me too but it’s hard to be lady like 🤣🤣x

[Gnarli]

Good for you. People uneffected by our nasty condition mostly don't 'get it' and aren't they lucky.

J

[hatshepsut]

Well said!

[Cherub198889]

I'm so proud of you for telling the truth. No more sugar coating the reason why you are in pain.

[sjhewitt42]

Well done to you. Most of my work colleagues don’t know. My boss does although he told me I look fine! I feel like I’ve been hit around the head today and still at work. Not sure how long I can paint the smile in for. You have done a good thing by telling people and at least you don’t have to make any more excuses xxx

[Nurseratchette]

Follow on from my post! One colleague who said wow I can’t believe your in pain every day but you know my friends friend just dropped dead at 55 so you are lucky really😭 I nearly said some days I wish I would drop dead to get away from this pain but thought this might be to much honesty

[Rubyroo1]

I did the same, people were asking others at work what was wrong with me, instead of asking me directly, in the end I sent out an email with a link to the NRAS website, still people don't understand it or say "oh my mum/dad/I have pains, trying to explain its not the same doesn't seem to get through ! sigh!