My pip tribunal

[Clare4447]

Hi all that has been following my post!! I wanted to update you all that i have now applied to the court for the tribunal hearing To support my case i asked my daughters manager to write me a letter to say how she makes adaptions fir megan when she gets anxious upset or high levels of stress at work and generally how she supports her Today i recieved the letter and it paints a picture of her doing well at work and coping well etc which i know different and her manager says im mothering her and stopping her from being independant and that she dont see the side of my daughter that i deal with on a daily basis!!! Im so hurt and angry!!!!

[Clare4447]

Hi i dont have any other professional involved in her care tofay so i now feel i will loose my case

[Clare4447]

Her manager had painted a picture of her doing well at work and didnt highlight any support that she gives my daughter when shes having anxiety and stress at work!! So i feel she has now ruined my chances at court!

[Clare4447]

I did the self assesment online and she would of scored 18 points in total in my opinion

[Clare4447]

It just seems any help im trying to get is all going against my opinion of my daughters care and needs she also has spd a sensory condition as well as aspergers and ocd traits

[Clare4447]

I have fightback4justice fighting my case but i worry i will loose again aghhhh

[Clare4447]

Yes im hoping they win for my daughters sake

[Jonno96 in reply to Clare4447]

sorry to hear about your daughter I hope she gets the help she deserves.

[sylvi]

Words fail me i am so sorry.xxxx

[Ruth12345]

So sorry. Same as Sylvi. Ajay is very helpful with his points. All the best.

[Jewels94]

Has she got any colleagues at work that provide her with support? In my experience management haven’t got a clue what goes on day to day, and it is those people that work alongside that see the struggles. You could also write a diary detailing what you do for her on a day to day basis.

[Clare4447 in reply to Jewels94]

Hi yes there is one girl that shes connected with maybe ill ask her if she could write something for our case? Im not sure if it would hold at court though?? What do you think?

[Jewels94 in reply to Clare4447]

On the turn to us site it says that letters from people who help you are good things to submit. I definitely don’t think it would do any harm and will provide evidence from another perspective.

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Clare

I'm so sorry that's happened: manager shouldnot have made personal remarks about mothering; how dare she, shows her own lack of knowledge about ASD and equalities act as clearly making no adaptations.

Pip is always about how disability affects you: your daughter can't cook, plan journeys and is at disadvantage socially and communicating her problems. Definitely do a week's diary to show daily impact, nras booklet on pip was really good on this and CAB online. Just a thought, do you have anything from when she was at school, reports, statement etc, they must have made concessions, asd lifetime condition.

It must be so stressful for you, hard living with it let alone being forced to prove genuine. I had nightmare proving my son's when younger, tribunals etc, he's dyslexia/dyspraxia not asd. I worked with secondary kids with asd, life is hard for them. Keep records, copies of everything and take care of yourself: you are a brilliant mum!😄

[Clare4447 in reply to Hidden]

Aww thank you for your lovely message Myself and my partner try so hard to support our daughter to develop into a young lady but we regularly battle issues where at times we have no answers and feel it makes things worse My daughter is such a sweet loving girl but the smallest issues can turn her world upside down We worry for her future She is 18 now but although trying to work to fit into society we regularly battle with her anxieties of trying to cope in the world and because shes now working PIP decided she no longer needs help but she so does!!! Shes a different girl at home to how she portrays herself in society x Her meltdowns are distressing to see and i feel helpless not knowing how to deal with them

[Hidden in reply to Clare4447]

So sorry Clare, i would put all that in pip too, even tho it's hard writing it; my son used to come home from school like that; they thought he was fine cos quiet there! safe to let it all out at home. I truly hope you and partner get some justice; you must be worn out. Xx incredibly good luck with appeal

[medway-lady]

I think I'd be cautious and as no health professional is involved at the moment try to get the GP involved. Its hard to see how just your opinoun will be enough to change the decision of the board. This is because its subjective and so please try to get some professional and objective medical advice. I wish you well and hope you do get the result you'd like.

[Clare4447 in reply to medway-lady]

I had my gp involved who wrote a letter about the things megan needs support in eg she cant cook or travel alone etc and PIP rejected it saying i told the gp what to write !!! Grrrr

[medway-lady in reply to Clare4447]

Thats weird no GP will just write anything not true, its more than their career is worth. Have you shown him that rejection as it might help you.

[Clare4447 in reply to medway-lady]

Hello yes i told my gp that PIP rejected it and why and gp said sorry but theres no other way she could of written it as she doesnt see my daughters behaviour at home !! It costed me £30 for a letter that was no help at all Aghhhh

[medway-lady in reply to Clare4447]

Does'nt seem to be any solution really I'm sorry about that and I hope that you can get some help.

[popsmith1874]

It's an absolute disgrace and just shows what an unfair and stressful sham of a system we have to go through, hopefully everything works out in the end xxx