Oh just a little bit , ooh just a little bit more - please!

Do 15mins then rest for more then 15mins. Break it down into manageable portions, and anthing you find difficult get hubby or someone else in the house to do it for you. If your girls are of a age to help then rope them in to helping you,make it a game for them. Say things like mummy needs you to do this for me and get some sweets if you want to give them when they have completed the job. Get hubby to help as well,you can give him some sweets as well if you want!!!!!! Make a game of it for your girls. Merry christmas to you and your family and get them all to help you.xxxx

I too struggle with pacing. I had gotten pretty good when it was just the MS. But when the RA and fibro diagnoses came in I could never longer do work and family life and I was driving myself into the ground. After trying for a couple of years I could no longer work. So.....

Even though I was sad to leave work. I liked the people, the job, and the salary. But I thought there would be a silver lining in that I would be able to become adept at pacing for my energy level and guess what? Sometimes I am not too bad at it and other times I am not very good at all. So be patient with yourself you will become the most expert at knowing your limits and what you need to do to guard yourself.

When I finally realized working within my limits was not giving in....if they are your limits they are you limits. It's an "is" for you.

Things that helped me were not expecting as much around the house needed to be done they I fought it should happen. I borrow, trade for and sometimes pay for help I need. Keep up with exercise; I am convinced it is as powerful as some of my drugs. Meditation and simple yoga are also helpful.

Good luck. You will learn to do this for yourself. Forgive yourself for what you cannot do. It's okay.

Eiram, it's obviously love that keeps you going. I hope you and your girls have a wonderfull Christmas ,be kind to yourself and put your feet up when you can.

I'm very fortunate my wife and boys ( now middle aged) look after me. It must be difficult having this awful R.A. With a young family.

Kind regards and seasons greetings.

Mike

Hi Eiram50. I always prided myself how clean my house was at Christmas and how I had everything under control. That seems like another life time ago now. Not saying that the house is dirty or anything like that but have just had to come to terms that everything cannot be as perfect as I used to like it. This disease has put a stop to all that, now, like everyone says, you just need to pace yourself and do what you can when you can. Houses will be here when we are all gone. The main thing is loving your family and being glad we can still enjoy Christmas with them. Hope you have a great Christmas with your loving family. Xxxx

Well that's all the family and grandkids away home now and although I love them to bits it's great to get the peace and quite back , just me and my lovely wife❤ Vegging out watching TVs and she made a great feast for all off us today considering she was working till 1 today I love her to bits and am grateful as she looks after me so well since I was landed with RA ,OA and Angina hope you all had a lovely day take it easy xxx

Thank you everyone for your kind words and advice. That's the last

Of family and friends gone - they arrived mid day and its

Been non stop with three options for each course ;

I am more than shattered! Having said this, I e loved every minute

And the joy for everyone, kids , family, friends - was worth the pain and exhaustion.

It's been a tiring, but fantastic day and no matter how much I failed in terms of pacing myself or how physically depleted

I'll be tomorrow , I'm glad I pushed myself

And everyone goes home happy. Hope you all had a wonderful

Day. God bless x

3 options per course no wonder your shattered ,your family and friends are very lucky having you run a Restraunt on Christmas Day .

Pleased everthing went ok now put your feet up.

Ps please let me have your address then l can book in for next Christmas.

Regards Mike

You are such a wonderful mother for making Christmas magical for your young children. I take my hat off to you... I can't imagine dealing with RA and young children, especially at Christmas!!!

Me, on the other hand, what's my excuse for being exhausted? My kids are grown.....Christmas day has just ended in Western Canada. What was I thinking when I decided to host 2 Christmas dinners?...I need to get my head examined...

Isn't it funny......

I felt tired after the festivities of Christmas Day but today I feel a bit like Ive been hit with a truck; talk about delayed reaction! Bugger of it all is there's no time to really rest as I'm back to work tomorrow.!

A lesson learned, I think. No plans for the new year except for ensuring it's a quiet one! I wish each and all of you only good things for 2017!