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Screwed over by my old manager

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Well my old boss who is a bullying narcissist screwed me over before she left to start a new job. 3 years in a row she has recommended that I receive no pay rise and a miserly bonus because she can't separate personal feelings from professional behaviour. I finally snapped and made a complaint to HR and a staff rep. In her opinion I am damaged and should be grateful that I have a job (she hasn't said that directly, but I can read between the lines) and I am sure she believes that no other company would hire me because I have a disability. The ironic thing is I have taken less sick time than many of my able bodied colleagues. What a b*tch!

She is still in the company just in a new dept and I am not going to take this lying down. Having a disability doesn't mean that you have to take a heap of crap. I am worth more and I am going to stand up for myself. Don't ever let anyone make you feel less than you are because of your disability. If someone has a problem with it remember, it's their problem not yours.

Ok rant over! Happy Friday everyone

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I hope you get this sorted soon and to your satisfaction. Have a good weekend.

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Thank you

If anything, you are much better than able bodied people as you are coping with a dreadful disease and working too. Go get 'em BCL. xx

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bigcatlover

Thanks poemsgalore1

Remind me never to upset you!

Seriously, you sound so determined - it's wonderful. I guess it's not going to be easy taking your complaint forward, but the fact that she's not your boss anymore will hopefully make it less stressful.

Will you let us all know how it goes? Here's to a satisfactory conclusion.

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Thanks postle2 and I will let everyone know the outcome. Although I don't expect it to be resolved very swiftly

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I think you should take your situation to a union or a professional organisation that will fight this discrimination for you. Anyone who has to put up with this type of situation in addition to fighting this disease with the pain and discomfort should be respected not discriminated. Go get em!

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Patsy-57

It is hard enough coping with a disability but we are more determined too not to let it get in the way. People at work know when I am having a bad day because I am very quiet. But everybody expects and deserves respect from our colleagues disability or not. You were right to put in a complaint. Hope you get this resolved.

Patsy-57

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Susiebee31

I wonder if she's heard of the equality law and just what it means?

I know I might sound crazy, but I sometime wish there was something we could give people who question our illness and just how bad we feel, so they could experience what we have to put up with for a week. They'd soon be begging for forgiveness.

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Thank you all for your wonderful support. It really means a lot to me.

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