Complacency Milestone and Out of the Blue cravings

Complacency Milestone and Out of the Blue cravings

There has been few members lately posting about having out of the blue cravings as they approach certain milestones - this is a normal and common complaint. I will share my experience with this.....

I will be 26 months smoke free on 17 November and had my last out of the blue craving just after I reached my 2 year mark as I was on a 2 hour bus journey to see my newly born niece. It was the first time I was on a bus for a long journey since I stopped smoking and it seems to be a regular occurrence to get strong cravings when I done something I had never done smoke free....

My first one occurred at 1 month, then 3 months, but the worst came along like a ton of bricks at 6 months and 9 months and finally the year. It is Mr Nico's final attempts to get you back even if it is for just one brief fling. It did seem very tempting as I have come along way and done so well without him and the thought of just one won't do any harm played over and over in my almost repaired and re-wired heart and mind. I had to be very strong and stand my ground and not give in to his one brief fling. Some times he was persistent especially when nostalgic memories came flooding back of different times spent together, a song, a place, a chore, a celebration, a sad time, a stressful time. First Christmas, birthday, funeral, summer (that was a biggie with the first lawn cut, bbq, painting, gardening), holiday etc..... But........ NOPE I repeatedly told him and will continue to do so until he gets the message once and for all, he is never coming back into my life.

It is a lot easier now to brush him aside and I may have to do forever, but it is a small price to pay to be the happiest and healthiest I have been in years.

So, wherever you are on your journey, please beware and never take Mr Nico back, I sure as hell won't..

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Wow, what a post RoisinO1 - as over 2 years too, I can relate to everyone of those out of the blue cravings - especially the passing of seasons and Christmas, thanks for sharing and writing so well, you summed it up perfectly :)

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Very informative and reassuring post and just what I needed to read as I turn 3 months stopped today - very strong cravings this morning and was shocked and disheartened but good to know this is normal and will get easier to deal with it.

Thanks for the badge too, great pick me up today :)

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Congrats on 3 months Mary, you are doing great!

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Spot on Roisin.

Bizarrely enough I had one today, completely out of the blue. I was waiting for my son and wife to finish their fish and chips in a café and I thought, "I'll have a smoke outside while I'm waiting". How the hell did that happen? How did I forget that I've stopped smoking after 22 months? I know I'm a bit mental at times but it really shocked me how I could think that. This whole stopping smoking thing is a weird psychological enigma; that's what it is.

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I know Nozmo - it is so weird, that last one when I was sitting on the bus and had the very strong thought, "can't wait to get off the bus and have a smoke!" really shocked me. It lingered with me as I walked through the bus depot and got outside and passed the smoking area, thankfully, the stink of the smoke quickly nipped it in the butt!! :D

Hope all is well with you otherwise?

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Yes, all good with me thanks. Just out of interest I asked how much a packet of Lambert and Butler was when I was in the shop the other day. I was shocked by the price and then had a chuckle because I'm not paying it anymore. You know I'm a miser!

You alright?

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Box of 20 here going up to €12.00 in January, was €10.00 when I smoked - serious waste of money in hindsight now.

I'm grand, life throwing me some crap stuff at the moment with family drama and general curve balls, hopefully will settle down soon :(

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Glad to hear you're OK. Life's always doing that sort of stuff, hope it settles down soon.

Good luck against the Danes on Tuesday...I reckon you'll do it. Goes without saying I'm not enjoying my football too much this season. :-)

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Think the whole of Ireland would be ecstatic if we get through and be heading off to Russia, fingers crossed :O

Didn't want to say but you never know after this season they could back next year and do a Leicester!!

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Sorry Roisin, not the result you hoped for, commiserations on not getting through. It just shows that you should never listen to any of my football predictions...ever! This is why I have only ever won 1 football bet at the bookies in my life.

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Thanks Nozmo , just posted in Alynn's post....

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Still speachless and in schock after the humiliating Rugby defeat an Irish girl must come and wipe more salt in the wounds with such a spot on true post..

Thank you Roisin...Yes, Complancency is the most dangerous phase of this whole quit thing !!

(Glad I am not smoking because I would have charred my lungs during that 80 minutes agony ......!!!!!!!!)

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Ah Hercu, didn't get a chance to watch it yesterday but couldn't get over the full-time score - great start to Ireland's season, hopefully the boys in green do just as well in the soccer world cup qualifier second leg against Denmark on Tuesday....

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Great post RoisinO1 - shortly after reaching my 6 month milestone at the beginning of the month, I got out of the blue strong cravings that were pretty intense for about a week - I agree it does seem to be the complacency when you think you have come so far, 'just the one' won't matter but off course Mr Nico will have you wrapped around our own fingers again in no time!!

Thanks for putting this up as got anxious about having these cravings 6 months on :)

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Excellent post Roisin, those complacency cravings were a terror, really knock you for six when they happen, I was so shocked and disheartened but thankfully made me stronger

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Good to know and prepare myself Roisin - will be 6 months in December, cravings are alot less now but will keep my guard up ;)

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Thanks for the insight ... I'm at the 6 month mark and there isn't a day goes by without me thinking about smoking. The cravings aren't terrible but the thoughts always linger. The 'maybe just the one' temptation is strong but down that road madness lies.

All the best for now,

George

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Good to hear from you George and glad you are plodding along :)

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Welcome to the penthouse and congratulations on 1 year Meglennox86 - hope you are keeping well?

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Very good to know tomes ahead pf time.

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Roisin i think this is one of the first posts i read when i joined here.

Didn't pay much attention bc i knew id never make it to any of those marks anyway. Lo & behold, with you , Nozmo, Hercu& (tho not on this thread but very envouraging) Thinlizzy, I will be at 4months!

When I read this the second time i still didn't know any of you well enough to feel confident you cared that much. Thought you were all friends from the past and that was that. I hadn't quit back when y'all had.

Now i can say without doubt, to anyone else reading this first time, these people will help you through it all.

I would not be here without all the time you have put into this site I soo "wanted" a fag at 3months and it was this post that got me through it. I intend to be looking for it around 6 & 9 months also. Hope it stays close to top of pinned posts

Again so grateful for you!!! Thanks for helping me stay smoke free. Am finally ...beginning to think ...possibly ...this is going to last. Only afraid am going to jinx myself by saying it. Ha!

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