There are a good few people who dip their toe into this forum knowing that they really should think about giving up smoking sometime. Not now of course, because now isn't quite the right time, but maybe next week, or next month.
Next year, or five years down the line, they'll still be having exactly the same thought - sometime soon, but not just now.
Maybe in ten or twenty years their thoughts will have moved on - I wish I'd given up whilst I still had the chance, before it got too late. These people are faced with planning their own demise, saying goodbye to their families bacause they have, quite literally, smoked themselves to death.
I guess nearly everyone reading this will recognise this scenario - those still smoking probably don't like to think about the last bit as it's too awful to entertain such thoughts.
So here you are contemplating stopping smoking. Your rational conscious mind tells you that to carry on smoking is crazy. It costs a fortune. It steals your health, it steals your energy, it steals your self pride. You stink. People look at you in disgust.
Still you carry on, without really understsanding why.
Certainly there is no physical health benefit - maybe it's because of the miraculous mental health benefits?
- when you're having goods times it's there to celebrate with you
- when you're having bad times it's there to commiserate with you
- when you're stressed it's there to relax you
- when you're bored it's there to engage you
Whatever the situation, whatever the mood; tobacco, your marvellous friend, is there to enhance and improve the experience. As a smoker, this was my reality. This is what kept me smoking for over thirty years.
If you're struggling to stop, then open your mind to the fact that this 'reality' is a complete illusion. It's a very powerful illusion granted; so powerful that many remain under the spell until it kills them. It's not until you've put in a few months since your last cigarette that you can see it for the lie that it is.
Your marvellous 'friend' creates the illusion of enhancing and improving any given situation by removing the withdrawal pangs created by the last cigarette you had - in other words, it helps you feel 'normal' again, but the only reason you stopped feeling normal in the first place is because of your last cigarette.
Tobacco gives the very convincing impression that it is helping you, when the reality is that it created the problem in the first place. It holds out its hand to support you, yet it laughs behind your back.
Would you keep a friend like that?