4th Day and ARGHHHHH

Hi all, long time lurker. I really dont know how to cope. I am on my 4th day. Ive been smoking for 23 years (Im 38) and normally smoke 20 a day.

I am going CT as dont see the point in Ecigs etc and keeping the nico monster alive. I am rowing with my wife to the point that Im thinking of leaving her (this was going on before I quit) but Im getting no support from her.

I read the Allen Carr book and what a load of psyco bable rubbish that was. But I promised myself that I would quit after I finished the book even if it didnt work for me.

Im so close to getting in my car and going to the shops.....I have been putting myself to bed at 9pm (which i havent dont since i was 14) to avoid the cravings....Really dont know what to do:(

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  • Hi Lloyd,

    I know exactly how quiting felt in the first week.

    For me I kept wander around the house, looking for something to do to fill that gap and to get my mind away from craving.

    I'd feel highly irritable at times, it just came from no where, and who bears the brunt?

    Those closest to you. Support or lack off may could be because the other person truly doesn't understand how addictive and how much of hold it has on us. So be patient and maybe explain this.

    I'm in 40's, smoked since I was 18, smoked 15-20 or much more a day.

    I loved loved smoking but it was killing me and I couldn't do that to my family.

    Look I know you may not believe it, I never thought I would make it past day one but I'm into week 2, so if me an old seasoned smoker did it , you can two.

    Drink ice cold water when you get a craving,keep drinking until it fades.

    Lie down on sofa, get hheadphones on watch YouTube videos, music, relaxation videos , blogs of people quiting . It helps.

    And this forum is great, you have all of us, some games, some banter and most importantly support.

    Don't let stupid cigarettes beat you, well we wont let them.

    Regards baly

  • Hi all, long time lurker. I really dont know how to cope. I am on my 4th day. Ive been smoking for 23 years (Im 38) and normally smoke 20 a day.

    I am going CT as dont see the point in Ecigs etc and keeping the nico monster alive. I am rowing with my wife to the point that Im thinking of leaving her (this was going on before I quit) but Im getting no support from her.

    I read the Allen Carr book and what a load of psyco bable rubbish that was. But I promised myself that I would quit after I finished the book even if it didnt work for me.

    Im so close to getting in my car and going to the shops.....I have been putting myself to bed at 9pm (which i havent dont since i was 14) to avoid the cravings....Really dont know what to do:(

    Hi Lloyd,

    I wrote my first post today because I was struggling but it really did help being on here and talking it through. I'm sorry to hear you're having such a bad time at home but I just want to say turning to fags won't help and you'll be kicking yourself if you cave. You've done really well to get to day 4 and you should be proud of yourself and keep it up!

    I just tell myself I'm strong enough to deal with stressful situations without turning to a cancer stick that will just make me feel worse.

    I know it's hard but stick with it and you will get over that craving feeling :)

  • You are over the worst so don't give in now. Totally agree about the book.

  • Hey Lloyd ~ I quit 21 days ago after smoking 20 cigs a day for 27 years. I think the book helped me maybe 10%, this forum 30%, sunflower seeds 5%, deep breaths 5% and 50 % of me is still lost - but finding my way more everyday. My point is - you have to find what works for you. Maybe exercise? Long walks? Cold water? Long Showers?

    Don't make any life changing decisions right now. I know my mind was a little foggy when I first quit and still is a little - but like I said it does get better. Don't move backwards - keep moving forward. :)

  • Thanks Guys N Galls.

    My main worry is feeling like this for weeks to come. Ive been a useless sh*te all week at work and now the long weekend coming up....

    I now think maybe seeing a hypno might be the way forward to save all of this pain. Any thoughts?

  • I thought of hypnotherapy too but didn't get around to it because i couldnt find a good one. I used a free hypnotherapy app and it worked for me.

  • Hi all,

    I have tried everything, including hypnotherapy. If you think the Allen Carr book is psychobabble then I don't see you getting on with hypnotherapy. Personally I think the book makes a lot of sense, but I have only realised that over the past few weeks (not when I read it several years ago). I am using the e-cig to help me with my moods and so far it has prevented me from becoming to irritable.

    Hypnotherapy didn't agree with me - probably because I didnt believe it could work and also I probably didn't really want to quit at that time.

    I'm sure it will get better for you in a few days, if not you may wish to try some form of NRT to ease you off slowly.

    Sarah

  • Hi Loyd!

    I basically stayed in my room for a few days when I quit, and only ever went out the room if I needed something.

    It's the bank holiday weekend why don't you just spend the next 3 days chilling watching films in your room or something?

    Tell your wife how hard it is, or something!

    I really hope it goes well for you! 4 days your doing amazing SIR!

  • Hope things are a little easier for you now. Allen carr is right in what he writes HOWEVER the way he writes it doesnt suit all of us. I read the book and like you I couldnt take it in, I even attended an allen carr clinic and left feeling doomed as I didnt get it. with The physc side of things are always our greatest battle I'm afraid but you truly can beat them. Try reading 'nicotine trick by neil casey as i have read this and it has totally hit home with me. wishing you the very best

  • Hey Lloyd :) How are you getting on?

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