4th day without ciggie

Hi all,

I thought I'd join this because finding it very hard to stop smoking :o...I´m 32 and have been smoking since i'm 16. I smokeD (;)) a packet a day at least. My mother died of lung cancer 3 weeks ago tomorrow, after being diagnosed only 2 months ago. The doctor told us the chances of us going through the same thing are very high, and since I have an 18 month old daughter, I have promised myself I would quit. Well it had been 4 days without smoking, but I just had a cigarette about 5 mins ago! Bloody stupid considering i haven't had any for 4 days :rolleyes:

Anyway, hopefully joining here will help me...

Good luck to all!

Valerie

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  • Don't stress

    Hey Valerie,

    I'm so sorry that you had to go through that with your mother. I can't imagine how hard that must be.

    My advice is that you know you are going to quit. But there is no rush, it isn't something you have to do overnight. I would say have a break for a while, don't tyrannize over yourself. Then when you feel really ready, prepare for a quit. Not an attempt, a quit; I imagine this quit was in response to emotional shock and fear, although I would be rude to insist upon it. In my personal experience, the more you prepare, the greater chance you have of being successful.

    This forum is great, you will find lots of help, advice and supportive peeps here :)

    The key - RELAX

    Love P. x

  • Hi Valerie :)

    I'm so sorry for what you have gone through so recently with your Mum

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathiseing with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    Take it day by day, hour by hour even minute by minute if you have to, it all adds up and before you know it you'll be counting weeks and months

    Best Wishes

    Marg xx

  • Quitting is a Lifelong Commitment

    Valerie:

    The first time I quit was in 1985. I had been smoking since about 1969, so that means I was puffing on cigs for about 16 years.

    I think it was 1997 or so when I had a rough spot in my life. I hadn't smoked, though. But, one night, while in a bar, after a few stiff drinks, I saw someone smoking and said "May I have a cigarette?" After that one sly cigarette I asked for another, and another. Then, on my way home, I stopped and bought a pack. I was hooked again until 18 October 2007--another ten years.

    Let me repeat that: I quit for 12 years but started up after smoking a single cigarette. If that doesn't show how powerful cigarettes are, then nothing will.

    My last quit was, as I said, on Thursday 18 October 2007 (or was it Wednesday, October 17?). I wish I could say about your quit that you "just need to do another week and it will be easy," but that would be a lie. How about this: "it's going to be hard, but every day, every cigarette you don't smoke it will get easier." Keep that in mind--every cigarette you want but don't smoke makes the next one that much easier to beat. It's like building the pyramids of Egypt one stone at a time, like swimming the channel one breast-stroke at a time.

    I'm really not sure how long it has been in terms of days or weeks or months since I have quit. Let's see [counting fingers & toes]---almost 19 months. I almost never think about cigarettes anymore.

    Since I am an inveterate worrier and must worry about something, I now have all that time I spent worrying about quitting smoking free. Now I can worry about other things instead, like taxes or the leaking roof or my grandkids college education fund.

    So, Valerie, you can do this. I am giving you encouragement! Just keep your goal in mind and slog through it. Remember that smoking is like the old game of snakes and ladders. You don't want to smoke even one because it *might* lead to going back (as in my case). Eventually, you too will have quit. Just think of all that time you currently spend worrying about quitting! Soon, like me, you can spend that time worrying about something else!

    Keep at it! Keep strong!

    Best,

    RobW

  • Sorry for your loss

    Hi valerie

    sorry for your los hope this sites helps you .i too lost my dad to lung cancer when he was 43 and although that was 35 years ago me turning 43 this year has scared me a bit as the memories of losing my dad come flooding back and my son being the same age as i was . so i to am trying to quit i have treid befor but they say never give up giving up so i am here again this time i am trying chapix first tablet today so feeling hopefull this time round hope you gain strenth from the people on here sending love to you and yours on your great loss

  • Hi Val :)

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathiseing with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    I also quit with the help of Champix and found it very good,it really does help but you'll still need willpower as well

    Post often to let us know how you're getting on, have a moan or a rant, for any reason at all pretty much anything goes on here

    Remember we're all here for you whenever you need us

    Best Wishes

    Marg xx

  • Hi All,

    Many thanks for your messages and kind words.

    I'm afraid I started smoking again on the same day i put the message up :(. But as Raddleman says I KNOW I AM GOING TO QUIT, but I just think i'm not ready yet. Going through hard times for the moment, and don't think i can handle the extra stress! Also my mum was a widow, so us 3 kids have to sort everything out, as in family home, and everything else, so just not the right time.

    I PROMISE i will be back though, and will start here on day 1! I need to do it for my daughter, brother and sister, and most of all my mum.

    Thanks again, and good luck to all of you!!!

    Valerie ;)

  • Hi Valerie

    Come back when you're ready, we'll be here for you Ok

    Love

    Marg xxxxxxxx

  • hi all,fourth day of no smoking on champix,doing ok but it is hard work,at least the side effects have calmed down a bit.good luck all!

  • Hi Iball :D

    Well done on day 4 and I'm pleased to here that the side effects have calmed down Just hang on in there

    Love

    Marg xxxxxxxxx

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