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day six..... i was offered a fag and said i dont smoke...!

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Hey, update on day 6.. well, first of all, I decided to have a puff yestwrday to test the water. I wanted it to feel awwful, but it was only 5/10 awful. I felt very down about this, but didn't 'get it' until today. The point was, I'd had a taste and not smoked. The cigs were there all night during a bad crave at 3am but I didn't touch them. This actually showed me how far I'd come. A week ago id have caved in and had the whole pack. Today I was in a queue and I heard a woman go 'I can smell it. Somebody stinks of it" now, a week ago they'd have been talking about me and tobacco, in my paranoid way. Today I thought well its not me stinking of anything. That moment was really worth it in terms of my confidence. I once had a 16 year old girl tell me "miss, you stink of fags." That was really really embarrassing. She replied with "its alright I smoke so I probably stink as much as you..."

Today I went to a relatives who offered me a cig. I said I quit and she kind of misheard me and said you did what, then looked down and said you having one? ? I said I dont smoke anymore. She couldn't believe it. It was kinda awkward. I felt very left out and sad I coukdnt smoke and kind of emotional. I still feel I need that "third thing", but not uding the e cig as much. I'm gonna try and get two friends to quit too. Theyre not as hardcore smokers as me and i know if I can do it, (I am renown for being a dyed in the wool smoker) I can inspire others.

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nsd_user663_26699

Day six... Sigh.

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nsd_user663_7469

Please please do not become a reformed smoker, they are what give us a bad name LOL just be glad that you have quit and if they ask for advice/help then be their for them and give them the web address of the site, just dont try to enrol others into your quit or you could find yourself losing friends.

When the time is right they will wake up and smell the smoke.

Well done on your quit, I hope you stay strong and dont puff or it will trigger all the bad feelings again.

Remember why you quit? it probably wasnt because some one else cajoled you into it.

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Fist things first Monster, your positivity's great but it's only a couple of days since you had a puff on a cig so concentrate on you, before you worry about others. It's hard enough one quit let alone more than that!

Once you get yourself sorted there'll be plenty of time to inspire others, and you will I'm sure ;) Well done on resisting while at the relatives' though...

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nsd_user663_40088

I cant wait for some people to have slip up and be looking for support, i already know what i will say ''you stupid turd go back to day 1''... thats how your comments read to me. appualing. patronising pricks.

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oh dear....

how old are you?

havent you got your own children to police?

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I cant wait for some people to have slip up and be looking for support, i already know what i will say ''you stupid turd go back to day 1''... thats how your comments read to me. appualing. patronising pricks. Nikki, whose comments on this thread read like the above to you??

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didnt reply on the other thread? no? aww i wonder why.

grown ups can still be policed cant they??, as quite clearly you think you can on here, only difference is that on here....no one gives a toss what you think we should do. im not replying to you anymore because i assume your a busy body and i cant be arsed with you. bye.

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nsd_user663_40088

Nikki, whose comments on this thread read like the above to you??

the first two, the sarcastic ones.

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the first two, the sarcastic ones. OK well I won't speak for them, they certainly don't need me to; I would have spoken for myself if my post had offended you but it apparently hasn't. I wonder what Monster's making of all of this!!

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Hey, update on day 6.. well, first of all, I decided to have a puff yestwrday to test the water. I wanted it to feel awwful, but it was only 5/10 awful. I felt very down about this, but didn't 'get it' until today. The point was, I'd had a taste and not smoked. The cigs were there all night during a bad crave at 3am but I didn't touch them. This actually showed me how far I'd come. A week ago id have caved in and had the whole pack. Today I was in a queue and I heard a woman go 'I can smell it. Somebody stinks of it" now, a week ago they'd have been talking about me and tobacco, in my paranoid way. Today I thought well its not me stinking of anything. That moment was really worth it in terms of my confidence. I once had a 16 year old girl tell me "miss, you stink of fags." That was really really embarrassing. She replied with "its alright I smoke so I probably stink as much as you..."

Today I went to a relatives who offered me a cig. I said I quit and she kind of misheard me and said you did what, then looked down and said you having one? ? I said I dont smoke anymore. She couldn't believe it. It was kinda awkward. I felt very left out and sad I coukdnt smoke and kind of emotional. I still feel I need that "third thing", but not uding the e cig as much. I'm gonna try and get two friends to quit too. Theyre not as hardcore smokers as me and i know if I can do it, (I am renown for being a dyed in the wool smoker) I can inspire others.

O did the same but on month 3 and it did taste awful. And make me sick. I don't think 6 days is long enuf yet for it to be awful for you.

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Thanks for your positivity.

What do I make of it?

Smoking cessation is a learning curve and everybody's experience is different. I literally took a smidgen of a rolly out of interest on day 3 to taste the taste. This is not 'smoking again', nor will I be told it is. It worked for me because now they don't have that appeal they did now I know i didnt really like it, so I don't have a fear of my friends smoking around me or having them out on the table next to me. Nikkis is the same. Ok, she smoked 20. But respect to her for her resolve and carrying on quitting. I know if I smoked 20 I'd be buying another pack shrugging that it was too late now...now I've started ill have another.... What she did was a huge feat. I admire her attitude. She gets up after she falls down. When I stopped in 2011, I smoked ten. Then 20, then 30... In June this year I totalled 400 duty free Marlboro! That's still smoking. Not coming on here.

My final word remains this: its the ex smoker's quit. Not anybody else's. We say it has to be for you, its up to you only, to be strong, to be positive.

This is a double edged sword. It means that we have to accept that same strength and positivity and say 'yes you might have smoked one/two, but its a blip! Carry on! Yay, day whatever the person says it is, its THEIR quit. And saying they should go back to the start and they failed might make somebody vulnerable to starting smoking again more vulnerable and a failure. Nobody is stupid, or delusional. They are not going to come on here saying I smoke 40 a day for 5 weeks but its a blip. I think respect to nikki and others for quitting. She's so so determined and that's a laudable quality.

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Thanks for your positivity.

What do I make of it?

Smoking cessation is a learning curve and everybody's experience is different. I literally took a smidgen of a rolly out of interest on day 3 to taste the taste. This is not 'smoking again', nor will I be told it is. It worked for me because now they don't have that appeal they did now I know i didnt really like it, so I don't have a fear of my friends smoking around me or having them out on the table next to me. Nikkis is the same. Ok, she smoked 20. But respect to her for her resolve and carrying on quitting. I know if I smoked 20 I'd be buying another pack shrugging that it was too late now...now I've started ill have another.... What she did was a huge feat. I admire her attitude. She gets up after she falls down. When I stopped in 2011, I smoked ten. Then 20, then 30... In June this year I totalled 400 duty free Marlboro! That's still smoking. Not coming on here.

My final word remains this: its the ex smoker's quit. Not anybody else's. We say it has to be for you, its up to you only, to be strong, to be positive.

This is a double edged sword. It means that we have to accept that same strength and positivity and say 'yes you might have smoked one/two, but its a blip! Carry on! Yay, day whatever the person says it is, its THEIR quit. And saying they should go back to the start and they failed might make somebody vulnerable to starting smoking again more vulnerable and a failure. Nobody is stupid, or delusional. They are not going to come on here saying I smoke 40 a day for 5 weeks but its a blip. I think respect to nikki and others for quitting. She's so so determined and that's a laudable quality.

I don't think u should go back to day 1 for a puff. I didn't but I do think smoking 20 is more than a blip and I would then go back to say 1 if I did that. But for me. Not for anyone else. Iv even said iv a fag passes my lips again weather is a drag or a full on smoke I'm going back to say 1 ( I won't smoke but you can never no)

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