Well I've been observing reactions of people here in this forum and I found something that troubles me. It seems that people that quit for more than 1 month suffer from the so called "complete-lack-of-sense-of-humor" disease.
It seem that after all the trouble they've had while quiting, they are now so tense that they response aggressive and rude to harmless people. That increases the overall tension, instead of relieving it and promotes bad behaviour.
I may not be a well-educated english man and I quited just 1 month ago but I can tell you 2 things:
1. I think around 2/3 of a successful quit is due to having a positive attitude. I haven't read Alan Carr's book, but I think he says something similar.
2. In order to help a person you have to put yourself in his shoes. If a person wants to be judged he will go to a courtroom. In forums I think that translates into calming down the raging one, listening to the nervous one and advising the confused. An example I can give you if that (me included) a lot of people have been behaving bad even with their family and closest friends. However, with them you don't break your relations, you don't call them stupid and so on and so forth.
I think quiting smoking communities should not be "a tooth for a tooth and an eye for an eye".
If you are positive(1) and put yourself in other's shoes(2) you can even reply to the rude posts positively, you can asks for the reasons, calm peope down and help yourself and others. I think aggression borns only more aggression, but the good part is that kindness can bring happiness and meaning
I know that quiting can cause a lot of stress and change peoples normal behaviour, but I would rather smoke than be a bad person...
Thats why I am a little afraid to continue my quit, but hey if I ever feel that I am turning that way I can always start smoking again.
Hoping I have been clear enough in expressing my opinion.