I often see posts from forum members who talk about quitting smoking, and especially for how long they have quit. I don't want to harp on the fact that keeping an eye on the distance between you and the last cigarette only increases the pressure of quitting, but I do want to say that stopping smoking isn't really about quitting.
Quitting smoking is about not smoking any more. Quitting smoking is about having taken the decision to no longer smoke. There is absolutely nothing that prevents me from smoking tomorrow if I want to. I haven't really quit smoking. Rather, I've simply decided that I'm not going to smoke.
There is no pressure on me, because I'm not counting the days that have gone by since my last puff. I'm not worrying about cravings because I can see beyond them, to my future without cigarettes. I certainly don't look back and have fond memories of the fags that I wolfed down without even thinking about them. What's the point of harping on memories of a few hundred thousand "sessions" of sucking on cancer sticks?
See, I'm positive about what I want to do now that I'm no longer smoking. I don't look back at my quit date and pat myself on the back for how long I've "survived" without a cigarette. I'm not thinking about how brave I am for having reached this far. I am of course thinking what a bloody good thing it was I gave up over a year and a half ago, and feel proud when people congratulate me for that. But above all, I think about the fact that while I'm busy building my future, my smoke-free past is building itself
I haven't really quit. I just don't smoke any more.