i gave in at day 22.

[nsd_user663_3331]

sorry,things got too tough.

i think i need them as my son is disabled and autistic.cant seem to cope with life without them.i cant believe i got to day 22 and lit up and had 2 puffs.

i am so cross with myself.

i hope everyone has more luck.:mad:

[nsd_user663_4786]

Two puffs is not giving in, it is a blip.

No need to apologise either, we have all been there, the main thing is what you do now.

You can cope without them because they do nothing for you, they do not help you cope with anything, you can cope with everything that life throws at you because you are strong, capable and of course a woman.

Sorry that you had those 2 puffs, but I say again YOU HAVE NOT FAILED! Read the links, read the posts educate yourself as to how this nico monster works and you will do this.

I am very lucky and have 3 happy healthy children, so I can no way understand what you have to deal with, but i do know that smoking does not make your problems any less or any easier to deal with.

Day 22 is amazing so nearly a whole month, don't give up now, it is worth it.

Sending you a big hug and loads of pma (positive mental attitude)

[nsd_user663_20815]

Hi Imogen..

You can do this !! You have done this for 22 days !!

Please don't beat yourself up too much about having a smoke after all it was 2 puffs not 2 packets !!

Just think to yourself its happened now and jump straight back to being a non smoker again.

Good luck and all the best

Tracey x x

[nsd_user663_3331]

thank you for the pma.and your right,it was a blip.but i knew it would happen.i knew i was putting myself in a situation too soon.i am no longer going to do this.

thankyou for taking the time to respond.

i am still a no smoker.i will go to bed happier thanks to your very good advice.x

[nsd_user663_3331]

thankyou tracey,

i am still a no smoker.

bloody nicodemon.:mad:

[nsd_user663_20815]

No problem.. and soooooo glad to hear your still a non smoker.

Yes that Nicodemon has a lot to answer for.

x x

[nsd_user663_3331]

bleugh,gone on a bit of a downer.someone on a different forum just told me my sons illness shouldnt make a difference,as we dont need nicotine.well yes,thats extremely helpfull,but it hasnt helped ,since quitting i havent even wanted to go to 1 of his appointments,when before i was pro active.

:mad:

[nsd_user663_20558]

I second the above posts - it was two puffs. Don't let it ruin your determination when you've come so far. Hardly surprising with your stressful life (although of course, smoking won't make it any less stressful). You can get past this little blip.

Wake up tomorrow morning ready to face the world, you're amazing.

x

[nsd_user663_20591]

i can only imagine what you are going through and am so sorry! you only hit a bump in the road that doesnt mean that you failed or that you cant do this. please keep trying. you proved to yourself that you can do it..22 days is a great accomplishment! please dont give up!! good thoughts coming your way

[nsd_user663_22353]

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but your son's disability isn't a reason for smoking, it's an excuse.

We've all done it, i've blamed alcohol, other people for offering me cigarettes, stress, bad days, the snow(!), you name it, for the various 'blips' i've had during my many attempts to quit.

Course, nobody was to blame but me. I chose to give in to temptation, & i chose to light up. Nobody else.

Don't beat yourself up about it, you did very well not to smoke the whole thing.

But learn from it, don't excuse it.

[nsd_user663_17388]

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but your son's disability isn't a reason for smoking, it's an excuse.

We've all done it, i've blamed alcohol, other people for offering me cigarettes, stress, bad days, the snow(!), you name it, for the various 'blips' i've had during my many attempts to quit.

Course, nobody was to blame but me. I chose to give in to temptation, & i chose to light up. Nobody else.

Don't beat yourself up about it, you did very well not to smoke the whole thing.

But learn from it, don't excuse it.

I second the above. Nothing 'makes' anyone smoke. It is a choice we have and it will always be a choice. (Unless someone does actually tie you up and force a fag into your mouth which would be unlikely and....weird.)

Life can be hard sometimes, but it's hard with or without a smoke and I've never ever thought 'WOW! That situation has totally changed because I smoked that fag.' What was actually happening, as we all know, is that due to stress the cravings come quicker and you have to relieve them more often. It has no bearing on the situation itself.

It's tough and also quitting can make you feel tired and lethargic. I felt like I was running at half speed for about a month. If you are anything like me you've used smoking as a bit of an emotional crutch...something just for you in times of stress. I would urge you to do something else. I've started writing a journal, not only does writing it help me sort through things in my head but I've also found that thinking about what to put in the journal is helping me to focus aswell.

Just a suggestion.....keep going, you are actually doing ok

[nsd_user663_21987]

Please dont give up, or berate yourself for a small stumble. You have come so far: keep going!

[nsd_user663_16968]

Hi there

I wanted to say it can be done. Im into my 4th month and my son has autism, aspergors and other disabilities which can at times make it slightly harder to cope but not impossible. It can be done and i know you can do this. Just dont go back on them now, look at it as a blip and move on. Your stronger than the Nic Demon and having a child with problems makes it seem harder but it can be acheived. I have done it and so can you

Good luck

[nsd_user663_22002]

I am not one to talk as i dont have things half as tough as you and i have fallen, but wonder if this may help....feel free to ignore me if i'm wrong/out of line.

Sounds like you have linked the 2 things in your head which will make it harder for you not to smoke when things get tough with your son, so maybe try thinking..

There will always be hard patches that get you down, and now you know from experience that smoking just was one more thing to feel bad about. If you stay strong, the other bad stuff will still be there but at least you can be happy you didnt smoke.

The part about feeling less pro-active. just once no matter how much you dont feel like it, dont smoke AND be pro-active, just once, it will prove to yourself that you can and you will feel good about yourself after. Chances are it will be easier than you think and then you'll get more and more pro-active and feel better and better

Also just be amazing proud that you only had 2 puffs and are still non-smoker, so many people (myself included), have 2 puffs, then 2 cigs, then 2 packs.

Stay strong.

PS - Love your name

[nsd_user663_21360]

My heart goes out to you, you haven't failed you had a little wobble thats all, just carry on counting your days as though that didn't happen, it dosnt count really darling and you have done so very well with all the stress you have in your life, its easy for other people to say don't make excuses but I'm afraid we are all guilty of that and if times are hard we tend to reach for a 'crutch'. Keep on trying it will be so much better for your child to have a healthy Mum and to be there in the future won't it. Lots of love from Me who's just going into my 22nd day, its hard so give yourself a pat on the back you deserve it! xxxx

[nsd_user663_17966]

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but your son's disability isn't a reason for smoking, it's an excuse.

That sounded harsh to me, never kick someone when they're down because you will make them feel twice as bad and more likely to give in to temptation.

but that is just my opinion :o

[nsd_user663_22353]

I wouldn't exactly say that was kicking her while she's down though, just being honest. Pointless being any other way really.

I feel for her, i genuinely do, but what i said still stands.

[nsd_user663_15147]

See, I agree with the harsh comments just because I think we should all realise that we're addicts (not just to the nicotine but the habit that accompanies it). And yes, we could always find reasons for smoking if we want to. It's in our nature as smokers to look for an excuse... I find my brain still does it 5 months in!

That's not to say imogenkate isn't/wasn't in a stressful situation because I'm sure she felt awful at the time... but as new ex/non smokers we need to learn how to deal with life's situations differently now. It's about changing our behaviour and finding new coping mechanisms.

[Levs 1000 Days Smoke Free]

That sounded harsh to me, never kick someone when they're down because you will make them feel twice as bad and more likely to give in to temptation.

but that is just my opinion :o

If you read all of what was said and not just that one line then is wasn't harsh. Just honest. We can tip toe round people and make it all fluffy which is some cases work. Sometimes you just need to be honest, not nasty, just honest.

Imogen,

You will always find an excuse to smoke, we are addicts, by nature that is what we do, look for the excuse. Stress will happen whether we smoke or not. You just need to learn new coping stratagies. Look at what happened and what the actual trigger for your two puffs was and put in place something you will do next time to stop you smoking. 22 days is fantastic, you had a blip, so what, we could all do it. What you do now is what counts. Its not the falling thats a problem, its not getting up afterwards that is.

Sian

[nsd_user663_1658]

Hi Imogen Kate,

was reading your post & come to the conclusion that you have not given up! The fight will go on right?......Lifestyle factors play a big part in someones quit attempts in my opinion. With your son having autism it must be extremely hard for you more so then anyone else on a normal every day sort of quit moaning about what they are going to do when they go the pub for the first time...Crying because they dont smoke anymore on that work break!!! ......... You are doing extremely well to cope! And you should feel Extra proud above anyone else in the fact that you havent smoked for over 3 weeks!!! You will continue with this quit....because you want too Good luck