Common Ground

Sorry if this is not the correct board, but some of the comments and behavious on the site at the moment is really causing me concern.

This is the NSD site....Helping smokers who want to quit

There is a lot of belittling and sniping, intentional or not, going on at the moment and that is not what I thought the site was for.

We are all trying to stop smoking, we are here to HELP and SUPPORT each other....if someone trips, be grateful it was not you and if you cant be supportive leave them alone.

Please, can we get back to supporting and play nicely.

Thanks

Lorna

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  • Well said Lorna.

    I personally love a good debate (well let's face it, a good argument!!) but this is a support board and the reason I have done so well (better than expected) is the support from this board.

    I have only lost my temper once on this board which is a surprise as I have given up smoking (if you did not know) and frankly I'm tetchy at the best of times.:D

    Humour will get us all through this quit, shouting and snapping will not. Hell I want wine!:p

  • Good Advice..

    Hi Lorna, must have missed those recent posts u talking about, but u spot on when u say this should be a supportive forum, cos I know I wouldnt be here without most peoples kind and supportive words of encouragement. But know what u mean about negative posts, I just choose to ignore them.

    On a more positive note anyway Lorna, U are doing brilliant and your support is great on this forum. Stay strong Kaz :p

  • Wow Kaz you are coming up to your 12 months!! Penthouse for you shortly, well done xx

    Sorry OT

  • Thanx

    Hi Christine, thanx am looking forward to the penthouse, Well done also on your fine quit..... U will be there same year as me, will pick a good spot for you... Kaz :p

  • Hi Christine, thanx am looking forward to the penthouse, Well done also on your fine quit..... U will be there same year as me, will pick a good spot for you... Kaz :p

    Watch her Kaz, she comes on all pally pally then drinks all your wine....

    We will probably be a bit bashed and brusied but we will drag each other kicking and screaming if necessary to the Penthouse...

  • Red red wine, goes to my head....

    Ha ha, Will watch for that Lorna....... Will be plenty wine and champers flowing when I get there, as wont believe it. But will defro restock for u girls, We will defro deserve it..... Kaz :)

  • Thanks Kaz, ignore grumpy as we are on the wagon for January and she is not happy. I will try and use the cattle prod on her later.

    See humour = support:D

  • Good then thats me and U looking forward to a big party.... I will save u a very nice spot, because u will deserve it... Heres to the next 2 months going very quick ha ha :p:p

    I already have an invite to Kaz's Penthouse entry party:cool: :p

    Good original post Lorna.....

  • You're great guys and I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for posting this thread Lorna.

    The humour is great makes me giggle anyway. You should start your own comedy club. Your names in lights I can see it now :)

    If it wasn't for the support from this forum I certainatly wouldn't be where I am - it's like a virtual family

    Tinks xx

  • Invites...

    Ha ha Pol, U Octoquits are a great bunch..... And yes I do seem to be inviting alot of people already, Well suppose the invites need to go out b4 the event or u would all double book.....

    Great to see such a fantastic group doing so well, and such good fun.. Cos boy we need it in this horrible month of January with crap weather also.. :)

  • Thanks Tinks

    Pol looks like she may be trying for a solo career here, showing her previous undisclosed invite to a Penthouse party.

    Smacks of Robbie and Take That or Gerri and The Spice Girls

    Wounded Tinks, wounded....:(

  • Missing Links

    Or Kerry Kantona after Atomic Kitten, Oh sorry Farm Foods got her, No it was Iceland ha ha :p

  • Pol looks like she may be trying for a solo career here, showing her previous undisclosed invite to a Penthouse party.(

    Undisclosed? No no no no no no.... a public invite I'll have you know :p....

    forum.nosmokingday.org.uk/s...

    forum.nosmokingday.org.uk/s...

  • I'm assuming this relates to "Not intended to cause offence BUT........"

    I'm sure if there're any threads on this site which are deemed not to be supportive, and completely against what this site is trying to achieve will be removed by the Moderators.

    Outside of that I guess how we look and react to posts is a personal "thing", one persons right is another persons wrong, we're all different.

    I've not read anything offensive in the above post; I see a debate relating to peoples thoughts and differing experiences.

    The above is one post against a backdrop of hundreds if not thousands of others where we're all patting each other (and ourselves) on the back.

    I feel to suggest that the site is not a supportive tool (or is diverting from bing so) is a little strange.

  • Sorry if this is not the correct board, but some of the comments and behavious on the site at the moment is really causing me concern.

    This is the NSD site....Helping smokers who want to quit

    There is a lot of belittling and sniping, intentional or not, going on at the moment and that is not what I thought the site was for.

    We are all trying to stop smoking, we are here to HELP and SUPPORT each other....if someone trips, be grateful it was not you and if you cant be supportive leave them alone.

    Please, can we get back to supporting and play nicely.

    Thanks

    Lorna

    Hi Lorna :D

    Well said this is supposed to be a supportive site but unfortunately from time to time this sniping and belittling does go on

    It is upsetting to many to say the least I personally have many times reported such posts/threads but for the most part they remain on the forum and the people that make them go along their merry way regardless and nothing seems to get done about it

    For sure some of them get deleted or the offending posts removed but by then the damage has been done of course

    My best advice to anyone who finds something upsetting , rude or belittling is to report it to the mods and not retaliate as this just feeds the persons ego and it gets worse and worse something I found out the hard way as did those I was trying to help and defend

    For anyone who doesn't know how to report something there is a red triangle at the top right hand of every post to report straight to the mods

    Love

    Marg xx

  • I'm assuming this relates to "Not intended to cause offence BUT........"

    I'm sure if there're any threads on this site which are deemed not to be supportive, and completely against what this site is trying to achieve will be removed by the Moderators.

    Outside of that I guess how we look and react to posts is a personal "thing", one persons right is another persons wrong, we're all different.

    I've not read anything offensive in the above post; I see a debate relating to peoples thoughts and differing experiences.

    The above is one post against a backdrop of hundreds if not thousands of others where we're all patting each other (and ourselves) on the back.

    I feel to suggest that the site is not a supportive tool (or is diverting from bing so) is a little strange.

    Hi

    Actually this was not intended against any thread in particular but a perception of a more general mood swing on the forum where some people have been snipped at or been sent negative messages either on the boards, their profiles or by PM. There have even been negative comments about some of our positivity here.

    The "Not intending to cause offence" was probably the one that broke the camel back so to speak and prompted my posting, but this is a general post and not aimed at anyone in particular.

    Thanks

  • Always happy to be wrong.

    Ah...that clears that up then!

  • Pol looks like she may be trying for a solo career here, showing her previous undisclosed invite to a Penthouse party.

    Smacks of Robbie and Take That or Gerri and The Spice Girls

    Wounded Tinks, wounded....:(

    Hey Lorna

    Sorry hun I'm having a blonde moment (I can say that coz I'm blonde!) but I don't get it. Am I being dull - yes I probably am being dull?

    Tinks :)

  • Hey Lorna

    Sorry hun I'm having a blonde moment (I can say that coz I'm blonde!) but I don't get it. Am I being dull - yes I probably am being dull?

    Tinks :)

    From one Blonde to another, we can make all the jokes we want...

    Pol had produced an invitation to Kaz 1 year Penthouse party and gloated unashamadly I may add about having the invite already...it was obvious then she did not want to be in our gang anymore and was cultivating a solo move...hence my Robbie and Geri comments...they two left thier respective band memebers after they had climbed so high together

    Hope this helps....;)

  • Ah got it. Sorry hun I think is should just go back to bed this morning - not that with it today!!

    Thanks for explaining though

    Luvs ya

    Tinks xx:)

  • This is why I love this board, we went common ground to the spice girls in 11 posts!!! Fantastic.

    Kaz - I think you need to be more selective with your guest list, let me be your party planner:)

  • Party Planner...

    Ok Christine, U have the job, Probably best u arranged. I will pretend its a surprise party and you ask who u want.... I will just be surprised on the day... Ha ha Kaz :p

  • Great Idea

    Chrisitine can I come please please please...I'll do the door and make sure there is no gatecrashes with my clip board....;)

  • Hi Laurna and everyone else MY POEM

    Hi All good site and some constructive comments only been stopped since Xmas Day but I am doing ok at the mo want to book into penthouse how do i do it LOL

    Thought I would post my Poem and see what every one thinks of it have done about 20 smoking ones keeps my hands busy LOL

    Have a good one

    And if you cant give support then dont comment yes???

    I’m really glad that now I’ve quit

    Cause in the past I’ve smoked some sh**

    Smelly Hair Hands and Breath

    Shorter Life but longer Death

    Up the hills you’ve got no puff

    Smokers cough that makes you rough

    So pass each day without the weed

    Cause only then will you succeed

    So Bravo to all that now don’t smoke

    Cause early Death is sure no Joke

  • WOW what a fantastic poem !! am straight away copying it to put on my fridge. Well done on your quit too xxx

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