nervous about the future

I am in the early stages (day 3) and reading that after three months the craving is still there is really scary to me. I really hope that if I make it even half that far there will be a difference in craving. Right now my head feels like a balloon. Like only a fag will relieve the pressure. It is an extreme of the way I felt as a smoker when I got out of a movie, woke up and had a cup of coffee burning, or after a large meal. Does that aching for a smoke go away? Are there days you don't even think about smoking? When did that happen?

Curious about the future.

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  • Hi

    I to are nervous. I just want to stop thinking about smoking. I am thinking less and less about it , but still get stronge urges.

    I know someone who gave up 5 years ago and still sometimes fancies a cig , while others hate the thought of it. Everyone is different. Lets hope we are in the latter catagory.:)

    Barb x

  • I am in the early stages (day 3) and reading that after three months the craving is still there is really scary to me.

    Lets throw some perspective on this issue, while there are different stages to a quit, you mustn't scare yourself with later issues to yours. You fool yourself into believing that these feelings are on par to the way you feel right now!!

    Get this one thing straight! these are nothing compared to the way you feel right now, hand on heart you will feel much better in just a day or two than you do now! the first week peeking at around day 3-5 depending on the person, is the hardest! it is easier from there on in.

    There is for some a time at around 3 weeks when they feel a bit of a loss again, like the novelty goes, it is incomparable to the feelings you have now as they are no longer related to nicotine.

    These craves pass quicker and much more time is spent not thinking about smoking.

    Then again around three months as it sets in 'this is it!!!' again it is even easier than the 3 week phase and there is no conscious end, just a revelation one day, that 'hey i don't care for fags anymore!'

    Of course people don't smoke for years then go back but that is a momentary lapse of reason, and a silly one at that!, it is not like thinking continually of smoking for all that time!!

    Also remember, everyone is different!

    OK!? lol sorry it is hard hearing issues from people in front, you mustn't live like that, thats why we say hour by hour x x

    Focus on your own quit ~Buffy x x

  • hiya

    my mum had given up for well over 20 years and she grabbed a cigg again (on the night i nearly lost my baby, which im delighted to say is coming on 15 now) she was clearly not thinking straight as she was sitting in the intensive care parents room when she lit it up "oops" but i think she only took one puff before realizing it was certainly not what she wanted, needed or of any help what so ever. i think smokers and ex smokers (for however long) seem to have some little nicotene monster lingering around in there brains thats all too ready to jump to the surface at any given oppurtunity and try and convince you that you need a cigarette. the longer youve given up then probably the more it takes before that little monster taps away at your brain again, but there deffinitly seems to be some inprinted info in there that says "oh my god i cant cope with this, gis a cigg" i guess its just up to us to keep saying "NO!"

  • i thought this might help newbies

    The words from Buffy are inspiring :D

  • theres nothing to add lovely posts buffy and destiny

    boo

  • It DOES get easier

    Life certainly gets easier once you stop smoking. I was trying to think of a way to explain how that ( we all know that feeling ) urge for a cigarette after a meal does disappear once you stop smoking and I think looking at what smoking actually is helps me.

    The only reason we get that incredible longing for a cigarette after a meal etc is because we need to take away the withdrawal symptoms as the effect of the last cigarette wears off. It is an urge that only exists when you're smoking. Once the vicious cycle of cigarette followed by withdrawal is stopped then that urge does go away.

    In summary:We only smoke to alleviate the withdrawal effects: stop topping up the chemicals in your body and the urge goes away. I promise:)

  • I'm on day one of my seventh month. yes there is still a bit of a yearning sometimes. This can make you worry for the future, but I think it is becoming more infrequent. I just will not entertain the idea of smoking again.

    I have coped with a week in hospital with a serious infection, followed by recovery, followed by mother in law being taken into hospital, now recovering. I have got my teeth all fixed and healthy.

    On this start of month seven, I am thinking of myself as a recovering smoker. Mind and body have a lot to adjust to after 48 years of heavy roll ups. I must be kinder to myself.

    I also wish to report that I haven't killed anybody today. It's time to put up the decorations people!

    toucan

  • It does indeed get easier! Also, it happens bit by bit - here are some examples:

    I no longer think about a smoke first thing in the morning (I used to chainsmoke 2 or 3 rollies as soon as I got up, before doing anything else).

    I no longer think of smoking after a meal.

    I no longer think of smoking in the car.

    These changes have happened after just 6 weeks. Other things still trigger me - especially seeing people smoking - but I can deal with the urge/panic to smoke more easily now.

    In case you didn't notice: IT DOES GET EASIER! :D:D:D

  • well said biggrin:D

  • Hi prof

    I am only 6 weeks in and IT IS GETTING EASIER! Believe me!

    I kept reading this fact on the forum from other people and I was the biggest doubter in the world!

    I thought "yeah right, it's nice of you to tell me but it ain't going to happen ... I didn't even want to give up!"

    And guess what?

    I do want to give up, I was just doubting my decision ... something we should NEVER do.

    I have given up!

    It IS getting easier

    I DO feel better

    All that from an impatient doubting Thomas like me? There's got to be something to this quitting lark! :)

    Sure I still think about it a hell of a lot but I certainly do not crave anywhere near as much or as strongly as I did!

    Time is a great healer, quitting is a process - not an event.

    Stay strong and you WILL find it easier and you WILL feel the benefits,

    I am ... after only 6 weeks in...you will too :D

    Take care

    Greg

  • Haha!

    Oops!

    Just Sian saying the words inspired her bumped it up again

    Oh well, everyone's sentiments are still the same

    :D

    Well spotted

  • Just got in. I've been with a smoker for 4 hours this afternoon. It was difficult at times watching them smoke. However,.................. at other times I forgot they were smoking and wasn't noticing that they were! So this is yet another aspect that is getting easier.

    In fact, it seems truer to say that another aspect of the smoking habit is fading to nothing, as if it never existed. :D