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I am feeling really unhappy about myself...l have never liked the way I have looked And have always been the 'big one' . I am 5ft 11 and weight 15st 12. I am size 16 on the bottom 14 on top.

what made me feel worse (actually feel sick when I see some photos of myself) is seeing photos of me as a bridesmaid at my dad's recent wedding. I hace tried a number of diets...nothing really has worked. I just have no motivation. I need help.

I want to lose 3st.

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  • Hi and welcome, Amy :)

    It's time to stop panicking and to stop thinking "diet". We are all striving for healthy lifestyles and we're delighted that you've chosen to join us :)

    Take a look at the Pinned posts section to the right of your screen (bottom if you're using a mobile), or in the drop down on the 'Posts' page (it says 'arrange by'). Read the Welcome Newbie thread, then move through to the challenges, where we hope you'll find at least one that will appeal to you.

    Move down to the Topics, to find a variety of threads, collated into specific topics for ease of access and we ask that you also 'file' your own threads, so that others won't miss your important news.

    Take a look at the NHS 12 week plan, as a lot of people have been successful with it, making sure to enter your details into the BMI calculator, to get a calorie allowance tailored to your personal requirements. Don't forget to take your starting measurements and a 'before' picture, as they can be very motivating on days that the scales refuse to co-operate.

    We run a weigh-in every day of the week and you'd be very welcome to join one of them. The threads can always be found in the Events section, to the right of the HOME page, bottom on a mobile.

    We also run a Daily Diary, where we share our meal and exercise plans for the day. It's a great place to get ideas and to keep us focused. The link can also be found in Events.

    Be aware, that the HU app doesn't give you access to all of our important features, so we advise that you use the full website page.

    We've found that to get the best out of this community, we need to be active on the forum, as it's where we exchange information, get motivation and inspiration and make friends. We hope that you'll join us here, regularly, too.

    It's only left for me to wish you well on your journey :)

  • Hi amywools. You're like me, 6 months ago. I needed to lose 3 stone and have succeeded, so it can be done :) Loads of good advice on this site. Lots of different ways to lose weight but it always comes down to 'calories in less than calories out'. And 2lb a week weight loss seems to be generally accepted as the maximum per week to be healthy. My approach has been to cut out all snacking, increase the exercise, fewer desserts and DRASTIC reduction in alcohol (2 glasses per week max). And it has to be a sea-change in life style from now on, otherwise the weight will go on again afterwards (I don't know if I will succeed here, ask me again in 2 years!). Key to success here, I think, is frequent weighing. Those scales have to become your best friend, even if you don't like them at the moment. Good luck!

  • That's a complete summary of my ethos. Well done Chris for losing the 3st and in a relatively short space of time.

  • Hi amywools, welcome to the site.

    Big girl eh, at 5' 11" you certainly are, a killer pair of Jimmy Choo heels and you'd be taller than most blokes, it's great to be different. If they were 5" heels you could look me in the eye so I know what I'm on about.

    So previous diets didn't go to plan, and there's a lack of motivation, OK, we can solve one of them right now. Those photo's you don't like, the ones making you feel sick, they are the ones you want on your screensaver, or stuck on your mirror. In fact one of the great starter tips is to get some before pictures, the naked truth (well, not literally naked but don't wear something baggy, let it all hang out). When you start making progress you will see the changes through the pictures, not through the mirror.

    That's your motivation right there. You don't want to continue looking like that and you can change it, but it's you, and only you that's got the power to do that. We can help you along and be here when needed with support on the good days and encouragement on the bad, but you are going to be making the big difference.

    You need to start off knowing this is not going to happen in 12 weeks, it took you way longer than that to get to where you are, it'll take a while to get it gone. As Chris said for 3 stones you're looking at 6 months plus of a healthy lifestyle with a steady progression and weight loss. Again, sounds like a long time, but think back 6 months, it's not that long ago.

    Big one here, be honest, whatever way you decide to do it make sure you count the calories going in, every one. It's a pain to start off with but it soon becomes second nature, only by being honest with yourself will you succeed. I would recommend you get the MyFitnessPal app on your phone, lots here have it.

    Use the BMI calculator to figure you calorie intake, 1400 cals average for women per day, but you're a tall woman so you'll need more, under eating is just as bad as overeating.

    Get active and eat healthy, there are no banned foods doing this, but if you fill your calorie limit with cheesecake every day it'll go sideways on you, cut out the processed stuff and fill up on fresh veg, you get more volume for your cals so you can fill up, but still be able to have a bit of cheesecake if you want.

    It's a bit of a longer post than I normally write but things are quiet at work and us tall 'uns have to look out for each other.

    Lastly, a lot of people come on, write their 'Hello I'm such and such' post and then we never hear from them again. It helps so much to get involved with the forums, tell us about your great days, tell us about your bad days, you'll get loads of 'virtual' pats on the back and kicks in the rear end when you need it (think 2 cheesecake days!), the more you get involved the better the chance you'll stick at it.

    Welcome to the site and good luck.

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