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Hello everyone,first time on the site.

I have been off sick from work with a virus and have lost the will to live.I am currently weighing in at 16st 9lb,5' 4" in height and sixty one years old.I've been going to SW on and off for years and still cannot get my weight down.I am not a club happy slappy person and the group/consultant cannot tell me anything about the plan that I don't already know.The problem is my mindset and addiction to comfort eating.

I hate myself

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Please don't hate yourself. You are not the only one who feels like that. And you & only you can help yourself. Be positive. Think of an activity you enjoy doing- walking, reading, swimming, music, dancing etc. Try spending some time everyday indulging in it. Try to cook healthy colourful and small portions. Try not to be too harsh to yourself. You are changing habits of a lifetime and it will not happen in a few days. Tell yourself that you are what you eat. No one can put food in your mouth. If you can't restrict some food, cut them down to eat smaller portions or less often. Chew more. Put your spoon down between every bite. Drink lots of water. Try to sleep at least 7 hours undisturbed and if possible, delay your breakfast and eat dinner earlier to increase your fasting time. And use this group to post your successes and failures, because we are all in the same boat.:)


Welcome to the site. I'm a newbie and I struggle with my willpower every day too but I've discovered that there are many people on this site who are in the same boat. The positive support on here is great as we all believe in each other.

If you are still feeling unwell, I would say be kind to yourself and do what you need to do to feel better before tackling your weight. Sleep, rest, get fresh air and lots of water, enjoy life's simple pleasures like reading/pets/nature/grandchildren until your health improves.

Keep in touch with this site, as giving a fellow site member a like or some encouragement when they make progress can spur you on.

There are experienced members and administrators on here too who can give you more tips but in the meantime, get well soon.


I know exactly how you feel and it's easy to hate ourselves and call ourselves failures. I have felt like this so many times so I know where you're coming from. I am doing a lot of reading and looking into mindset at the moment. Every time I go to the Dr's to ask for help with losing weight they either give me pills or refer me to a slimming club, neither of which are the solution. I am reading a book called 'beyond chocolate' and it delves into why we allow food to control our lives. And how the diet industry is basically keeping us fat. Let's face it if everyone who joined a slimming club actually got to goal they would have gone out of business years ago. I also use an app called my fitness pal where you can keep a log of how many calories you eat if you want to but otherwise give yourself permission to be human and if you don't restrict any foods, you'll find that actually you don't crave them half as much. Take it one meal at a time until you feel more in control, and try to plan your meals in advance to ensure you can cook healthy. Watch your portion sizes and try to stop eating when you've had enough (not easy I know). Be kind to yourself too. You can do this x


Never give up trying, I feel for you itis finding that right mindset and you are not the only one who feels its a struggle I also tried SW and I know what you mean about the clapping and declaring where you think your failing when pounds start reappearing and that doesn't make you feel the best, It is our own personal journey at the end of the day not that person who's bum is on the next seat believe me they have their own woes.

You have to try and look at whats good in your life. You have a job, access to the internet, focus on whats around you not the number on the scales. I to can be a bit of a deep thinker and worry about things and comfort eat but now I also try to remember whats good in life, I write in a journal and make use of all the positivity on here. Believe me I have had a rubbish year and although I've not lost loads I have come to accept my body and the way my mind works I'm not perfect but hopefully getting there.

I am sure you know how to healthy eat and on this forum you will get some great ideas too.

Good luck on starting your healthy journey, we've all started somewhere and some more than once.


Hi Macmillan thats not a nice place to be, and difficult to loose weight when feeling so low. I suggest you try hypnosis to help you loose weight, firstly it will help you feel good about yourself, once you feel good about yourself you will have the mindset, willpower and energy to loose weight. I myself am a hypnotherapist and yes you are correct that it is all a mindset. All behaviour starts with our thoughts. Change your thoughts to positive ones and your behaviour changes. I use hypnosis to help myself keep off sugary foods. Look out for a reputable hypnotherapist near you. Like with any profession there are many out there though not all are skilled so go by recommendation. Good luck. 😊


What a lovely alternative idea 😀


Hi, there are lots of really good ideas in these replies. I hope you will stick around on the forum. I have found replying to people regularly and sharing my own story has really helped me to stay focused. Good luck 🤞🤞


Morning Macmillan1

Welcome to the weight loss forum.

Please don't hate yourself! We are a very friendly forum who are all in the same weight loss boat so come and join us all and together we can get through this. I can understand when you have been ill how you can feel down and everything seems hard to deal with. I was housebound for 3 years before joining this site and could only walk with using sticks, now 9 months later, I'm out walking everyday with no sticks and 4 and half stone lighter. So just have a go for a few weeks and then feel the difference you will be amazed how you will feel.

Have a look around the site and read every ones posts they will show you it can be done and how supportive and encouraging everyone here is.

Take a look at the Welcome Newbie post in the Pinned post section at the right hand side or at the bottom if your on a mobile. Have a look at the nhs 12 week plan, many members have had success following this plan. Use the BMI checker to work out your daily calorie allowance.

Below the Pinned posts are the Topics where members share a range of weight related subjects.

We have daily weigh ins so why not come along and join us. You can find the weigh ins on the Home page in the Events section on the right. Just click on the post in Events and record your start weight and any loss/gain or maintain for the week.

To get the most of the forum be active, share tips, recipes and experiences. Read some of the posts they are very motivating.

Have a good first week.


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