Hope you are all having a good week.
I have been pondering on whether to reveal my start weight to my hubby and was wondering how others on this site feel about disclosing their weight to their partners.
I’d like to be honest with him but just not sure I can even say the words out loud – I am pretty ashamed. As many of you know I started out at 24 stone 7lb. I am worried he will think less of me I guess.
I did tell my friend last weekend but only felt able to tell her after she told me she was 22+stone. We have both always known the other was in the 20s. She is the only person (other than you lovely folk) who knows what my weight was and is.
I carry my weight well (not sure that is a good thing) and even she couldn’t believe I was over 24 stone at the start, so I think it will be a massive shock for my hubby.
When I met him I was in the 16s so I’ve never been slim. He knows I’ve lost over 4 stones and he can’t miss the fact that I am still a lard arse. I have asked him in the past why he hasn’t asked me how heavy I am and he just said he assumes I don’t want him to know – and he’s right.
But the thing is that as I get closer to the 19s I want to be able to celebrate my achievement with him (it is a massive achievement let’s face it) but also I don’t want him to think less of me for being over 24 stone in the first place. I know he wouldn’t ridicule me about my weight (I wouldn’t have married him if he had) but I still don’t know what to do.
I did decide I’d tell him when I got back to where I was when I met him but I just don’t know. Also, he may not want to know! I do know how much he weighs though and it is much less than me (embarrassing).
The other issue is that I was probably even heavier when I started out but couldn’t face weighing myself for the first couple of weeks. When I get in the 19s I’m going to contact my doctor to find out what my weight was last September when I was last weighed there.
Another reason I want to tell him is so that he does appreciate how bad I was and hopefully he can help me to not get back to that state again – very very important.
So what do you think – are you open with your partners? If not, why not? And if you are, why are you comfortable revealing your weight?
Weight update – week 38 and I have now lost a total of 60 lb – a loss of 2.5lbs this week I am very pleased as I had a 3 course meal (for hubby’s birthday) on Monday. I did however walk 10+km (alone) on Sunday in the hope it would help me for the following day and I think it worked!
Thanks for reading (it was a long one today).
Hope everyone has a lovely Halloween weekend