G’day my Relapsing-Remitting ms (RRms) family. Actually, I probably should say family shouldn’t I, in reality “YOU” understand me better than my biological family, and I choose “YOU”, them not so much. My Mother and she who must be obeyed being the exception.
Okay today I am mostly talking to my Newbies (newly diagnosed). that does not exclude the old-timers, but them mostly. A just a few helpful hints that “YOU” might use today or tomorrow.
wear protective underwear when leaving the house. Brothers, “YOU” as well. Depends flex fit I have found to be a very good brand. Sisters, they have full underwear for bladder leaks. These are things that “YOU” may not need today but be aware of them IF the time may come.. Better to know in advance, and Amazon delivers in a plain brown box.
2) Get used to embarrassment, because “YOU” will be embarrassed once or twice. That is normal in life and very normal for us. Do not let it break “YOU”, be strong and get through it. I know of a woman that had a bladder incident leaving a store years ago. She would not go into a store first for years. Now she is protected and is slowly getting her confidence back. Do not let this happen to “YOU” protect yourself.
3) Give yourself opportunities ro osucceed. RRms will take from “YOU”. Do not let it take everything. develop a hobby, set a goal. Do something and succeed. Many years ago at the gym I saw people squatting weights (look up squatting on YouTube) I never thought I could do that but I tried. I got to 3 times body weight and stopped. My decision, but I had achieved the goal. I set a goal and I went for it. I do not remember how long I worked at it but I worked at it. Why do “YOU” not do the same. Yes, you have ms but that is no excuse for not trying. “YOU” can stop trying when they plant “YOU” six foot under the surface.
4) DO NOT be afraid of failure. Be very afraid of not having tried. Try everything at least once. If “YOU” can not do it after a few tries. Accept that. “YOU” are NOT a failure “YOU” just could not do it. I found long ago that I could not land aBoeing 747, a Cessna yes, but a 747 no. I was not a failure, I did not hate myself or cry. It was just one of those things that I could not do. These days I avoid cutting with sharp knives. I love sharp knives,”B ut I CANNOT SAFELY USE THEM SAFELY”. It is just one of those things, no reason to be upset.
In everything “YOU” do, try your best but do not fret if “RRms will not let “YOU” do it anymore.
Royce (your ms writer and Brother)
I can not run anymore, I told it is funny to watch me try but sometimes I still try, still.
