Who is to blame for your condition illness situation? I believe that blame is one of the stages of grief. If I am wrong feel free to correct me publicly so that we all can learn. Anyway back to the point, who is to blame? Sorry to say it and I am not trying to be cruel, but
WE ARE.
We took that first breath. Beyond that we do not know where this condition came from or why we have it. So do not blame yourself, curse your god or any other such behaviour. “WE” have it, there is no cure, it will not go away no matter what anybody says. We will die in sixty plus years or so with it. One day I will have lived fifty years with it, only twenty, so far so a long way to go. Blaming anybody or anything is a far from productive way to spend decades of life. I feel that spending those decades on working out how I can thwart multiple sclerosis’s (ms) mischievous machinations in my body is much better. How can I achieve my goals with less energy and dexterity than I had or would like to have. Ever tried to thread a needle with shaky hands? There is away and I will find it, if that is important to me. A much better use of my energy I think.
I understand that their are stages of grief that we pass through. The operative words being “PASS THROUGH”. I might suggest getting hung up on blame is not really very productive. There are better uses of your energy. The same can be said for searching for cures. I will make this easy for “YOU” there “IS NOT ONE” nothing can be done to make it go away, it is here for life, “YOUR LIFE”. A very long time but there are things that “YOU” can do to make your life easier. Not easy by any stretch but yes, easier. Start with protective underwear. Honestly the feeling that “YOU” get soiling yourself in public is not worth it. Some people have strong ms bladders and bowels. I do not, which one are “YOU”? Strong or weak, do “YOU” get my point. Now stand up straight and realise that “YOU” need to take a Disease Modifying Therapy (DMT) Move the heavens to get it, take it and never stop. Have them put a last dose into your corpse as they bury “YOU” I am that serious. It is okay to change but never okay to stop. Start at the most powerful first then move down if “YOU” need to. There are side effects, this is strong medicine be aware of that.
Find a goal for yourself. We all have a very long time with this illness. It is progressive so we are supposed to get worse at some rate and at some stage. Learn to adapt. Be like bamboo, bend when it hits hard, then slowly straighten back up. Maybe not as straight and tall as before but never broken on the ground. Be like bamboo after a storm not like a collapsed pine or even an oak tree.
This is a very doable illness. It is never ending but with a little determination and strength it is entirely possible to live with it and live well. Think positively about what “YOU” can do to make your daily life better, happier and a little easier. Be careful who and how YOU” blame.
Royce
Your choice, it is always your choice
