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My mom passed away a week ago from dementia. She and I were very close. I am worried the stress from the loss of my mom will cause a relapse. I know it may be silly to worry about if it hasn't happened, but I feel very stressed out.

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Kenu

I don’t think there’s any thing silly about that. Loss of any family member can cause lots of stress and depression 😕. Try to stay positive and remember the good times 🤗. No harm in grieving a loss🙏😉🐾. Ken

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jimeka

I am so sorry to hear of your mums passing, it’s always hard when you loose a parent. You have to greive and let your feelings out, as holding them in will cause your self more stress. As Kenu says, remember the good times and now your mum is at peace. Blessings Jimeka 🦋 🤗

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kdali

I'm so sorry 😭💔 Your concern is not silly. I don't remember the stats on the chance of relapse, but I do remember reading it's usually within 6 weeks of losing a loved one. IF it even happens. I think I would have the same concern and be very worked up about all the what if's; work, meds, the kids, etc. Have you shared your worries with your family or friends?

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ssdw1958

Hi wizardsmom it is very stressful in loosing a parent but what ever you do don’t keep it bottle up in side of you. Let it out a good cry is a good thing.

I’ve lost my mom 26 years and my dad 20 years so I know what you are going through my mom was and will always be my best friend. And I’m sure a lot of people here know what your going through. But this may sound harsh you need to carry on. But I am sure your mom would want you to carry on.the stress will always be there don’t hide it just work with it.

Sandra

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I'm so sorry for your loss Wizardsmom . As everyone says, there is nothing silly about it. Your feelings are normal I'm sure.

All I can say is take it min, by min. Hour by hour, and day by day. 🤗💕 Know we are here for you to come to! Whenever.

Wrapped in the Wings of Angels, and Placed in The Hands of God ~

Jes🌠

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Midgey_Midge06

I am so sorry for your loss. I just lost my mom a few months ago. We were not super close but it was still very painful and stressful. I got into a huge fight with my family and didnt get to go to her funeral.

Point being, i am not on any DMD at the moment so i worried abot a relapse as well. I made sure no matter how sad or angry i got - i let it out. I cried for a month or more. (Mostly more).

I got the dreaded Hug. My regular symptoms flared but no relapse. I worked really hard to just keep breathing. Which is hard when ur ribs are trying to kill u. But just keep breathing. I talked to my mom out loud and asked for her help. I talk to her a lot cuz i know she can hear me. Even now i am crying! So i am not sure wen it gets easier but main thing is to breathe. Meditate. Whatever keeps u centered.

Message me if u need to. I can help by listening. We r all here for u. 💜💜💜💜

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greaterexp

I'm so sorry about losing your mom. You already have a lot of stress in your life right now. If there is grief counseling available, that may offer some suggestions for good ways to minimize the stress level so you don't have a relapse or even a pseudo-exacerbation.

You are surely in my prayers.

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RoyceNewton

Wizardsmom, I share your concern. My mother always tells me, "remember me son. grieve for me but hurting yourself does me no good. Remember that I love you and am with you and do not want to see you hurt when I can not help you. Be strong my child, I will always love you"

I will be strong for her when the time comes, can you be for your Mum?

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Wizardsmom in reply toRoyceNewton

Thank you for that perspective RoyceNewton . She wouldn't want me to be so sad...but it is hard.

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RoyceNewton

we can but do our best and hope our Mums are proud.

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janetb1968

I'm really sorry about ur loss of ur mum really am sorry and the stress is understandable xxxx I hope a relapse doesn't happen have u spoke to ur Neuro? I lost my mum in 2007 and my dad in 2009. Grieving has too happen otherwise things get bottled up and that's not good at all xxx ❤

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Amore55

I lost my mom and dad 18 days apart two years ago next month. It was so painful and I was traveling back and forth from Utah to Ohio where they lived constantly for three months. I too worried about a relapse and unfortunately it did happen. But our circumstances sound different, I was exhausted just from the air travel. My father was a very difficult man and I loved him dearly anyway. My mom had alzheimers for the last six years of her life. Just nourish your soul and your body. Rest. Remember the joyful times. It helps so much. You are in my prayers. God bless. Love, Kelly

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Wizardsmom in reply toAmore55

I live in Utah as well.

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Amore55 in reply toWizardsmom

Dear Wizardsmom, do you mind if I ask what part of Utah? I am in Salt Lake. Love to hear from you. 🤪 Kelly

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KC0808

I feel so much empathy for your loss. You will receive much sympathy and words of compassion which are all wonderful for they are coming from the heart. But please make an appointment with your doctor talk things out and if needed medicine is available to help with the stress and anxiety anything that will help ward off a relapse.

I truly wish you the very best.

Take Care of You :)

KC

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Midgey_Midge06 in reply toKC0808

Klonopin helped me a lot wen my mom passed away

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6092177588

Great insight from all. Peace you with memories that lift your spirits.

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DahlblomDriven

Sorry about your mom, loosing someone is hard. Expecially a parent. Try and relax and focus on the good as she wouldn’t want you to stress and be in pain. Hoping for the best, use oils and yoga to find strength and help. Talk with other family and friends and don’t hold it in dear 🌿

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Texandyroe

Nothing silly about that! Prayers for peace for you!

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