relationships

[greenpigeon]

I’m 18 years old and have been diagnosed with ocd for 6 years.

I’m currently so beside myself watching my friends have relationships and knowing I can’t have that.

I just really don’t know what to do. Not only does ocd ruin my life on the daily, but it also destroys any hope of anyone actually ever loving me.

Does any one else struggle with this or have struggled with this?

thank you

[LuvSun]

Hi greenpigeon! I have had contamination OCD for over 30 years and am married and have 2 adult children. You most definitely can be loved and in a relationship if that’s what you desire. Hopefully you are getting some help with your OCD.

[Sallyskins]

It's certainly true that relationships can be problematic with OCD. For a start, it means telling a new partner why some of your behaviour is a bit strange. And then, if it's contamination-related, sex or just touching could be a problem. And of course, OCD has an impact on those around you, including of course partners!

But don't let that put you off. Many people with OCD maintain relationships in spite of it, and a supportive partner can be a great help.

And another thing: although OCD is a pain, it can improve with treatment and can be manageable. No matter how overwhelmed you feel with OCD right now, you can learn to deal with it and feel much better. And that can make life so much easier!

Having OCD doesn't make you unlovable. It isn't all that you amount to. There is so much more to you than OCD.

So don't make assumptions about your OCD. It can put obstacles in your way, but it needn't stop you having relationships.

Make sure that you maintain an active social life (it sounds as though you do, as you have friends) and get out there as much as you can. It's difficult to be open about OCD, but try to be as open as possible about it - then it won't come as a shock or surprise to anyone. And remember, if a relationship doesn't work out, it doesn't mean you've failed - it just means that perhaps you weren't suited to one another. And try again!

[greenpigeon in reply to Sallyskins]

I’m trying a new therapy soon so fingers crossed. Thank you very much, given me hope that someone will eventually be patient with me.